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gdubs
This baby is awesome!
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Gina
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Would this bother you? UPDATE
**UPDATE**
So the ILs were here this weekend for my shower and when we asked if they wanted to see the nursery MIL responded with "We already saw it, [SIL] sent us a picture." It took several requests to get her to actually go look at the room. So freakin annoying. I learned my lesson and blocked SIL/BIL from being able to see the nursery album, this way I can still post pictures so my OOT relatives can see it and we can show the ILs when WE want to, not when SIL takes it upon herself to share with them. I did ask SIL not to share our photos with them in the future and she apologized and said she was just in a "sharing mood"  I do feel better now that I said something.
I posted some pictures of our nursery on Facebook... my ILs don't have Facebook but they are coming this weekend for my baby shower and I wanted to show them the nursery in person for the first time. I just found out that my SIL (we are not close, I don't particularly like her) took it upon herself to save the photos from Facebook and email them to MIL.
Yes, part of it is my stupid fault for posting them on Facebook but why would she think that is OK? I would never download pictures off of her Facebook page of her DD and send them to MIL.
I'm really bothered by this and want to say something, just asking her not to do that in the future. Would you say something?? I think if I don't say something it's just going to keep bothering me.
Message edited 12/10/2012 10:12:18 PM.
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JMG2010
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Re: Would this bother you?
You could just mention it to her. I dad shared EVERY photo on Facebook and it made me crazy. I actually ended up blocking him because it was just getting way out of control.
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| Posted 12/4/12 10:19 PM |
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edfilippi
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Re: Would this bother you?
You could mention it to your sil so you feel better. She might have been thinking that your mil doesn't have fb so she wanted to let her see the pictures also.
Would it bother me? Yes. Would I say something? Probably not because it just wouldn't be worth it if it blew up into an argument.
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| Posted 12/5/12 6:37 AM |
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Mrs213
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Would this bother you?
It would definitely bother me. I'd probably let it slide but then put her as an "acquaintance" on Facebook and then whatever pics I would make them for "friends except acquaintances" lol
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| Posted 12/5/12 7:35 AM |
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Re: Would this bother you?
I think it might bother me a little but honestly at this point I think people consider FB so public no one thinks twice about sharing things. I might say something but go into it with the assumption she was trying to be excited for you and share. And maybe next time, just post , Please Don't Share if you share something else. To be clear, DEF not saying you don't have a right to be upset but FB is just hard!
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| Posted 12/5/12 8:32 AM |
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jams92
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Re: Would this bother you?
it would bother me, but posting anything on facebook allows people to save, share etc anything you post.
i had a similar situation with my MIL...she is on facebook and she copied every single photo i posted of me and DH and shared them on her page so her friends could see. i HATED it but DH said...if its on facebook anyone can do it. in the end, we are no longer facebook friends but its not bc of the picture thing. she will be warned though if she does want to be friends agian that she is not allowed to share my photos (or tag herself in them!)
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| Posted 12/5/12 9:12 AM |
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jennielee15
Let's try this again....
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Jennie
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Re: Would this bother you?
I'm in the minority on this one...I would not be upset by this....She probably was tell your MIL that your nursery was soooo cool and then your MIL asked to see the pics so she sent them to her. They were on a public facebook page, where your MIL could have seen them if someone had signed on for her. I really don't think this is a big deal...
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| Posted 12/5/12 10:46 AM |
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luvmyReese
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Catt
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Re: Would this bother you?
this was 11yrs ago but I was told to tke
out. I didnt care b/c I once had one roll
into the back of my eye and that is
HORRIBLE to get back was not taking
chances.
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| Posted 12/5/12 10:48 AM |
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ndblovah
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Would this bother you?
100% yes but I agree w other posters, people tend to think what is on FB is for public knowledge and they can do as they wish. I am against anyone posting a pic of our new baby after he is born before me, so I get that FB can be quite annoying sometimes. Next time just exclude her from the posting for sure. You ILs will love the view of the nursery in person any how. Better than any pic 
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| Posted 12/5/12 11:16 AM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Would this bother you?
I'm sorry, but I'm going to disagree. Once you posted it on FB, it was fair game for your SIL to share. FB is public and you have to assume that once you post anything on there, that anyone and everyone can get access to it. If you wanted to do the unveiling in person for your in-laws, I would've waited to post the pics online until after everyone you wanted to show in person had already seen it.
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| Posted 12/5/12 11:20 AM |
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JB1122
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Re: Would this bother you?
Posted by jennielee15
I'm in the minority on this one...I would not be upset by this....She probably was tell your MIL that your nursery was soooo cool and then your MIL asked to see the pics so she sent them to her. They were on a public facebook page, where your MIL could have seen them if someone had signed on for her. I really don't think this is a big deal...
This.
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| Posted 12/5/12 11:49 AM |
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wishing2012
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Re: Would this bother you?
Normally it wouldn't bother me. I would actually take it as a compliment, assuming that she liked the nursery so much, she wanted to share it with her parents.
However, knowing your relationship with SIL makes this situation different and I can understand why you are annoyed. But, I probably wouldn't say anything, just to keep the peace.
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| Posted 12/5/12 12:19 PM |
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Sparrow
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Re: Would this bother you?
Yes, it would bother me. How I reacted would depend on my relationship with SIL. I think at the very least I would tell MIL and SIL that was really bummed out that I didn't get to share the nursery myself in person for the first time. I would add that I should be more careful about what I share on FB.
This is part of the reason why I'm so glad I got rid of my FB over a year ago and haven't looked back!
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| Posted 12/5/12 2:52 PM |
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MRsFaTThead
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Re: Would this bother you?
It would bother me. That's why I make it a point NOT to post anything on fb that I don't mind others sharing.
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| Posted 12/5/12 3:26 PM |
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gdubs
This baby is awesome!
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Re: Would this bother you?
Posted by Mrs213
It would definitely bother me. I'd probably let it slide but then put her as an "acquaintance" on Facebook and then whatever pics I would make them for "friends except acquaintances" lol
Good idea, I just changed the settings... I have relatives who will never come to NY so FB is the perfect place for them to see pictures of the nursery etc so I hate that she felt she had the right to do this without asking. Why wouldn't she think we wanted to show them the nursery ourselves. I didn't send MIL pictures of her nursery... and I wish I could say it was because she thought the nursery was "awesome" or she was "excited but that definitely isn't the case.
I just never would take it upon myself to send MIL a picture of anything having to do with her kid, it's not my business. Had she sent it to anyone else I wouldn't have cared... this just really irked me.
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