2WW Suggestions?

Hi Friends. I'm wondering how you all handle the 2WW. Based on friends' stories and some stuff I read on here, I know that getting a bfn can be very upsetting. Is there anything you girls do during the 2WW to try to deal with that? Do you work on totally putting it out of your mind? If so, how? This is my first 2WW, and I have been trying not to think about it. Daydreams come into my head especially about how I'll tell my husband and my family and what their reactions will be, etc. I tell myself, don't think about it because that's going to create more disappointment. But I think pushing these thoughts out might be affecting my sleep. I fall asleep just fine,but I wake up throughout the night and earlier than I have to in the morning. It feels like a little anxiety or restlessness. I'm just wondering what skills you guys might have picked up to deal with the 2WW. I expect AF on 12/4, so I just say to myself, don't think about it till then.

2WW Suggestions?

im sorry if this advice comes off sounding harsh and generic, but you absolutely HAVE to find ways to relax. i dont mean it in the way other people say "relax" and it will happen - i mean like you have to make it a point to NOT think about TTC. you have to find a hobby or get into work or meditate or do ANYTHING to distract yourself. you are in your first cycle and clearly from this post and your others, you have developed anxiety over TTC. i know its hard not to be able to totally plan and know whats going to happen. but focusing so heavily on it that you can't sleep really is a problem and will absolutely not help the situation. stress is bad for mommy and subsequently any embryo. i honestly feel like if pregnant women spent as much time relieving stress as they did avoiding cold cuts and cheeses there would be a marked lower percentage of colicky babies out there. make it your job to relieve stress. i started acupuncture for infertility (although it is great for all around health and regular TTC as well) and meditation. both of these really helped keep me relaxed and positive during my cycles. if those aren't for you try a hobby or throw yourself into work. go out with friends you haven't seen in a while. holiday shop. make a scrapbook...etc. find SOMETHING to occupy your mind. TTC will always pop in your head - it's unavoidable. but when it becomes an overwhelming focus, it becomes a problem. especially this early in the game. good luck!!

Message edited 11/25/2012 9:55:23 AM.

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There seems to be more pressure TTC than ever before. I hear you with the anxiety- I too am trying to relax more during the 2ww. I had a defective pg test two cycles ago and was very let down but am trying to not let it consume me. I have been going for more runs and doing little things for myself to keep my mind balanced. It helps! Good luck this cycle and try your best to enjoy the process!

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Totally agree with Pennycat and Flowerwife! I'm right along with you in this 2ww, but have found things to try to get my mind off it. I did some Internet shopping, went to Mass with DH, and I have to go coach CYO Basketball game and that's just today. My point is just preoccupy your self with other things and you will sleep much better.

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When I was trying for my second child, it took 4 cycles (I conceived ds#1 first try). I did have that frustrated feeling each month but I would just tell myself that it'll happen when its supposed to. I would relax with a cold beer actually, lol and remind myself that it can take a healthy couple a year to get pg.

good luck!!!

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Posted by PennyCat

Posted by FlowerWife

im sorry if this advice comes off sounding harsh and generic, but you absolutely HAVE to find ways to relax. i dont mean it in the way other people say "relax" and it will happen - i mean like you have to make it a point to NOT think about TTC. you have to find a hobby or get into work or meditate or do ANYTHING to distract yourself. you are in your first cycle and clearly from this post and your others, you have developed anxiety over TTC. i know its hard not to be able to totally plan and know whats going to happen. but focusing so heavily on it that you can't sleep really is a problem and will absolutely not help the situation. stress is bad for mommy and subsequently any embryo. i honestly feel like if pregnant women spent as much time relieving stress as they did avoiding cold cuts and cheeses there would be a marked lower percentage of colicky babies out there. make it your job to relieve stress. i started acupuncture for infertility (although it is great for all around health and regular TTC as well) and meditation. both of these really helped keep me relaxed and positive during my cycles. if those aren't for you try a hobby or throw yourself into work. go out with friends you haven't seen in a while. holiday shop. make a scrapbook...etc. find SOMETHING to occupy your mind. TTC will always pop in your head - it's unavoidable. but when it becomes an overwhelming focus, it becomes a problem. especially this early in the game. good luck!!

I 10000% agree............. The reality is, you don't know how long of a road you have ahead of you. You could be pregnant NOW .. you could be pregnant in a year from now ... Nobody knows. I just hit my 3 year point and I NEVER would have lasted this whole time if I stressed out over things so obsessively - and trust me .... pregnancy just becomes a whole new stressor, as does parenting.

Like FlowerWife said, you just really have to stay focused on other things.. Yes, you're ttc, but you're still a wife, friend, daughter, etc... Go do things you enjoy and you may find this process much more bearable than you do right now.

2WW Suggestions?

Thanks for the ideas. I will try the beer, meditation and acupuncture all at the same time and see if that helps. LOL JUST KIDDING. I will try them separately... I started sleeping good again the last few days, even though I'm still in my 2WW. Work has been stressful lately, and I hosted a huge group for Thanksgiving. Sometimes I'm not quite sure why I'm having anxiety -- I think it's all of it put together. I'm feeling better now that Thanksgiving has passed. A friend told me about a relaxation breathing class, but I haven't had the time to go. Maybe I should see when the next one is offered. Thanks for the help :)