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This is sad...but I have to ask
We got my dog Benji, a yorkiepoo, a year ago. He was fine with strangers coming into our house and then suddenly about 6 months ago he became vicious if anyone comes near us - on our property. If we are out and about walking, he's fine. But come into our house or near our property and he is insane. I mean absolutely vicious. He has bit 3 people now - my aunt, my next door neighbor and now my 3 year old nephew. (They were all fine - my aunt and neighbor on the finger tip and my nephew through his pants - didn't get the skin, thankfully). I love him to death but I am really scared he is going to hurt someone badly. I am thinking I may have to find him a new home without kids. Please I am not looking for flames...I am an animal lover, but I have young kids and I don't know what to do about this. My aunt also is a dog trainer and she had me put a choke collar on him and a leash when strangers come in. That does seem to work but then I am afraid to let him off the leash. My DH wants us to get rid of him even though he loves him too...he's just scared he will hurt someone. I think I know in my heart (even though it will break it) he needs to be in a kid-free home. Does anyone know of any resources for this? I really want to do the right thing here. I am not looking to just get rid of him...I want him to be happy too.
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I wanted to post an update. In late December we found a rescue organization near my house and met with them. Explained our situation. They evaluated Benji and agreed with us that he belonged in a different environment, where he would get more attention and with a family or a person who had time to train him. With heavy hearts we surrendered him to the rescue. I kept in touch with them and they said he was doing fine, running in the play yard with other dogs and having a good time. They emailed me yesterday to say he was adopted by a single woman who works from home...she said they got along right away and I feel like this will be great for him...someone home with him all day to give him lots of TLC :)
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This is sad...but I have to ask
Look into a Yorkiepoo rescue site. I know that's how my friend rehomed her dog. Have you bought him to the vet to see if there is an underlying medical condition? Or an at home trainer, not a relative. All of a sudden aggression might have been triggered by something you just aren't realizing.
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Re: This is sad...but I have to ask
I agree with the above poster.
Also...Google "Long Island dog rescue groups." Lots of names should come up. These are groups that work to help you rehome the dog...they are not shelters, so you don't have to worry about the dog being put down (as many alleged "no kill" shelters will do).
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Re: This is sad...but I have to ask
Posted by WannaBeAMom11
Look into a Yorkiepoo rescue site. I know that's how my friend rehomed her dog. Have you bought him to the vet to see if there is an underlying medical condition? Or an at home trainer, not a relative. All of a sudden aggression might have been triggered by something you just aren't realizing.
I have to agree- there has to be some underlying reason that he became aggressive all of a sudden. It's not something that happens overnight. Unfortunately, our dogs can't tell us what is wrong. I'd definitely look into a trainer first and use rehoming as a lest resort. It sounds like you really love your dog, I know you just want whats best for everyone. 
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Re: This is sad...but I have to ask
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I'd definitely look into a trainer first and use rehoming as a lest resort. It sounds like you really love your dog, I know you just want whats best for everyone.
I have to say I disagree. As someone above posted, please just go to a rescue. You have already posted about sticking your dog's nose in his poop/pee, etc, and it clearly seems this isn't working since now you say he is acting out and biting people.
And I truly truly dont mean to be mean or rude, but given your history since you rehomed your cats when your baby was on the way b/c they were peeing around and "acting out", I think in all honesty something in your home just isnt the right environment for a pet. I don't want to be rude, but the picture you paint for us seems to implicate the pets in your home are just not getting what they need, thus resulting in a cycle that goes around and around.
Honestly, please just see if a rescue will take this dog and please honestly do NOT get anymore pets. Pets take alot of work and if they don't get what they need they will act out. There are no guarantees with animals and if you keep finding reasons to rehome your pets, then clearly you probably just have too much on your plate to give them what they need. Like children, no one can predict what a pet will be like, and what it will need to stay on track. So it's seems best for you to rehome this dog to a rescue if they will take them, asap.
Again, dont mean to be rude but I honesty think YES, you should rehome the dog and honestly just do not get anymore pets.
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Re: This is sad...but I have to ask
My dog is so hot and cold with strangers and I have to keep him locked away when people are here.
We did use Best Friends Dog Training and that did help but to be on the safe side I still keep him away from guests.
I know what you are going through because we did consider irehoming him when i was pregnant, but I spoke with the animal shelter that I did volunteer work at and they said they would never rehome a dog that bit people. They would just put him down 
My dog is a poodle mix too - cockapoo
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Re: This is sad...but I have to ask
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I'd definitely look into a trainer first and use rehoming as a lest resort. It sounds like you really love your dog, I know you just want whats best for everyone.
I have to say I disagree. As someone above posted, please just go to a rescue. You have already posted about sticking your dog's nose in his poop/pee, etc, and it clearly seems this isn't working since now you say he is acting out and biting people.
And I truly truly dont mean to be mean or rude, but given your history since you rehomed your cats when your baby was on the way b/c they were peeing around and "acting out", I think in all honesty something in your home just isnt the right environment for a pet. I don't want to be rude, but the picture you paint for us seems to implicate the pets in your home are just not getting what they need, thus resulting in a cycle that goes around and around.
Honestly, please just see if a rescue will take this dog and please honestly do NOT get anymore pets. Pets take alot of work and if they don't get what they need they will act out. There are no guarantees with animals and if you keep finding reasons to rehome your pets, then clearly you probably just have too much on your plate to give them what they need. Like children, no one can predict what a pet will be like, and what it will need to stay on track. So it's seems best for you to rehome this dog to a rescue if they will take them, asap.
Again, dont mean to be rude but I honesty think YES, you should rehome the dog and honestly just do not get anymore pets.
I think you're actually being extremely rude. Who are you to judge their situation even based on something from their past. You don't know them or the whole story just a snippet from what they post on here. Your post comes across extremely judgmental and does not help them at all. Who are you to say they should not get another pet?
FTR I think that the OP should do whatever is takes to try to train the dog properly and not have to rehome their dog. I love my puppy dearly but if he started getting around people especially children and I had children of my own the dog would have to go no matter how much it broke my heart. I would do whatever it takes but sometimes you can't control an animal and it has nothing to do with their home environment. We got rid of a dog when I was a kid because it kept biting my sister. The man who adopted it said it never bit anyone ever again and was the sweetest thing. My parents had plenty of dogs again since then and never had the issue ever again.
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Re: This is sad...but I have to ask
On it's face the PP may come across as judgmental however, it may be a good suggestion for OP. I feel very strongly that pets are not disposable and this appears to be the third pet that she is looking to rehome. I had one cat that was fine by herself and I chose to add another. For two years now these cats cannot get along. My little sushi girl hisses at the new cat if he gets too close. In the beginning she was peeing on my laundry, in my song's room, pooping in the bathtub, etc. It was suggested I get rid of one of them. But I just can't. i rescued him from a kittyhood in a cage. I give Sushi prozac. It helps. I would never give my cats away because they act out.
That said, I do not fault the OP for feeling the need to rehome her aggressive, possessive dog. We have an obligation as parents to protect our children. For me, I would try a trainer before rehoming.
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Re: This is sad...but I have to ask
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I'd definitely look into a trainer first and use rehoming as a lest resort. It sounds like you really love your dog, I know you just want whats best for everyone.
I have to say I disagree. As someone above posted, please just go to a rescue. You have already posted about sticking your dog's nose in his poop/pee, etc, and it clearly seems this isn't working since now you say he is acting out and biting people.
And I truly truly dont mean to be mean or rude, but given your history since you rehomed your cats when your baby was on the way b/c they were peeing around and "acting out", I think in all honesty something in your home just isnt the right environment for a pet. I don't want to be rude, but the picture you paint for us seems to implicate the pets in your home are just not getting what they need, thus resulting in a cycle that goes around and around.
Honestly, please just see if a rescue will take this dog and please honestly do NOT get anymore pets. Pets take alot of work and if they don't get what they need they will act out. There are no guarantees with animals and if you keep finding reasons to rehome your pets, then clearly you probably just have too much on your plate to give them what they need. Like children, no one can predict what a pet will be like, and what it will need to stay on track. So it's seems best for you to rehome this dog to a rescue if they will take them, asap.
Again, dont mean to be rude but I honesty think YES, you should rehome the dog and honestly just do not get anymore pets.
I think you're actually being extremely rude. Who are you to judge their situation even based on something from their past. You don't know them or the whole story just a snippet from what they post on here. Your post comes across extremely judgmental and does not help them at all. Who are you to say they should not get another pet?
FTR I think that the OP should do whatever is takes to try to train the dog properly and not have to rehome their dog. I love my puppy dearly but if he started getting around people especially children and I had children of my own the dog would have to go no matter how much it broke my heart. I would do whatever it takes but sometimes you can't control an animal and it has nothing to do with their home environment. We got rid of a dog when I was a kid because it kept biting my sister. The man who adopted it said it never bit anyone ever again and was the sweetest thing. My parents had plenty of dogs again since then and never had the issue ever again.
I knew there had to be at least one who would throw rotten tomatoes at me...yes I had to rehome my cats 3 years ago. Do you know that it still physically hurts me to think of them? And that I tried recently to track them down to see how they were doing? I physically feel ill when I think of them. I do not want to give up my Benji..he is like a baby to me - but I have a 3 year old and I am pregnant with twins..what am I supposed to do with 2 babies crawling around? Or if my son wants to have friends over? Am I supposed to lock Benji away for the rest of his life when people come over? I don't think it's fair to US or HIM. I am trying to do what is best for the both of us. If you knew me or my husband at all you would know we are real animal lovers...it absolutely killed us to give up our cats and I was in tears the other day when I posted. It is extremely judgmental of you to say that my home is not a good environment for animals...for the record I also have an 8 year old Golden Retriever (Casey) who is well behaved, friendly, loved, happy.
I live in NJ not Long Island but I will look into some local rescue groups. And I am also willing to look into professional dog trainers. My fear is that what if we "train" him and he snaps one day...I'm scared of that. My husband and I are trying to do the right thing. Thank you to those of you who had positive advice, it is appreciated.
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Re: This is sad...but I have to ask
Not throwing rotten tomatoes but let's be real here. Please rehome the dog as you did your cats. Hopefully a rescue will take him. You state you are pregnant with twins. Even more so why this clearly isn't going to work and he would be better off elsewhere as well. I am not being sarcastic as I agree for his sake as well as everyone's, he would be best in a better suited home. As I said above as you well know animals are Animals and there are NO guarantees so find him a home and don't get Anymore. I would think by now it's clearly a lesson learned. And if it hurts your heart to think of your cats, as an animal lover it hurts my heart just as much to read about a third rehomed pet from the same home, whose future is unknown.
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Re: This is sad...but I have to ask
Goobster you are making me look like an evil person...which if you knew me you would know I am not. Trust me when I say my DH and I did not take rehoming our cats lightly nor do we take the situation we are in now lightly. Just so happens that when you have human children their safety becomes your priority.
If anyone knows of any poodle or yorkie poo rescues please let me know. I will not give him up to just anyone.
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I could never imagine getting rid of my animals and I know this is probably a very hard decision for you but I have to agree with Goobster that you should definitely try to re-home your dog for yours, and his well being. You mentioned that you are expecting twins and I imagine that if Benji is a hand full to handle now, it will only get worse for you once you have 2 new babies. I don't know anything about your past but 4 pets in total that need to be re-homed in 3 years, something doesn't sound right. I am not saying you are a bad person or not an animal lover, but, there are so so many animals that don't have homes and it breaks my heart. IMO, caring for an animal is a lifetime commitment and when life gets in the way, sometimes people don't have the time. Again, I am not trying to attack you in any way, and I think it's nice that you are trying to give him the best possible option if you need to give him away. But, as someone who volunteers and spends a ton of time with homeless animals, it really does sadden me when I hear these stories. Good luck to you and Benji and I will definitely look into rescues
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Goobster you are making me look like an evil person...which if you knew me you would know I am not. Trust me when I say my DH and I did not take rehoming our cats lightly nor do we take the situation we are in now lightly. Just so happens that when you have human children their safety becomes your priority.
If anyone knows of any poodle or yorkie poo rescues please let me know. I will not give him up to just anyone.
You keep mentioning your child. That has little to do with this it seems to me. The picture is much bigger. You rehomed your cats before you even had your child came b/c they were "acting" out and peeing around. Then you get a puppy, well knowing this dog/puppy can poop or pee around too as your cats did. You come on here a while back and post that your puppy/dog is pooping and peeing around, when he was still not even fully past puppyhood.
At that point, you mentioned nothing re aggression. You did mention you were sticking his nose in his pee and poop, and quite honestly, THAT will make a dog aggressive, to be treated with such a force and aggression. That is not a way to train and dog and I believe a few of us told you that. Now here comes the shocker...he is aggressive. Why is it not surprising that this comes after a post about sticking a dog's nose in his pee and poop? Sorry, the picture is clear to me. A) The dog hasn't been kindly and properly trained B) The dog became aggressive because he was treated with aggression (which I truly understand and believe was NOT your intention).
I also wanted to add, that the use of a choke collar alone on such a small dog is a very harsh way to try to "train" a dog. So between the sticking his nose in his poop and pee and using a choke collar, I hope you can rehome him very quickly b/c even though you care him, it just seems like it just isn't working out. Honestly your poor dog is probably acting out simply because he hasn't been trained properly and some of the "training" is downright cruel, even if that isn't your intention. Sadly now he pays the price b/c he has to go somewhere with a label that he is aggressive, when he may be in pain from the choke collar or just has learned aggression in the household.
Evil, no, too much on your plate or just not able to give him what he needs and it honestly sounds like he is becoming aggressive due to all of this. Any dog can lash out in aggression if they are not being properly trained and also are being treated with agresssion (again, choke collar is very aggressive and painful, esp on a SMALL dog and also is sticking a dog's nose in their poop and pee). Choke collars can CRUSH a dog's vocal chords, especially on a small dog. There is NO need to use a choke collar on a small dog by far. Not saying I think they are good for larger dogs, but small dogs, that is just insane that the dog could be that hard to control when it is that small.
Sorry again, just looking out for the dog. Forget about the fact that you love him. If you love him, try to rehome him asap and also hopefully it's someone who can properly train him at this point b/c he has learned to be a certain way from his living environment most likely. It's just very sad that he has limited choices of homes now due to his "aggressive" label that he will receive after responding to the training methods in your home.
And I don't know why you keep mentioning the safety of your child. I AGREE the dog should go, I beg you to give the dog another home asap b/c it just sounds like he needs proper training with love and care elsewhere. As I said above, for the dog's sake, as well as everyone's, if you "love" him, please set him free to a good home ASAP. And as I said above, chalk it up as a lesson learned for sure that animals are a gamble and it's not fair to keep taking that gamble if you know you can't see the animal through it's rough times and give it what it needs.
Your family comes first, that's fine. I understand. But with 3 pets who were pooping, peeing around and then acting out as a result, I can't imagine you would disagree that something just isn't working and it's not fair to an animal to give it a home if you well know you won't keep it if it does not act like a "model" pet. And remember, animals act out b/c of the way they are treated, trained, etc. You didn't just get 3 bad apples of the pet bunch. They likely responded to the household, the training methods, etc.
Good luck
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Re: This is sad...but I have to ask
You know what Goobster...I did not even read your whole post because you are insanely judgmental..you are so right, I am an evil person, truly evil...why don't you just take Benji because clearly you are holier than thou 
Please don't comment anything further because you are already painting the picture of me to be an a$$hole...which I am not..and I hope to God one day you are not in the same situation for people to come on here and make a sad situation WORSE. Yea I totally MADE HIM AGGRESSIVE. I sure did. On purpose.
Sorry you have to go through life as such a holier than thou angel...
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You know what Goobster...I did not even read your whole post because you are insanely judgmental..you are so right, I am an evil person, truly evil...why don't you just take Benji because clearly you are holier than thou
Please don't comment anything further because you are already painting the picture of me to be an a$$hole...which I am not..and I hope to God one day you are not in the same situation for people to come on here and make a sad situation WORSE.
Sorry you have to go through life as such a holier than thou angel...
I don't think you are an ahole. I don't think you evil. I just don't think you are in it for the long haul. You may have too much on your plate. Your family is your priority. That's fine. But the dog has rights too and he deserves a good home asap. I do hope a rescue can take him.
BTW, I would love love love to take him and all the other pets who need a home. But I know I have too much on my plate with my child and my 2 dogs, that I just would never take on another animal who would only suffer if I did not have the time or energy for one more.
Good luck
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Posted by CaseyGirl
You know what Goobster...I did not even read your whole post because you are insanely judgmental..you are so right, I am an evil person, truly evil...why don't you just take Benji because clearly you are holier than thou
Please don't comment anything further because you are already painting the picture of me to be an a$$hole...which I am not..and I hope to God one day you are not in the same situation for people to come on here and make a sad situation WORSE. Yea I totally MADE HIM AGGRESSIVE. I sure did. On purpose.
Sorry you have to go through life as such a holier than thou angel...
Goobster never said you were an azzhole, but she did bring up some valid points. The choke collar thing is horrible and I don't care if your friend is a trainer, a choke collar on any dog, let a lone a yorkiepoo is cruel. You can seriously hurt him so definitely reconsider using it please. It's not that she is saying that you made him aggressive but he might be acting out because he is not getting what he needs, and honestly, maybe it's just not something you are prepared to provide him with. I know from experience that Yorkie's need a lot of attention so maybe with your toddler and being pregnant, he is being left out. Again, not pointing fingers but there could be a million reasons he is acting out. Animals don't all of the sudden become aggressive unless something medically or emotionally is wrong.
Like I said in my original response, getting rid of him is probably what's best for you and him because you seem like you are done and he seems not to be getting what he needs. That is not to say you are purposely ignoring him, but maybe you aren't capable because you have other priorities.
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Re: This is sad...but I have to ask
update in first post
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What a great update!
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I'm very happy to hear that Benji has found a loving home, and I'm glad it was done through a rescue group...too many dogs end up in shelters.
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