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lulugrrl
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Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
So DH is dying to find out if he is going to get a little girl, DS really wants a baby sister, and since I have this "BONUS" baby coming, I too would love to have a girl.
I am having twins, and know from the Maternity 21 test that I have Y genes floating around, so there is at least one boy in there.
It's funny because if it was a singleton, I WANTED a boy, so I am super excited that i have another boy on the way..I love my son so much, and another one is such a blessing.
However, because I am getting this extra baby, I have hopes for a girl so I am not too outnumbered in the house, lol..and this is 100% our last pregnancy. We thought we were done with two.
Anyway, I keep wanting to delay going to find out gender because in my heart of hearts I just know its two boys in there, and I know I will love them both, but I kind of like holding onto the thought of being a girl mommy too...and I hate to think for a second I will be disappointed about one of my babies not being a girl and that I will never have a little girl of my own.
Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I was an only girl with 6 brothers, and that I see how much DH and DS want a girl in the mix.
Boy only mommies are you 100% happy..do you wish you had a girl?
Of course, having HEALTHY babies is my main NEED AND WANT...this girl business is just a little twinge inside of me...
Sorry this is long post...just on my mind, looking to see how other moms of same sex kids feel..do you still long to have what you didn't?
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Onemoretime
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
Maybe you should remain team 
I have boy already and really want a girl. I will be upset if I don't have a girl but know as soon as I see baby , it would not matter.
We will remain team
I love my guy so so much , of course and goes without saying. but I won't be 100% happy if I never have a daughter . Gender disappointment doesn't mean you don't love, cherish and adore the children you already have 
Ets: when I went for NT scan w DS I was so worried! The couple before me came out and the man was visibly upset. I was upset thinking there was something wrong w their baby. Turns out he was like that because he was having twin girls!
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| Posted 9/11/12 3:39 PM |
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babyvontheway
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
I don't have any other children and I found out today that I am having a  . I really wanted a girl, but no matter what the baby is you are going to love it.
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| Posted 9/11/12 3:43 PM |
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KD718
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
It won't matter in the end. When I had my DS, I was secretly hoping for a girl because I was so scared about being a boy mom. I felt the tiniest tingle of saddness when I did find out. I am very girly, not-atheletic and have always been a total girly-girl. Now that I have my DS - I must say I make an A-ok boy mommy (i shop for trucks, get the latest and greatest sneakers and have one fine dressed baby boy) and I am super excited to have a DS2 on the way. My boys will be 2 years apart and I have a feeling they will be the best of friends just like my sis and I who are also 2 years apart. As an added bonus, I have my very first niece (I have two nephews) coming this fall - and I have every intention of making sure she is a total girly-girl just like her auntie.
Find out now, you will get over it in no time and BTW I think 3 handsome boys is pretty awesome! You would be the queen of your castle!
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| Posted 9/11/12 4:28 PM |
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Priscilla10
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
I have a DS and I have the same worry (although I'm not pregnant yet lol) but my plan is to be team and when the baby is born, whatever the sex is it totally wont matter at that time.
Best of luck!
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| Posted 9/11/12 5:06 PM |
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WannaBeAMom11
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Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
I want a girl too and worry I will cry if I don't get a girl then will cry bc I'm crying
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| Posted 9/11/12 5:13 PM |
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justbeachy
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
I'll be honest. I wanted a boy. And I was slightly sad at first when I learned it was a girl (then felt totally guilty for feeling that way!!!). But I have to say that now I am beyond psyched for a girl. My mom is my best friend and I can't wait to share that same bond with her.
I'm glad I found out early - it has given me time to adjust. I think if I stayed team green and found out at delivery I'd feel super guilty when I learned it was a girl.
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| Posted 9/11/12 5:21 PM |
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Kate
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
I'm having my third boy. I was disappointed at every anatomy scan that showed I wasn't having a girl. I got over the disappointment in about 15 minutes each time.
I would rather find out ahead of time than risk being disappointed in the delivery room when my hormones are crashing and going crazy.
Don't ever feel guilty, either. I am close with my mom and wanted to have a relationship like that with my own daughter, but it is not meant to be.
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| Posted 9/11/12 9:35 PM |
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frio85
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
I would hope that everyone would be happy no matter what the sex is as long as the baby/babies are HELTHY!!!!
Thats what should matter the most!!!
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| Posted 9/11/12 10:02 PM |
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Chai77
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
I feel like gender disappointment is real and valid. I just had my second DS in May. I always so desperately wanted a DD. We are now considering going for a third, although my DH just does not understand why I so deeply long to have a girl. it's hard to explain. I am totally thrilled with and love my boys so much, I wouldn't trade them for a girl or anyone else in this world. But, I do still want a girl. I just feel incomplete. If I had my way, I'd keep trying until I had my DD. you're not alone!
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| Posted 9/11/12 10:33 PM |
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JMG2010
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
I was slightly disappointed when we found out we were having a boy. Reasons being because DH and I couldn't agree on a name to save my life and also my family is all girls so maybe I am just used to girls. When we got home from the sonogram I actually cried. The disappointment only lasted that day and now I am over the moon about having a boy.
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| Posted 9/11/12 11:14 PM |
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maybemommy10
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
I have twin boys. And am pregnant with #3, im not hoping for either. As long as this baby is HEALTHY and my LAST, I will be happy ! I am more of a boy mom, my boys will have another brother to play with and grow with, hopefully bond with , i already have EVERYTHING i need , so if its a boy, im ready.
I think gender disspointment is really common and NORMAL. before baby not after baby, so maybe you should stay team green so you won't have to experience it. once that baby comes flying out, it won't matter !
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| Posted 9/11/12 11:31 PM |
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mommyof3girls
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
I totally understand you. With my last pregnancy we stayed team because we were hoping for a boy since we already had 2 girls. When the time came we saw our little baby girl come out and we were so in love. Yes I do admit I was a bit sad because DH wanted a boy so bad. But that only lasted a few seconds. We decided that we wouldn't have any more although his dream was always to have a . To our surprise we got pregnant again and while we were very disappointed with the news, my DH hoped this time he would get his . Turns out we're having another  . Yes we we're very disappointed but when we saw her at the scan we again fell in love with our baby. I guess a was never in our future. We were destine to have lots of . This for sure will be our last.
It's very normal what you are feeling but as soon as you see your baby, you wouldn't image your world without or .
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| Posted 9/12/12 10:18 AM |
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Onemoretime
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
Posted by mommyof3girls
I totally understand you. With my last pregnancy we stayed team because we were hoping for a boy since we already had 2 girls. When the time came we saw our little baby girl come out and we were so in love. Yes I do admit I was a bit sad because DH wanted a boy so bad. But that only lasted a few seconds. We decided that we wouldn't have any more although his dream was always to have a . To our surprise we got pregnant again and while we were very disappointed with the news, my DH hoped this time he would get his . Turns out we're having another . Yes we we're very disappointed but when we saw her at the scan we again fell in love with our baby. I guess a was never in our future. We were destine to have lots of . This for sure will be our last.
It's very normal what you are feeling but as soon as you see your baby, you wouldn't image your world without or .
4 girls, wow! Share your secret bc I would love to have a baby 
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| Posted 9/12/12 10:29 AM |
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BBin2012
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
I think it's normal to want one or the other if you always imagined raising a or . I never imagined myself as a "boy" mommy, and admit I was shocked when we found out (cried, but it's an emotional discovery either way), and it took some adjusting. BTW very glad we found out ahead of time, and now I am so, so excited for him to arrive!!! ...ANY DAY NOW. Seriously, any day would be great.
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| Posted 9/12/12 12:52 PM |
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babyonthebrain
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
It goes without saying everyoen feels blessed when they are pregant no matter what you have. Obviously the MOST important thing is having a healthy baby. With that said......I have 2 boys, the only reason why I wanted another baby is because I want to try for a girl REALLY REALLY BAD!!!! If this baby is another boy yes there is no doubt about it, I will be dissapointed. There is NOOO WAY DH will try for a girl again. He is already talking about "getting neutered" lolol. It will probably take me a long time to get over it. When I found out DS #2 was a boy, I was dissapointed for a few months. I think MANY MANY women feel this way. I can't deny my feelings. I want a little girl in my life. I don't think I will ever feel complete if I don't. I will have to accept it if it doesn't go my way and of course I will love the new baby no matter what.
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| Posted 9/12/12 1:04 PM |
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Mama2Max
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
As they wheeled me in for the emergency c-section - my last words were, after all of this, it better be a girl. So - yes, I really wanted a girl. But, that being said, I love having a boy! With this pregnancy, we're team and yes, I would love a girl - but the joy of not finding out is that no matter what it is - you're thrust right into loving this new little being. If I were to find out and say it were a boy, I would probably be grumpy about it (I know, sad, but true).
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| Posted 9/12/12 1:05 PM |
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lulugrrl
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
Posted by frio85
I would hope that everyone would be happy no matter what the sex is as long as the baby/babies are HELTHY!!!!
Thats what should matter the most!!!
OF COURSE Healthy babies are my MAIN concern...I have been through having a child born very ill and almost losing him, it is not a nice place...and made my bond with him incredibly strong. This really should not even be in question!
Thanks everyone for your comments..this is a separate issue than the health of these babies, and I KNOW I will love each of my children the same no matter what!! However, all of this is also an emotional journey and I was just seeing if there were others that felt like me, that would be a little sad/disappointed, and what it felt afterwards, and knowing you will not have a type of relationship with a child you were hoping for.....will not change my love for the children I am blessed with. Thanks again to you all
I wish you all Happy, HEALTHY pregnancies and babies!!
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| Posted 9/12/12 2:19 PM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
I have 2 . We want 3 kids. I'd really love to have a girl next time. I adore my boys and cannot wait until my newborn gets bigger so they can play together. I'm so glad I gave my older DS a brother. I've always imagined having a daughter though so if that never happens, I'm sure I'll be a little sad at times.
I was Team with both pregnancies. When DH announced we had a son both times, there was no disappointment at all.
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| Posted 9/12/12 2:37 PM |
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lynnd126
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Re: Afraid I will be disappointed with sex of baby
Crashing. I was hoping for one of each and got two ds. Obviously means nothing to me now- my sons are my world. My desire to have a girl completely faded away fir whatever reason.
I just want to say that I think it's a bad idea to stay team green. If it is two boys and you feel the slightest moment of disappointment you will be marring the moment. Find out now and if you're a little disappointed then so be it. You'll get over it quickly just like I did and probably even realize that daughters mean dancing school and recitals are boring, lol.
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| Posted 9/12/12 4:23 PM |
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