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Hopeful2012
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DH is mad at me
So I'm only a few weeks pregnant and ive told my sister and 5 of my close friends. I couldn't help it I wanted to share with them because we plan to tell our family when we all go away next month so I couldn't tell any family members. DH is p*ssed I told my friends. Am I wrong for telling my friends? I told him I needed to tell my friends in case god forbid something happens I'll need a support system. Please let me know if anyone is on my side with this. DH is so mad at me  I can't wait to be 12 weeks already so I can shout it on the roof tops!!
Message edited 8/14/2012 8:56:07 PM.
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Linda1003
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Re: DH is bad at me
Tell hm this is supposed to be the happiest time of your lives... Telling friends isnt the end of the world and def not enough to be mad at ou about. Tell him to grow up and enjoy this wonderful time. Talk about sweating the small stuff!! Not cool to do to a pregnant person....
Ur should be mad at him for taking away the joy out of the situation.
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| Posted 8/14/12 8:53 PM |
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ANR1211
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Re: DH is bad at me
Maybe it's something you should have talked about first, but it's not that big of a deal. I've always thought -- you tell the people who you wouldn't mind knowing if something bad happened. Explain that to him. A support system is extremely necessary. I had a "miscarriage" at 6 weeks and I really counted on my family and friends to be there for me. I found out a week or so later that I was one of those very rare misdiagnosed miscarriages (I'm now 16 weeks!) and got to tell them the good news! It's amazing to have a support system and it's great to have people to talk to about your amazing news! Hopefully this fight doesn't last long 
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| Posted 8/14/12 8:56 PM |
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Hopeful2012
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Re: DH is mad at me
Posted by Linda1003
Tell hm this is supposed to be the happiest time of your lives... Telling friends isnt the end of the world and def not enough to be mad at ou about. Tell him to grow up and enjoy this wonderful time. Talk about sweating the small stuff!! Not cool to do to a pregnant person....
Ur should be mad at him for taking away the joy out of the situation.
thank you for your reply! He was like this with DC one but more nervous this time around. We are both so worried something could happen but we are so excited to give our DC a brother or sister. I think to he feels family should know 1st but we have a special way we are going to tell them all together. Ugh I'm so upset that he's mad:(
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| Posted 8/14/12 8:58 PM |
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Strawberry2468
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Re: DH is mad at me
Many of my friends knew before some family did. I told people I was comfortable telling as I went along.
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| Posted 8/14/12 9:07 PM |
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Hopeful2012
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Re: DH is mad at me
Posted by Strawberry2468
Many of my friends knew before some family did. I told people I was comfortable telling as I went along.
Am I crazy for telling friends at just 5 weeks How can't I not share something so exciting with CLOSE friends. And I might of went off the deep end and ordered a few maternity shirts and a pair of pants last night again is this really that bad?
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| Posted 8/14/12 9:11 PM |
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gina409
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Re: DH is mad at me
this is tough...i say that bc i told had a mc and did not tell again for next 2 and lost those
when we did ivf everyone knew so we told right away
i 100 percent get wanting the support system...but maybe he felt this decision should have been made together?
r u wrong? no of course not..nothing wrong with being excited and wanting to tell the world..i think people should if they want
he is prob just nervous/scared and now instead of being able to keep it inside for a few when he sees the friends they will be like omg yay congrats etc etc and maybe he was not ready for that
with all that celebrate! pregnancy is a wonderful thing! congrats! happy and healthy 9 months to you!
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| Posted 8/14/12 10:20 PM |
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mig
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Re: DH is mad at me
I would have gotten upset too if it wasn't discussed with me first. I totally agree with your DH but it's only because I'm the same way. We didn't tell family until I was 4+months and friends knew after that. My DH is the same way so it worked for us. If something went wrong, I'm the kind of person who wouldnt want to explain to anyone what happened and deal with it myself. Everyone is different.
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| Posted 8/15/12 6:57 AM |
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Hopeful2012
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Re: DH is mad at me
Thanks for the replies ladies! DH woke up this morning fine. We talked about it and he just asked me to not share with anyone else till we tell our families. He did say he was sorry for getting mad but he's very scared and feels if we tell to many people that's to many people we would have to share bad news of god forbid something happen. We say and talked all about it and I said I was sorry to but needed a support system because I'm very nervous too.
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| Posted 8/15/12 9:57 AM |
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moonmist09
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Re: DH is mad at me
Posted by mig
I would have gotten upset too if it wasn't discussed with me first. I totally agree with your DH but it's only because I'm the same way. We didn't tell family until I was 4+months and friends knew after that. My DH is the same way so it worked for us. If something went wrong, I'm the kind of person who wouldnt want to explain to anyone what happened and deal with it myself. Everyone is different.
this pretty much. we only told our parents when i was 8w and we started telling everyone else now that we are at 14w. i didn't feel comfortable telling anyone before then.
I'm glad he woke up feeling better this morning and that everything got resolved.
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| Posted 8/15/12 10:08 AM |
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mnm918
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Re: DH is mad at me
HOnestly my hubby wanted to wait and I felt like I need to tell my girlfriends cause they are like my sisters.. I tell them everything and could not hold it in.. He understood from that point on . we did discuss it together though so I can see how your DH might be a little upset that you didnt check with him first but your soooo excited and he shouldnt really be mad at you cause you just want to be able to tell the world the great news!!! I totally understand where your coming from!!!  Congrats!
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| Posted 8/15/12 10:21 AM |
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caps612
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Re: DH is mad at me
There was no way I could wait 12 weeks. All our family and friends knew right away. I wanted to celebrate with them and could not hold in the excitement. On the flip side, we also knew we would want their support if something happened.
I have never been a believer/follower of the 12 week rule!
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| Posted 8/15/12 10:45 AM |
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CarolAnn721
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Re: DH is mad at me
I didnt tell dh until i was 6 weeks...lol and i didnt tell any friends or fam until after 12...so i am no help,
but your dh should be happy and not be mador upset... i didnt tell my job until i was 5 months... i felt like i was pulling off a big secret...
ETA: i have seen way too many loses between friends and family and I just felt waiting until after the 12 week maek would be best for us
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| Posted 8/15/12 10:57 AM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: DH is mad at me
I see your husband's side. Telling people is a decision you both probably should have discussed ahead of time. I understand wanting a support system if you have a m/c but just b/c you didn't tell them early doesn't mean they wouldn't be there for you if something happened.
We told our immediate family right away b/c they knew we were going through fertility treatments. We started telling very close friends after the heartbeat, but I really didn't start telling people until after the NT scan when I knew the baby was healthy and the chance of m/c dropped dramatically. I'm 14w+ now and we're still just getting around to telling people now.
I know it's exciting to be pg, but I promise you that it's just as exciting to tell people at 5w as it will be to tell them later. This is a joint decision that you and your husband must agree to or compromise on.
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Ltdentway99
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Re: DH is mad at me
The way I see it, it's your body and you can tell whomever you want. G-d forbid something happens before 12 weeks, you will have support. Just don't tell his parents or friends. I listened to my DH about not telling certain people, but with others I will do what I want.
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