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cateyemm
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Inviting out of towners to shower
What's the etiquette on this? I dont want to invite them and they think I'm only sending an invite so I can get more gifts, yet I dont want to NOT invite them and they have hurt feelings, especially since I'll be inviting their family members who live closer.
Thoughts?
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springsandra
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Inviting out of towners to shower
I'd invite them. You never know if they're going to show up. It's up to them if they want to send a gift or not if they're not attending. I am a firm believer that a shower is not simply a call to have your hand out for gifts, but instead a celebration of mother and baby-to-be. It's not about the gifts. Those who think it is are going to be annoyed no matter what, so don't worry about them. It's the kind of negativity you don't need. Party big!
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| Posted 7/15/12 9:53 AM |
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waterspout4
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Re: Inviting out of towners to shower
Everyone invited to my baby shower was out of town as I was fairly new to LI and both sides of the family were OOT.
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| Posted 7/15/12 10:50 AM |
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Sparrow
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Inviting out of towners to shower
I had people drive 8 hours to come to my baby shower. If they're close family, invite them. They can choose to come or not and even if they want to send a gift. I even invited OOTer's to DD's 1st bday party. A few actually came but most didn't. Not many who didn't come send a gift for that occasion though (although they all did for the shower).
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| Posted 7/15/12 10:50 AM |
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EBG10
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Inviting out of towners to shower
I'd send the invite anyway. I don't think it would look like you have you're hand out.
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| Posted 7/15/12 11:19 AM |
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LiveItUp
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Inviting out of towners to shower
I invited people that are within reasonable driving distance, as far away as upstate, NJ, and PA, but not people who would have to take a flight to get here. I don't expect them to go to the trouble and expense of flying, renting a hotel, car, etc. for a baby shower. I figure if they want to send a gift for the baby they will, and I doubt they would expect to be invited to the shower.
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inc0gnit0
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Re: Inviting out of towners to shower
Posted by EBG10
I'd send the invite anyway. I don't think it would look like you have you're hand out.
ITA
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| Posted 7/15/12 1:03 PM |
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Cheeks24
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Re: Inviting out of towners to shower
Posted by EBG10
I'd send the invite anyway. I don't think it would look like you have you're hand out.
Agreed
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| Posted 7/15/12 1:19 PM |
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MrsKelly
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Re: Inviting out of towners to shower
Posted by springsandra
I'd invite them. You never know if they're going to show up. It's up to them if they want to send a gift or not if they're not attending. I am a firm believer that a shower is not simply a call to have your hand out for gifts, but instead a celebration of mother and baby-to-be. It's not about the gifts. Those who think it is are going to be annoyed no matter what, so don't worry about them. It's the kind of negativity you don't need. Party big!
i agree
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| Posted 7/15/12 2:51 PM |
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JDubs
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Re: Inviting out of towners to shower
this was my dilemma as well a few months ago... my mom told me not to send my cousins out of state an invite because it looks like i was fishing for a gift... but in the end i decided to send an invite for the heck of it, you never know if they may get offended.
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| Posted 7/15/12 4:02 PM |
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gina409
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Re: Inviting out of towners to shower
Posted by EBG10
I'd send the invite anyway. I don't think it would look like you have you're hand out.
ita
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| Posted 7/16/12 2:00 AM |
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WinterBaby13
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Inviting out of towners to shower
Send them! I always reverse the situation, if I had a family member or friend having a bridal or baby shower OOT I would want them to still invite me. I may not be able to make it depending on where it is but I would still send something and it's nice to know someone wants you to be there to celebrate these happy occasions!
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| Posted 7/16/12 7:16 AM |
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BBin2012
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Re: Inviting out of towners to shower
80% of my shower invitees were out-of-towners...I was surprised by how many actually came!
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| Posted 7/16/12 9:05 AM |
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MRsFaTThead
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WHO GIVES A POO WHO GIVES A FUDGE !!
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Re: Inviting out of towners to shower
Posted by gina409
Posted by EBG10
I'd send the invite anyway. I don't think it would look like you have you're hand out.
ita
same here.
i did it to keep my girls in the loop. they like getting stuff like that in the mail.
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| Posted 7/16/12 9:39 AM |
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Inviting out of towners to shower
As an OOT family member to my husband's side of the family I would be very hurt to not get an invite. WIll I go.....more then likely not, but I would like to be considered important enough that you would want me to be there. KWIM? When I had my shower I invited all of my family and dh's....in and out of town. I didn't let distance dictate the invite list. I drew the line at 2nd cousins and that was it.
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| Posted 7/16/12 12:20 PM |
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cateyemm
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Re: Inviting out of towners to shower
I asked my mom and MIL and they are leaning towards not inviting those who they know for sure most likely wont attend. I know one of my OOT cousins is definitely attending, we actually scheduled the shower around her coming to NY.
Thanks for your input!
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| Posted 7/16/12 12:25 PM |
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