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LoLaBlue
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I'm so sad
All weekend I have been crying. I cant shake the whole chemical pregnancy.
I have never been so happy to finally be pregnant and it was taken away so quickly.
We are lucky enough to have 7 frozen to do a FET but now I have anxiety that its going to happen again or that I wont get pregnant again.
All I want to do it cry 
I just need words of wisdom from you ladies to get me through this.
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Posted 3/26/12 8:20 AM  |
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01ellie
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Re: I'm so sad
it is very difficult to deal with....we try so many things, put our bodies thru so much just to get pregnant and when something goes wrong its devastating. Its normal to feel the way you do.
My first IVF cycle I was so excited thinking my only obstacle was endo so why would IVF work for me? then i got bad news...no embryos made it to freeze and that cycle didnt work. Going into the 2nd cycle I couldnt be as happy as I wanted to be because in the back of my mind i was thinking it wouldnt work.
I know its not the same as knowing you got pregnant but then miscarried...i'm sorry you have to go thru this 
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| Posted 3/26/12 8:49 AM |
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IAMMRSBROWN
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Re: I'm so sad
Oh my god, Im so so sorry. There are no words. 
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| Posted 3/26/12 10:09 AM |
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Kris828
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| Posted 3/26/12 10:10 AM |
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CindySN23
Stop, Think & Breathe...
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KMCGK
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Re: I'm so sad
You're absolutely allowed to cry. Do it. Let it out. Chemical pregnancies suck, early miscarriages suck. I promise- allow yourself to cry and you won't cry forever. When the tears stop, the healing begins. Try not to let the fear of another chemical or miscarriage hold you back. I've had a total of 6. I'm always honest with myself because the truth is, it could always work! And it did! Rather than be weakened by the pain or the fear, I became stronger, more positive, and each cycle changed me and the way I view myself. Be proud of yourself for facing your fear
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| Posted 3/26/12 11:02 AM |
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PennyCat
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Re: I'm so sad
Posted by KMCGK
You're absolutely allowed to cry. Do it. Let it out. Chemical pregnancies suck, early miscarriages suck. I promise- allow yourself to cry and you won't cry forever. When the tears stop, the healing begins. Try not to let the fear of another chemical or miscarriage hold you back. I've had a total of 6. I'm always honest with myself because the truth is, it could always work! And it did! Rather than be weakened by the pain or the fear, I became stronger, more positive, and each cycle changed me and the way I view myself. Be proud of yourself for facing your fear
This 100% ...
I also want to share you just NEVER know what's in store for you. I lost my baby in the 2nd tri .. went on eventually to conceive triplets... Yea, I lose them- but still you just never know what's around the corner.
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| Posted 3/26/12 11:11 AM |
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ShhhTTCin11
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Re: I'm so sad
Let yourself cry. Chemical pregnancies are horrible. It is a tease - especially when you are going through such extreme measures to get pregnant. . .you finally see what you wanted to see and hear good news and it is taken away from you so quickly.
I'm really sorry you have to go through this. We had a chemical after our first IVF cycle, as well, and I convinced myself that I was NEVER going to get pregnant. We got another BFP the next IVF cycle and this one stuck. My RE actually said that chemical pregnancies are sometimes a good sign because it shows that your body at least started the process of pregnancy. I hope the same happens for you and that you're next cycle gives you a sticky BFP. 
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| Posted 3/26/12 11:25 AM |
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TyReseGreen
Lil Prince is here
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Re: I'm so sad
! I know it can be frightening to do another transfer after a loss, but I am here if you ever want to chat.
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| Posted 3/26/12 11:38 AM |
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LoLaBlue
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Re: I'm so sad
I am SOOOO lucky to have this board & I am so lucky to have you girls.
I honestly dont know what I would do if I didnt.
I just feel so beat up, life is just so unfair.
I just want to and need to cry...ALL the time. I know I need to be positive and move fwd, I just dont know how.
All I want is to have a baby..why is life so hard?
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| Posted 3/26/12 11:58 AM |
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wantabuninoven
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Re: I'm so sad
It is unfair. I ask myself all the time what we all did to deserve this. My heart breaks for you. But, just try and be hopeful and glad that you have 7 more left!
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| Posted 3/26/12 4:55 PM |
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ShhhTTCin11
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Re: I'm so sad
Posted by LoLaBlue
I am SOOOO lucky to have this board & I am so lucky to have you girls.
I honestly dont know what I would do if I didnt.
I just feel so beat up, life is just so unfair.
I just want to and need to cry...ALL the time. I know I need to be positive and move fwd, I just dont know how.
All I want is to have a baby..why is life so hard?
It will be easier to move forward once you start the new cycle... It absolutely isn't fair. Having 7 frozen is great - I hope this next cycle goes better.
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| Posted 3/26/12 6:20 PM |
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Journey33
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Re: I'm so sad
Posted by ShhhTTCin11
Let yourself cry. Chemical pregnancies are horrible. It is a tease - especially when you are going through such extreme measures to get pregnant. . .you finally see what you wanted to see and hear good news and it is taken away from you so quickly.
i totally agree with this. it's aweful no matter what stage it happens. How did I miss that this happened? Im so so so sorry hun!
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| Posted 3/26/12 8:44 PM |
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babyfaith
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Re: I'm so sad
I had 2 chemicals during IF treatments before finally getting PG with DD from IVF. I am now 37 weeks PG with DS from a FET. It will happen!
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| Posted 3/26/12 8:47 PM |
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gina409
TWINS!
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Re: I'm so sad
i am so so sorry you are going through this
chemicals suuck bc it takes u from such a high to such a low so quick u cannot keep up
let your mind and your heart heal..
allow yourself to cry,to feel sad..it is ok
as for fear..i have it everyday..i do not want to have a 4th mc..but i will chance it every single day for as long as i can for the chance of finally having my baby
please fm me if u want to talk
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| Posted 3/26/12 9:34 PM |
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babyttc
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Re: I'm so sad
Girl i feel for you. I know MC sucks so bad but you have to be strong to make it. Infertility in general sucks. I have 6 BFN and one MC before i finally got my bundle of joy early this yr. So yes take time cry it out scream out loud dont hold it in. then the healing starts. But you have to be strong for you and always rememeber what your goal is-- to hold that baby in your hand. If you reach that poing start the journey again and dont look back at what happened. take every cycle as a new one till you get that baby. I know easier said than done but i have been ther girl and now am blessed with a son. I will keep praying for you girl.
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| Posted 3/27/12 8:20 AM |
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LoLaBlue
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Re: I'm so sad
thank you ladies, your words mean so much to me 
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| Posted 3/27/12 8:23 AM |
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Irishgrl1017
It happened :)
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Re: I'm so sad
I am currently 12 weeks from a FET! I know how emotional this can be, hang in there and it WILL happen for you. I really tried to stay as positive as I could...thinking of u
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| Posted 3/28/12 7:21 PM |
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gina409
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Re: I'm so sad
how you holding up!
thinking bout you
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| Posted 3/28/12 7:51 PM |
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