Stay At Home Dads?

DH and I were discussing this after meeting a SAHD in our apartment complex. This guy seemed like the happiest person in the world, and was so cute playing with his 2 little girls. DH expressed interest in being one after we have a LO, but idk how I feel about this. I always pictured me being the one who would stay home, but we talked about how I am typically the "bread maker" in our relationship, so it made more sense for DH to stay home, at least for the first few years. I'm afraid it may be hard for him to get back into the work world after taking such a long break kwim? Maybe I'm being irrational or sexist or what not, but this is still kind of bothering me and I don't know why lol.

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I think it would bother me a little bit too but then I'd get over it. I think it would mostly bother me because I want to be the one to stay at home with the kids and would kind of get jealous if I wasnt

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That's a tough one. It would be nice to come home to a clean house, a cooked meal, and folded laundry. However, I think I would rather have DH be the bread winner. Plus, I like stuff around the house done MY way and DH couldnt cook a meal to save his life

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I could have written this! We talk about it all the time because DH would LOVE to be a SAHD. Honestly, he's much better at all the house things.. like shopping, etc. DH even helps me clean! i also happen to love my job and see myself being a working mom. Although I make slightly more, the difference is not significant at all.
I do hear you about feeling weird about it... only because I always imagined being the one staying home. As time goes on though, it seems a bit more practical to have him at home. Time will tell though...

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I know a couple where the husband stays home and his wife works full-time. She actually was the one who said she wanted him to stay home with the baby (now 2). She explained to me once that she loves working and could never see her life without work. He is an awesome dad! He knows everything and anything there is to know about the baby and is amazing to watch with her. I heard that he caught some flack for being a SAHD but really, it's a decision for the family and no one else's business.

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Thanks for the input ladies. I'm still waiting for that BFP, so I'm sure things will change once we're at that point in life. It was cute though seeing DH really showing some interest in helping out. I can't wait to make that man a father

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We've actually talked about this since I carry the health insurance...

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I don't know if I could do it simply because I'd be so jealous of him, whether it made financial sense or not.

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DH's job allows him to be home a few days out of the week so to some extent, he will be a SAHD. I'll be completely honest, I became very jealous (mind you, we don't have any DC yet) at the thought of him having this option and not me.

Part of the prob is 1) I hate my job, its a job that I got just so I could go back to school and get my masters in Education. 2) I never knew I wanted to be SAHM until I got my BFP (which ended in MC).

We discussed it and agreed that we were going to have to make some changes. When the day comes, I will prob have to work at least PT but I don't mind that. To OP, I think your reaction is totally normal.

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My dh IS a stay at home dad. He loves it, I love it. I come home to dinner everynight and a clean home. No regrets and no jeolousy on my part. I feel very comfortable when im at work knowing i am supporting my family finacially and my dd is getting awesome care from my dh throughout the day. It is the best situation for us

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