Do you ever feel like it's just not meant to be?

It's been 2 years with one loss, We've done multiple failed IUI's... not sure about going back for more b/c it's so draining...Petrified of IVF because Im terrible with meds....Ins also doesn't cover any of it. We've discussed adoption and started reaching out. Not one agency has returned my calls (I called 3 places!) I know many women have gone through more to finally meet their lo, I just feel like sometimes the universe is telling us it wasn't meant to be.
At what point do we throw in the towel, Im exhausted! Just ready for a new chapter already and I'm STUCK!
Why does it have to be so difficult?

Re: Do you ever feel like it's just not meant to be?

Posted by CatNYC123

It's been 2 years with one loss, We've done multiple failed IUI's... not sure about going back for more b/c it's so draining...Petrified of IVF because Im terrible with meds....Ins also doesn't cover any of it. We've discussed adoption and started reaching out. Not one agency has returned my calls (I called 3 places!) I know many women have gone through more to finally meet their lo, I just feel like sometimes the universe is telling us it wasn't meant to be.
At what point do we throw in the towel, Im exhausted! Just ready for a new chapter already and I'm STUCK!
Why does it have to be so difficult?

Re: Do you ever feel like it's just not meant to be?

i can 100 percent relate!!!!!!!!!!

we r about to begin our 7th iui..17 months in total trying..

i am really on the edge here lol..i just am so tired of dissapointment month after month..

i am even more scred bc i feel like if ivf does not work for us then what..

i dont think we could afford a surrogate or adoption(looove when people say well adopt like its such a easy process or its cheap)

i use to be sooo sure that it had to happen because we wanted it sooo much..how could it not

but i just do not know any more..this whole thing questions my faith every day

i have no idea why it is so difficult..and sometimes in real life i feel so alone bc nobody in my day to day life has gone throug this
i am rambling..i need to stop..all i can say to you is we keep going..we never stop trying even on the days we feel like crap and want to give up...why,cause in the end it is all worth it

sometimes perfection just takes a bit longer..fm me anytime u want to talk

Re: Do you ever feel like it's just not meant to be?

Just wanted to send you all some hugs !

I know how hard the TTC journey can be, it took us 17 cycles and Clomid/IUI. You gals have had it harder than me but I do understand the pain you feel and I'm so very sorry.

I wish I had advice or at least a magic wand!!!!

Re: Do you ever feel like it's just not meant to be?

After a 17wk loss, a chemical, and then the loss of my triplets, all within one year, I feel like if we gave up now it would mean all my suffering was for no reason I keep telling myself there is a miracle waiting!!

Re: Do you ever feel like it's just not meant to be?

"suffering for no reason".. now the stubborn side of me totally gets that!
Im trying to stay hopeful I just dont know what the next step should be.. if any. The dr did tell me that our chances are good but to finally get there... there is such a rediculous roller coaster of emotions. Im not buiilt for this.
Thanks girls... it really does help to hear your kind words.

I guess Ill wait for af to show (today or tomorrow) and reach out to the Dr. BTW, tomorrow is dh's bday and also the day I planned on telling him Im pg because once again, I was convinced that it worked.... how naive!

ok pitty party over.

Re: Do you ever feel like it's just not meant to be?

Posted by gina409

i can 100 percent relate!!!!!!!!!!

we r about to begin our 7th iui..17 months in total trying..

i am really on the edge here lol..i just am so tired of dissapointment month after month..

i am even more scred bc i feel like if ivf does not work for us then what..

i dont think we could afford a surrogate or adoption(looove when people say well adopt like its such a easy process or its cheap)

i use to be sooo sure that it had to happen because we wanted it sooo much..how could it not

but i just do not know any more..this whole thing questions my faith every day

i have no idea why it is so difficult..and sometimes in real life i feel so alone bc nobody in my day to day life has gone throug this
i am rambling..i need to stop..all i can say to you is we keep going..we never stop trying even on the days we feel like crap and want to give up...why,cause in the end it is all worth it

sometimes perfection just takes a bit longer..fm me anytime u want to talk

Re: Do you ever feel like it's just not meant to be?

I've just started on my TTC journey so I haven't experienced any of this myself yet but I have a few close friends who have. It must be so hard to stay positive but I hope all of you can. I know I'm not alone when I say I will be jumping up and down for you girls when you get your BFPs