Knowing you were ready?

Not sure if this is the right board to post this on; but how did all you ladies know you were ready to start TTC?

Sorry if this question has been asked a million times before!

Message edited 7/19/2011 11:27:01 AM.

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we were dating 2.5 years when we got engaged (right before that I sold my co-op and bought the house WE would live in after we got engaged). So at 2.5 years we started living together. Got married at 3.5 years We said once we got married we would wait 1 year to start trying cause we has so much stress and were always saving for house and wedding stuff for most of our relationship and we wanted to go on trips, etc without me being pregnant and have an "US" year. We did that, we really had such a fun year! But I am gonna be 32 and he 33 and we don't want to wait anymore... June was our 1 year anniv and we are TTC now.

Our rule was... we don't want to say we had kids too soon and that we missed doing stuff for US. We can't say that now!


ETA: I was ready emotionally a long time ago... I think DH needed the year to mentally prepare even tho he agreed that a year was good if gave him to let it sink in! haha

Message edited 7/19/2011 11:32:33 AM.

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I hate to be cliche but, you just know It was just something that came over me where I was like, "I want a baby, now!" Am I financially really? heck no... but emotionally and physically I am. DH and I want this so bad...so, you just know Good luck!

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this is going to vary couple to couple and how they feel at that point in their life... Despite dating DH for 8 years before we got married, we agreed wanted to be married for at least a year, travel to a few diff places and just enjoy being newlyweds before we decided to try.

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It was just a feeling. We dated for 6 years and got married 2 years ago. Are we financially ready? HHHEEECCCKKSSS noooo but if I keep waiting to buy a house, and have no bills, and have extra money to throw away on whatever I like, then I will not be TTC until I am like ready to collect Social Security.

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After being together for more than a decade and then recently getting married and our age we feel is time! We are surrounded by alllot of family with kids. You have be absoultey sure you are ready! Just be certain that both you and DH are committed to this and want this at this moment. It would be hard if one wanted it now and the other one wanted to wait a little longer.

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Like Betty said, you just know.
It's funny bc in the past I didn't even think I would get married, let alone have children. Then I met DH and everything changed.
We originally said well wait a year (which is also what we tell everyone, as we get asked probably once a week!), but now we just stopped being carefull and seeing where it takes us.
Are we financially and emotionally ready?? NOPE. But I'm trying not to let that hold me back

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DH and I dated for 8 1/2 years before we got married and we agreed that we'd wait about 4/5 years or when we are 30 and see where it takes us. We just celebrated 4 years of marriage and we are both turning 30 this year. We knew we both wanted children, but sometime last year I had the urge to have children real bad. We talked about it and decided to wait one more year until this summer. After being with DH for almost 12 1/2 years - I think it might be time! We are both very excited!

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DH and I have been married 2 years and dated almost 8 years before we got married. We knew we wanted to wait 1 yr. However, I am ready now and would love to TTC now but DH wants to wait 1 more yr. While having to wait 1 more yr. is KILLING me, it is still exciting to know that next year at this time I could be pregnant.

As the pp said, I would never push DH to have a baby when he wasn't ready. I would never want him to resent me or our baby. I know he wants children and in the grand scheme of things 1 yr. isn't too bad...time is flying already

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There was one specific trip I knew I had to take before we started trying. My husband was ready and I kept saying "after the trip." Well, we took that trip, and a few years later I still wasn't ready.

We've been married for several years now and just started trying last year. I knew I was ready because I started to picture a baby with us in so many things that we did—I was never one to do that before. If we were out for a bike ride, we'd end up talking about how cool it would be to have a baby strapped on the back of one of our bikes, if we were walking around a carnival... if we were at the beach... if we were planning a weekend away... you get the idea. We used to feel like we couldn't picture a baby in our lives, we go out a lot and like to be active, but now we picture doing all these fun things with a baby.

So I guess at some point our mentality just shifted.

We've been trying for a year, and of course, I now wish we started trying sooner. But all in good time.

Message edited 7/19/2011 4:26:56 PM.

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Our bioligical clocks started pounding about the same time. I am terrified about raising a child but I can't think of anything else but being a mom. I just wish it wasn't taking us so long to get pg.

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I was ready for a few months before TTC and kept having "discussions" with DH about it every time of the month. Finally DH surprised me and agreed to start trying.
Me: 32 (tic toc)
DH: 28 (not yet)

You will "know" when you're ready and you will prob never be financially ready.

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I don't know what happend..all of a sudden it was like I want a child..we talked about it until we were blue in the face..waited..started..waited..
now we are just going for it

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Posted by bettybcafe

I hate to be cliche but, you just know It was just something that came over me where I was like, "I want a baby, now!" Am I financially really? heck no... but emotionally and physically I am. DH and I want this so bad...so, you just know Good luck!

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Posted by gina409

Posted by bettybcafe

I hate to be cliche but, you just know It was just something that came over me where I was like, "I want a baby, now!" Am I financially really? heck no... but emotionally and physically I am. DH and I want this so bad...so, you just know Good luck!

ita..just something we knew we wanted even before we got married

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me and my husband have been together for almost 4 yrs and living together for 2 years. We have only been married for 2 months but since we have been living together for 2 years we both want a baby so bad so its the right time for us

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I have no idea if I'm ready but we are TTC . I just figured I'm not getting any younger, DC is already 4 so it's time. I don't think I (we) will ever be really ready .... My clock is certainly not ticking , I waited for it to go off, but nothing. I do have to say now that we have started I'm very excited . We'll see, hoping for the best ...

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Thanks everyone!!

I accidentally deleted my background in my original post but DH& I have been together 7 years (dated 5, engaged 2) but only married 3 months. We've been talking about starting a family for a while. But I keep saying we should wait till we're married longer but I honestly can't say what we're waiting for!! We have good jobs our home and lots of family around to help. The desire to start a family is stronger than any reason we can think we should wait any longer! Plus I have heard too many stories of it taking people months to conceive so i'm thinking we shouldn't wait around any longer for this so called perfect time I have in my mind b/c no matter where we are in life or how long we've been married we'll never be 100% "ready"

We talked about it and I have my gyn appt next month where i'll have the conversation of what I need to start doing to prepare my body and hopefully we'll start ttc by the end of the year!

Message edited 7/24/2011 4:21:28 PM.

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For starters, we are not getting any younger. We kept putting it off because we got married young (according to many people), but at this point we have been married for several years and decided to give it a try. I wanted to wait until weddings and what not were done, but then I realized I can not keep putting my life on hold because of other people.

Plus, this year it felt like every person I know was pregnant. This definitely increased the baby itch. Hopefully, it will be our turn this year...

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With my first, I just knew. Now, my age is playing into the decision to have a second. Since we will probably have 3 I would like to be done by 35.

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I wasn't totally sure we were ready... but then I had my first BFN .. and the disappointment of it told us we were ready for sure!!

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DH and I have been together for 4 years, living together for 2, and married for 3 months. We wanted to wait until we were married for babies, but we started "trying but not trying" since january. We've really begun the process since April (taking prenatals, temping etc).

I agree with the others, you just know when your ready.