need help with coping skills

I am at work and feel like AF is coming. I really had high hopes for this month. I have to make some decisions because I already have bills piling up with my lack of fertility insurance. I have a busy weekend coming up and a baby shower and I dont feel like I can cope. Can someone please give me advice how to get through on days like these. I just feel like I wont be able to get out of bed.

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well first off, not to give you false hope but don't jump to any conclusions yet. I thought AF was coming too full on but it was pregnancy cramps. They feel very similar. It could be ok. I am hoping for you that it is ok.

On the other hand, I know how you are feeling about not wanting to get out of bed or even leave the house. Even worse, go to a baby shower for someone else. I dont know how we can be so strong when we are so broken inside. Somehow it just happens. I was so upset knowing that everyone around me (all of my friends) got pregnant the same time and all have the same due date. I had to tell myself that my time will come. Its just taking a little bit longer. My happiness will come in some way. I hope it helps you to know that you are not alone and thay so many people on here are hoping for nothing but good things for you. We are a very unique group of women. We are so strong and we have been put on this crazy rollercoaster that none of us ever would have chosen to be on nor would we wish it on our worst enemy. My DH always reminded me of the things that we DO have. We are in our 20's, own a house, have a crazy dog, have a family that loves us, and we even own a business. Not many people can say the samething. I am sure there are many things in your life that you can be thankful for and say "hey, at least I have...." Thats what helped me.

Sorry for rambling on and on...

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i may be in the minority here but for me when i feel hopeless, i really just let myself feel it. i make a deal with myself that i will allow myself to feel that way for one day (or one night) and then the next day i will start to look at all the GOOD things i have in my life. maybe it sounds crazy, but it helps. sometimes i tell DH, "i got AF, i'm sad, i'm angry, i'm frustrated and when i come home tonight i'm sitting my butt on couch, eating chocolate ice cream and feeling sorry for myself" and that is exactly what i do! just for one night. i find that if i let myself just wallow in it for a short amount of time, then it's somehow easier to go put a smile on my face for things like baby showers, family gatherings, etc.

i'm sorry for rambling too! i say tonight you just let yourself have a night to yourself! feel better

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I just got AF
Thanks for the advice.

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Posted by wantabuninoven

I just got AF
Thanks for the advice.

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Posted by keepingsecrets

i may be in the minority here but for me when i feel hopeless, i really just let myself feel it. i make a deal with myself that i will allow myself to feel that way for one day (or one night) and then the next day i will start to look at all the GOOD things i have in my life. maybe it sounds crazy, but it helps. sometimes i tell DH, "i got AF, i'm sad, i'm angry, i'm frustrated and when i come home tonight i'm sitting my butt on couch, eating chocolate ice cream and feeling sorry for myself" and that is exactly what i do! just for one night. i find that if i let myself just wallow in it for a short amount of time, then it's somehow easier to go put a smile on my face for things like baby showers, family gatherings, etc.

i'm sorry for rambling too! i say tonight you just let yourself have a night to yourself! feel better

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I agree with PP who allow themselves one day to wallow in it. That's what I've always done. Then I brush myself off, put my big girl panties on and move forward.

As for the baby shower... It sucks, but just because she is having a baby doesn't mean you won't. It has nothing to do with you, really. It isn't like there are only a certain amount of babies given out per year and that this lessens your chances of getting one. I don't mean to sound callous, but what I'm telling you is that you need to try to separate yourself from the situation.

Feel better and I'm sorry about AF.

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Posted by wantabuninoven

I just got AF
Thanks for the advice.