I am terrified of any choice I make

I know my dh and my dr would be supportive of euither decision I make so I don't think thy will be much help in figuring this out. I thought I was coping well since my mc but now I am crumbling bad. I will soon be 36 and no kids. My odds of having a baby are 5 percent. And yups I have had tonnnnnnns of second opinions. I have tears ib my eyes right now. I feel like puking when I think of ttc again and shots pills creams bfns or blfps that go to mncs. But I also feelk sick about should I maybe give up surrender and stop rhe pain and tey to accePt or even enjoy a childfree life? Part of me wants to take the summer off ttc for stress reasons but then tiotally worried of wasting any precious eggs. I want a crystal ball to tell me what to do. Ty foir listening

Re: I am terrified of any choice I make

I'm sorry...I do not have much to say except

Re: I am terrified of any choice I make

I'm really sorry It suck$ that this is what IF does to us.

I did take time off. I took off from May to August last Summer and I really couldn't afford the time either at 42 with 3 failed IUIs, 2 failed IVFs and 2 losses behind me. After being told that DE was our only solution I took a few months to not think about our options, then think about all our options, gather information on adoption, DE, donor embryos and talk with my DH about it till I was blue in the face.

I honestly think it would be very difficult to make a decision at this stage, especially after a loss. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Take time to clear your head first and then think.


I have been there and went through it all for 3 years so I'm here if you ever want to talk.

Re: I am terrified of any choice I make

I know I am not in the same boat as you but DH and I decided we weren't trying anymore. We were waiting for our IVF cycle. I wasnt thinking about it, wasnt hoping for it and it happened. We dont know how, but it did. Good luck.

Re: I am terrified of any choice I make

I know how you feel!!