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MrsCampos10-01-10
Jovani Edward is HERE!!!
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? About Moms- sorry, long
So, I think I'm probably alone here but I'd like to hear your thoughts..
My mom is totally not on board with DH and I TTC. She's said things like "you're so young", "you have so much time", " you should have alone time with DH first", and my favorite "you can't put it back"
I know this makes her sound horrible, she's not a horrible woman. She's said these things in passing. And regarding a friend my age who got married the same time as me is now preggo, to that she said "that was quick"
She doesn't know that we've decided to start TTC, but she knows we wanted to late this yr/early next.
Some of you may be thinking that she prob has reasons for us waiting, but I'm 26 DH's 31. Both have fab careers, married, and bought our house 5yrs ago. So, what do we have to wait for?
I'm so upset that she's not going to be happy once were pregnant. I feel like every other parent cannot wait to become grandparents, including my dad and stepdad and ILs.
I'm scared she's going to be dissapointed.  I really want her to be excited and jump for joy.
Well thank you so much for reading if you made it this far.
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MySunshine
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Re: ? About Moms- sorry, long
Aw, I am so sorry that you are going through this with your mom Maybe she is saying this not to add extra pressure to you and your DH. Once you get your BFP I am sure that she will be ecstatic. After all knowing that she will have a grandchild will make her forget all the little snide remarks that she made.
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| Posted 3/31/11 8:01 PM |
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JDC112010
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Re: ? About Moms- sorry, long
My parents said things like "You don't want kids, there a handful" etc etc. Made me feel they wouldn't be excited for us at all.
Well that's entirely untrue, and my parents are absolutely thrilled - it may just be all talk with your mom Were you a handful or something to make her say all those things? (lol, I believe that's why my parents discouraged me having kids, I was kind of a brat lol).
I never told my parents were trying because of all the negative things said - I'm well aware it's a full time job and things aren't going to be "perfect".
I say go for it and keep it to yourselves, I'm 26 (gonna be 27 next week) and DH is 30, and I don't consider that young at all. My mom had me at 24 for goodness sake. 
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| Posted 3/31/11 8:04 PM |
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TNT1005
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Re: ? About Moms- sorry, long
Posted by MySunshine
Aw, I am so sorry that you are going through this with your mom Maybe she is saying this not to add extra pressure to you and your DH. Once you get your BFP I am sure that she will be ecstatic. After all knowing that she will have a grandchild will make her forget all the little snide remarks that she made.
ITA. Sometimes people think they are saying the right thing or trying to give you advice that maybe you didnt think of. I think once you get your BFP she will bo SO excited and support you guys 100%. Only you and DH will know if you are ready. 
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| Posted 3/31/11 8:09 PM |
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bettybcafe
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Re: ? About Moms- sorry, long
Trust me, once you tell her your pregnant her entire attitude will change. My mom is quite similar to yours but I know once I say, "Im pregnan!" shes going to forget everything she has advised me 
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| Posted 3/31/11 8:20 PM |
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gina409
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Posted by bettybcafe
Trust me, once you tell her your pregnant her entire attitude will change. My mom is quite similar to yours but I know once I say, "Im pregnan!" shes going to forget everything she has advised me
ita!
sometimes i think our parents forget we r all grown up and since she is a mom and raised u and knows how hard it is they think we r not ready..but we are
she will def come around when u get ur bfp and if she does not then trust me she will when she sees the first sono pic
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| Posted 3/31/11 8:32 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: ? About Moms- sorry, long
My mom was the type to say things like that...always saying that I need to have some time just being married. I thought she wouldn't be very ecstatic when we got pregnant.
Boy was I wrong! She is the most excited out of the entire family.
Your mom will turn around!
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| Posted 3/31/11 9:29 PM |
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Ayne11
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Re: ? About Moms- sorry, long
My mom was always indifferent, or at least she appeared that way. She is so happy and excited for us, it's incredible.
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| Posted 3/31/11 9:51 PM |
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StaceyWill
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Re: ? About Moms- sorry, long
Ugh- I know exactly how you feel. My mom has ALWAYS told me not to have kids. Like always...
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| Posted 3/31/11 9:54 PM |
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TooMuchDrama
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Re: ? About Moms- sorry, long
Once, I showed my mom a picture and said, "Don't I look pregnant here?", and the face she made just said it all. Any time I speak about becoming pregnant, or having a baby, I can just tell that she's thinking all kinds of negative things. She's told me several times to wait until we're ready and enjoy our time alone. We're going to TTC in a few months, but I don't plan on telling her because I'm sort of nervous about her reaction. Hopefully once I really am pregnant, she'll be happy 
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july4mrsO
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Re: ? About Moms- sorry, long
I know for a fact my mom would not be supportive at all if she knew we were TTC right now. But I really think once we're expecting she'll get over it and be thrilled. I'm sure it will be the same with your mom
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| Posted 4/1/11 9:25 AM |
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MrsCampos10-01-10
Jovani Edward is HERE!!!
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Re: ? About Moms- sorry, long
thank you guys. i really thought that i was alone here. i just picture ALL parents so excited for LOs again.
you made me feel better about it. and i'm not going to tell her, or any of my family that we're TTC. just my BFF and you gals know.
and to all
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