Re: i just want to cry and cry....

That wasn't very nice of your doctor

Re: i just want to cry and cry....

so its now 9:30 and no call back...... plus we went out to dinner (poor dh is trying aso hard to cheer me up and I am trying to let him I am just still so sad though.... ) and I sat there the whole time not wanting to eat but did....I hope I can make this all stop soon.....I wouldn't wish this on my worst nightmare when she is pregnant!!!!

Re: i just want to cry and cry.... UPDATED ON 7/13 AT 9:30

Re: i just want to cry and cry.... UPDATED ON 7/13 AT 9:30

I can't believe that you are being treated like this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

First off - your weight is NOTHING. You were thin to begin with and sometimes thinner girls gain more - its NOTHING to be ashamed of and that beeeeeeyotch should have kept her trap shut.

I have one girlfriend built similar to you who gained 55 pounds with her daughter and exercised and ate fantastic.

Your body is going to do what it wants to do. You're so beautiful so don't let it get to you although I do know its hard, trust me.

Next time just flip her the bird

Re: i just want to cry and cry.... UPDATED ON 7/13 AT 9:30

Posted by wowcoulditbe

so its now 9:30 and no call back...... plus we went out to dinner (poor dh is trying aso hard to cheer me up and I am trying to let him I am just still so sad though.... ) and I sat there the whole time not wanting to eat but did....I hope I can make this all stop soon.....I wouldn't wish this on my worst nightmare when she is pregnant!!!!

Re: i just want to cry and cry.... UPDATED ON 7/13 AT 9:30

I would run, not walk and find another doctor affilated with the hospital you are giving birth at. I had a horrible experience with my doctor who I saw for 7 YEARS before I miscarried. I still am waiting to cool down to write her a letter since she was so cold and unfeeling. The doctor I have now with this pregnancy makes me feel as if I am her only patient and always backs me up and makes me feel better when I feel like I did something wrong.

You do not need or deserve this, even this late in the game. Talk to your friends in the area who gave birth already or know someone who has to give you a referral to another doctor.

Edited to say: everyone gains differently- look at some of the famous actresses who gained 70/80 pounds and they have healthy babies and look great! Don't diet when you are pregnant or start some crazy exercise plan or you may end up hurting the baby and yourself. I think this doctor is a jerk.

Message edited 7/14/2006 11:26:43 AM.

Re: i just want to cry and cry.... UPDATED ON 7/13 AT 9:30

I just wanted to send you lots and lots of hugs I'm so sorry that you went through such a lousy experience at your doctor's office - and even more mad on your behalf that they haven't called you back!

A 30 pound gain is right on track for as far along as you are, and especially if you were very skinny before getting preggo. You said you just started wearing maternity clothes at 30 weeks - that is awesome -- you go girl!! TO me that is NOT the sign of someone who has gained too much weight!! And given that weight is a sensitive issue for you, your doctor's office really should have used more discretion overall. I would have been REALLY upset if I was spoken to like that It was just rude.

I was no skinny minny before getting preggo, but yet I have noticed that I am very sensitive to my weight since becoming pregnant. All my old body issues have come back to haunt me and I am VERY hard on myself (even though I thought I NEVER would be once I got pregnant). I have to thank my lucky stars that my doctor's office is very compassionate and does not putting restrictions on gaining weight and things like that - they do not get on your back about it, as long as you are healthy otherwise.

I had hardly gained much until 17 weeks, but now at 26 weeks I seem to have had a HUGE (and I do mean huge) growth spurt as of my last appointment. In 6 weeks I somehow gained 12 pounds I am not kidding, I nearly fainted. I actually started tearing up because I felt I was doing SO good all along with not gaining too much, but now my total weight gain since the beginning is MUCH more than I wanted it to be for the ENTIRE pregnancy! However, luckily my doctor was wonderful about it. She saw I was very upset but reassured me that I was doing great and everyone gains differently. I am otherwise healthy, my blood pressure is normal, I'm not retaining fluid and most importantly my baby is thriving.. as she said, in the end that truly is ALL that matters!

I'm sorry you had such an awful experience - I truly hope that you NEVER had to go through that again. Being pregnant is already an emotional expereince, we don't need our health care providers making us feel ANY worse about ourselves, esp. when it comes to gaining weight.

And please do not let this affect the rest of your pregnancy .. eat what you want, don't focus on the scale - you are healthy and going to have a baby soon, and the weight will all come off , so no worries!

Message edited 7/14/2006 11:36:23 AM.

Re: i just want to cry and cry.... UPDATED ON 7/13 AT 9:30

thanks everyone again for all your support...you have no idea how much you helped me...I am about to post what we pretty much decided as well as the update on my return phone call.....