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bettybcafe
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Do you initiate sex?
When it comes to loving do you usually initiate or does DH? If its mostly DH do you initiate when its your fertile week?
For me, DH has always been the one to initiate sex..I have never done this. However, I find since TTC I have been the one asking for sex around my fertile time. I dont go up to him and start seducing him but I will say, "I want to have to sex today" that seems so blah to me. I wish I could initiate but I dont know why, I just cant. I also thinks he hates it that I dont normally initiate but only do so when I really need his swimmers...
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Posted 1/29/11 11:18 AM  |
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StaceyWill
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Re: Do you initiate sex?
DH initiates it way more than I do. Sometimes I feel bad and really make an effort to start things up. I'll just look at him and say-you wanna make boom boom? or something along those lines 
I did notice that when we started TTC, I was all over it like white on rice.
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| Posted 1/29/11 11:55 AM |
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ElizaRags35
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Re: Do you initiate sex?
I wish he would initiate more but most of the time it's me. 
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| Posted 1/29/11 12:12 PM |
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MrsCampos10-01-10
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Re: Do you initiate sex?
I'm ALWAYS the one to initiate/seduce.
DH works a LOT and is always tired, so he rarely initiates. And no, he's not banging his secretary
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| Posted 1/29/11 1:15 PM |
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bettybcafe
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Re: Do you initiate sex?
Posted by MrsCampos10-01-10
I'm ALWAYS the one to initiate/seduce.
DH works a LOT and is always tired, so he rarely initiates. And no, he's not banging his secretary
 so when you initiate does he always say yes? I feel like when I do try to initiate (of course usually during my fertile week) sometimes he tells me no and it bugs me.
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| Posted 1/29/11 1:16 PM |
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MrsCampos10-01-10
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Re: Do you initiate sex?
Posted by bettybcafe
Posted by MrsCampos10-01-10
I'm ALWAYS the one to initiate/seduce.
DH works a LOT and is always tired, so he rarely initiates. And no, he's not banging his secretary
so when you initiate does he always say yes? I feel like when I do try to initiate (of course usually during my fertile week) sometimes he tells me no and it bugs me.
Yea sometimes he says no. Id say its 60/40 in favor of him saying yes.
I don't mind when he says no. But when I initiate I act sexual and touch him and things like that. Rarely do I say, "hey, wanna have sex?" And when I do that means, you should initiate, not just me! 
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| Posted 1/29/11 1:37 PM |
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fight the future
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Re: Do you initiate sex?
It's usually him now.
I used to try to hump the crap out of him but... meh.
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| Posted 1/29/11 2:25 PM |
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Bearcat
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Re: Do you initiate sex?
i'm almost always the initiator.
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| Posted 1/29/11 2:43 PM |
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mrsyoungmommy
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Re: Do you initiate sex?
Posted by bettybcafe
When it comes to loving do you usually initiate or does DH? If its mostly DH do you initiate when its your fertile week?
For me, DH has always been the one to initiate sex..I have never done this. However, I find since TTC I have been the one asking for sex around my fertile time. I dont go up to him and start seducing him but I will say, "I want to have to sex today" that seems so blah to me. I wish I could initiate but I dont know why, I just cant. I also thinks he hates it that I dont normally initiate but only do so when I really need his swimmers...
Can you maybe try to seduce him not just when its your most fertile week? Surprise him another time of the month and maybe you can take another approach to your seduction. Maybe send him a dirty text during the day, it doesn't need to be raunchy, something like "can't wait til you get home tonight ;)"
This way when you need him to perform, he will be more apt to participate.
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| Posted 1/29/11 2:54 PM |
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RubyWoo
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Re: Do you initiate sex?
Yeah, but I think he initiates more than I do - at least that's what he says 
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| Posted 1/29/11 3:06 PM |
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bettybcafe
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Re: Do you initiate sex?
Posted by mrsyoungmommy
Posted by bettybcafe
When it comes to loving do you usually initiate or does DH? If its mostly DH do you initiate when its your fertile week?
For me, DH has always been the one to initiate sex..I have never done this. However, I find since TTC I have been the one asking for sex around my fertile time. I dont go up to him and start seducing him but I will say, "I want to have to sex today" that seems so blah to me. I wish I could initiate but I dont know why, I just cant. I also thinks he hates it that I dont normally initiate but only do so when I really need his swimmers...
Can you maybe try to seduce him not just when its your most fertile week? Surprise him another time of the month and maybe you can take another approach to your seduction. Maybe send him a dirty text during the day, it doesn't need to be raunchy, something like "can't wait til you get home tonight ;)"
This way when you need him to perform, he will be more apt to participate.
Yea, maybe I'll try that! Sometimes its hard for me to seduce him even during my fertile time. I am just sooo darn tired sometimes but I know I have to do it or else I will miss my window. Eh, this is too much workd
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| Posted 1/29/11 3:16 PM |
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gina409
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Re: Do you initiate sex?
dh has had one day off since christmas..i get home bout 5 515 and he leaves 530 540..and he will work 12- 15 hrs...and since we r on timed intercourse,it has just been like hello,drop your clothes and good bye
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| Posted 1/29/11 5:15 PM |
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monkeypants
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Re: Do you initiate sex?
he mostly initaites....but now that Ive been off the pill since August- Ive been feeling like initiating more!!!
and when I want to initiate i'll usually say "wanna smoosh?" (like jersery shore- LOL)
or i'll just be naked when he comes in the bedroom that always gets him to say yes!
you should try that!
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| Posted 1/29/11 5:32 PM |
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bettybcafe
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Re: Do you initiate sex?
Posted by monkeypants
he mostly initaites....but now that Ive been off the pill since August- Ive been feeling like initiating more!!!
and when I want to initiate i'll usually say "wanna smoosh?" (like jersery shore- LOL)
or i'll just be naked when he comes in the bedroom that always gets him to say yes!
you should try that!
haha, yes, Im sure if Im laying naked on the bed he wont say no  love the "wanna smoosh" saying but he'd prob. look at me like Im crazy lol. I'd have to come up with another line but thanks for the tip
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| Posted 1/29/11 5:42 PM |
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AngnShaun
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Re: Do you initiate sex?
most of the time its him... id say 75% 25% him
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| Posted 1/29/11 5:52 PM |
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