*QOTD Thursday 12/30*

Good morning! In light of my personal plans for this evening, here's your question. And I know we talk about this on and off on other posts, but...
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So how does DH feel about all the sex? I know there are a wide range of experiences out there, so let's share. Does he get annoyed? Love it? Frustrated? Pressured? Happy to oblige? Spill it! (well, we know they all do that )
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I always feel like my DH is defective in this regard. He HATES planned and he hates feeling like he's "forced" to do it if he's not in the mood. This is something we've bickered about throughout the 8+ years we have been together. Generally we only DTD once a week on average, so this has been... interesting to say the least. He's just not a very sexual person in general, which is fine, but definitely makes things more difficult when TTC. So far we've been okay, but it hasn't been THAT long. Also, we're definitely not as much as we should be during fertile time. I mentioned to him that if we don't see something happening in the next couple of months, we may have to step it up a notch. His response - "im not worried, i have super sperm"

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when trying to make a baby is literally a F/T job. We both sorta hate it but it's a necessary evil of TTC. Sex without having to think about conception is FAR better than baby making sex. When you're TTC you just always feel pressure to "X" amount of times and on certain days and because of that it's unavoidable that the fun in having sex will be lost. After over a year of TTC #2 it's literally just a business transaction now.

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I acutally just posted something related to this. At first he was in heaven, every other day for about 2 months, how can he not be. But now it seems like it is now becoming routine and not very sexy. Last night was not good, it definitely felt forced, but hey what are you going to do.

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DH LOVES it, but this is only our first month TTC. Also, DH is always up for it, and I'm um not so much so he thinks this is great!

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we aren't TTC yet but I know it will not go over super smoothly with DH. He's just like yours about planned sex and ... is... 'temperamental' about sex. Shall I put it that way? LOL.

I know I am never going to be able to be like 'Okay. Fertile day. HAVE TO HAVE SEX TONIGHT!'

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hmm the comments are interesting. Well... DH and I are in the starting stages, so the is good and frequent, but let's see what happens a few months from now.

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at first he said he felt pressured... but that was because i told him i was Ovulating... after that i didnt tell him anything and he never mentioned it again...

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I just had a talk last night with DH about this. I feel like it has become a job. There is nothing spontanious about it. With such a small window to get pg is there really a choice? We so much during the window that sometimes after the window we are both like "don't touch me" But he understands and is on board. Gotta do what you have to do

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DH hates it... this month was just winging it.. and he was like "are you ovulating" wth DH.. just go with the flow..

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sounds funny but we have a great sex life..i dont know we r both very sexual people..we have known each other since we are 12 so maybe thats why we are so comfy...im naked all the time..why..not cause i think im a supermodel..i mostly look like danny devito..but because he knows what i look like and its too late now

also think we have only been living together since last oct when we got married so it was fun to finally be in our bed etc..

ask me in 5 years ill prob tell u i have not done it since i posted this

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Posted by gina409

sounds funny but we have a great sex life..i dont know we r both very sexual people..we have known each other since we are 12 so maybe thats why we are so comfy...im naked all the time..why..not cause i think im a supermodel..i mostly look like danny devito..but because he knows what i look like and its too late now

also think we have only been living together since last oct when we got married so it was fun to finally be in our bed etc..

ask me in 5 years ill prob tell u i have not done it since i posted this

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Posted by gina409

sounds funny but we have a great sex life..i dont know we r both very sexual people..we have known each other since we are 12 so maybe thats why we are so comfy...im naked all the time..why..not cause i think im a supermodel..i mostly look like danny devito..but because he knows what i look like and its too late now

also think we have only been living together since last oct when we got married so it was fun to finally be in our bed etc..

ask me in 5 years ill prob tell u i have not done it since i posted this

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Posted by gina409

sounds funny but we have a great sex life..i dont know we r both very sexual people..we have known each other since we are 12 so maybe thats why we are so comfy...im naked all the time..why..not cause i think im a supermodel..i mostly look like danny devito..but because he knows what i look like and its too late now

also think we have only been living together since last oct when we got married so it was fun to finally be in our bed etc..

ask me in 5 years ill prob tell u i have not done it since i posted this

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my DH is exactly like yours but before TTC we DTD 1-3x a week, usually 2 its rare for 1x

I'm more into it then him and always have been

this month has been hard because for the first time ever, I mentioned the timing and I think it affected him

we usually get 2 days out of the 3 fertile days. this month we are going for many more.

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Posted by Bearcat

Posted by gina409

sounds funny but we have a great sex life..i dont know we r both very sexual people..we have known each other since we are 12 so maybe thats why we are so comfy...im naked all the time..why..not cause i think im a supermodel..i mostly look like danny devito..but because he knows what i look like and its too late now

also think we have only been living together since last oct when we got married so it was fun to finally be in our bed etc..

ask me in 5 years ill prob tell u i have not done it since i posted this

i freakin love you.