Anyone ever feel that their DH does not talk about it?

HI Everyone,
Hope you all had a great relaxing Thanksgiving! Last night when it came time for one of my shots I asked my DH to prep the gonal-f pen while I got ready. He said no and that set me off. I know this is tough for him. I think he is still mad because we wanted to speak to the dr about a payment plan before doing our 3rd IVF with him however I was a little forced to pay up before my DH got to the appointment. I sort of made the decision to move on to the next IVF before speaking to him, we spoke about it but I figured it was a no brainer to just continue on. Anyway sometimes I wish he would just talk to me about how he is feeling about all this. I know it is tough for him to keep watching negative, after negative and Im sure he feels deflated. I feel that if he is not positive or strong then it is not going to work. How do I get him to to talk? I think what stresses him out is not knowing when the retrieval is going to be and having to take off so much for this. I just wish we could get a positive result.
Thanks

Re: Anyone ever feel that their DH does not talk about it?

IF is so so hard on everyone. And everyone has their way of coping. Your DH sounds like me, I'M the NEGATIVE one that never wants to talk about it. And my DH is always positive patty, which trust me comes with its OWN set of issues. Because i feel like i can never be sad or feel down, almost like he doesn't validate MY feelings. I can NOT tell you how many times i have SCREAMED in that mans face "NO IT NOTTTTTTTTTTTT OK, its NEVERRRRRRRRRRRRRR been OK and it might never be ok- FACE IT !!!!" But he NEVER waivers or gives up hope. I guess one of us HAS to be like that...2 crazies would NOT be good EH. We do the best we can to make it thu the day. And if some days, just GETTING out of bed is the best we can do, so be it. Long winded answer, but my point is, communication and patience! Maybe he is doing th best he can for THAT day. I wish tomorrow, to be a LOT better for you both .



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Re: Anyone ever feel that their DH does not talk about it?

Infertility is such a difficult journey and I think everyone handles it differently. My DH doesn't always want to talk about how he feels either.