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KarenAnthony
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Slightly depreseed..
I know i have no right to be depressed since i haven't officially started to TTC yet..but i can't help it...My best friend just announced she is preggo with her 2nd baby. This is the same friend who had fertility issues and stopped talking to me for the nine months i was preggo. I wanted to TTC way earlier, but my husband wasn't ready due to a new business venture. So now i am just feeling sorry for myself and want to cry. On the bright side, at least we have decided to start trying soon.
Vent over.
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Posted 10/26/10 3:39 PM  |
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bettybcafe
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Re: Slightly depreseed..
She stopped talking to you because you got preggo and she was having issues? That seems really unfair and I sure wouldnt want a friend like that. In any case, no need to feel blue yet since you havent started TTC. Be happy, its all going to work out!
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| Posted 10/26/10 4:05 PM |
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KarenAnthony
Baby Girl Coming in May!!!
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Re: Slightly depreseed..
thanks, you made me feel better!
I get over things pretty quickly, so i'm sure in another week, it won't bother me anymore. Its was just the initial announcement. UGH.
And yes, she told me she couldn't be aruond me during my pregnancy. She only saw me pregnant once. She also did not come to my baby shower. Deep down, i think it will always bothers me a little.
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| Posted 10/26/10 4:14 PM |
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RocPin
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kelkel09
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| Posted 10/26/10 5:06 PM |
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ttcsecret
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| Posted 10/26/10 5:13 PM |
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MrsDeVito
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| Posted 10/26/10 5:15 PM |
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ns1011
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Re: Slightly depreseed..
While I don't agree with your friend at all for her choice to not be around you during a special time in your life, I do understand as a person who has struggled to conceive for over a year, how difficult it can be to put on a smile and be happy for others.
I would try not to hold a grudge against her. Infertility is an extremely difficult thing to deal with and it can turn your life inside out and make you unrecognizeable even to yourself. I'm not saying that it justifies her behavior, but try to seek comfort in knowing that you will have your moment again soon, and hopefully this time around she will be happier for you.
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| Posted 10/26/10 5:17 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: Slightly depreseed..
Posted by ns1011
While I don't agree with your friend at all for her choice to not be around you during a special time in your life, I do understand as a person who has struggled to conceive for over a year, how difficult it can be to put on a smile and be happy for others.
I would try not to hold a grudge against her. Infertility is an extremely difficult thing to deal with and it can turn your life inside out and make you unrecognizeable even to yourself. I'm not saying that it justifies her behavior, but try to seek comfort in knowing that you will have your moment again soon, and hopefully this time around she will be happier for you.
I agree, I am not condoning your friend's actions but I can understand where she is coming from.
I went down the fertility treatment path to get pregnant and then lost my baby almost halfway through. In the time I was trying and/or going through the loss... I cried when people at work announced they were pregnant and turned down invitations to baby showers, etc... Everyone deals with things their own way. For me, I had a hard time being exposed to all that, so I chose to distance myself.
Try not to hold a grudge It's hard to understand decisions other people make when they are going through a struggle.
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| Posted 10/26/10 5:38 PM |
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