Can I ask a question….

I am sure this has been asked a million times before. Why is it that miscarriages seem to be so common these days? It seems they have affected nearly 50% of my friends. I almost feel like I should set myself up for the dissapointment ahead of time, is that dumb?

Also I have heard so many people say that miscarriages always happened but no one ever spoke of them. OR that a ways back people didnt even know they were pregnant and therefore when they miscarried they thought it was just a heavy period?

Anyway I just feel there is something more to it?

Also are there any links to being on birth control for a long time and miscarriages? Probably not but just a thought that is in my head.

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my guess is that some of it is because of technology. with recent advances, OPKs, etc, people can tell exactly when they ovulate and when AF is due and can test for a BFP so early that they can know about a chemical pregnancy when normally someone might just think AF is later than usual or a heavier periodl.

Also, I do think people are more open with discussing this stuff and with the internet you are in contact with more people TTC and are exposed to a larger sample size?

I have no idea whether people are actually having more m/c than in the past...

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I agree.. people are more open about it now. When I told my parents, I knew my dad was completely uncomfortable talking about this kind of thing. But I was feeling aweful and needed my mom. Ive learned that the more open I am about these things, the more others realize it shouldn't be a big secret...After I told them, I learned my grandmother had one too. No one ever told me that!

It causes so much worry though. These advances in technology make it easier for us to know sooner and makes us worry sometimes unnecessarily...

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I never realized how common m/c was until I had one. When I got pg it never even crossed my mind that it would end up the way it did. I have very regular periods and no issues. I was only on bc pills for 1.5 years my entire life so in my case I don't think that was related in any way. Also, I was off them for 9 months before I got a bfp. A few months ago I was at my dh's friends house out of state. I was hanging out with all of the girls and m/c came up. 3 of them had m/c and all went on to have kids since. I felt a sense of comfort and was shocked it was so common.

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After I lost my son I started talking about it, so many people came out with their own stories. It's so sad, but I definitely experienced the dark side of pregnancy and saw just how common it really is.

That doesn't mean you should go in predicting the WORST! They say what .. .1 in 5 end in an m/c? That's a lot but it still means there's an 80% chance everything will be FINE!! A loss after the first tri is even MORE unlikely! You just have to go in feeling positive because it's something you just can't control.

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Yes you are ALL right. Now we have the internet, chatboards, facebook, etc! Plus texting and what-have-you.

And the more common it is and the more it is talked about - more and more people open up about it. So yes I think maybe you ladies are right!

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I think a lot of early mcs and chemicals are being detected b/c people are testing sooner....I don't think you could detect a pregnancy at home so early years ago...

I also think the culture changed and people are more open now. I think we realize that when something happens it can help to talk about it - sometimes it doens't just help the person telling their story but it also helps others going through the same thing...