***QOTD Thursday***

Good morning girls

What parenting skill/qualities from you Parents would you like to use with your Child? Which ones do you not?

Want:
- my dad always taught us to stand up for ourselves and don’t take any craap from anyone no matter who they are. I love not being a pushover and demanding the same respect that a person would expect from me.
- To be financially independent at a young age – I have been working since I was 15 and DH has been even younger and we never relied on our parents for anything and I believe that we are more financially responsible because of it.
- My parents always told us how education was important but never forced us to do anything. I only have an associates and my parents wish I did more but they never made me feel bad about it. so I would never push school on my child as long as it turned 18 and has a full time job and responsible I would be equally as happy

Don’t want:

- my dad was always so strict and I feel like I missed out on a lot or had to lie and sneak around a lot which got me in more trouble. I want my kids to feel like they can talk to me about anything and to do everything in reason.
- My parents didn’t have the best relationship when I was growing up and without going into to much detail it really messed me up as a young adult. I always felt like my mom stayed because she had to because she had us (she is a SAHM). I never want me or DH to feel like we have to stay with each other just because “we have too” or “that’s best for the kid” because believe me its not!
- Going back to my school thing. I wanted to go away to school in Florida and my dad nixed that – I feel like that is why I only did 2 years because I went to community college instead. If I want to the 4 year school I definitely would have stayed. So I would never not allow my child to go away no matter where it is as long as they are responsible
- I want to be more present in my childs life more than my parents were

Sorry so long girls!

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ALL OF THEM... seriously i have awesome parents!!!

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I hope I can be like my mom.

She was strict, in that I knew I could not cross the line, but she also let me be a kid. She did not ride me, I was a good kid, had good grades and followed the rules. She did not sniff around to "find" things like some parents. As a result, while I had my fun I always towed the line bc I knew that if I messed up my privilges and freedoms would be revoked.

She always encouraged me and never pointed out inadequacies. She was and is my biggest fan.

My dad is a great father, he loves my brother and I and worked his butt off the provide for us. I hope that DH and I can provide for us the way he did. He taught me the value of hardwork and the how to earn a dollar, that nothing in life is free.

One thing that I do no want is my DH to devote as much time to his career. I love my dad and certaintly benefitted from all his work but I did feel he was not around enough. It effected my mom more than me and made her unhappy. I do not want this in my marriage or for my kids to have to see.

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i want to be like my dad. encourage us to work hard, but never be disappointed in us if we fail at something (FTR, we never failed in school and I think that has a lot to do with it). Encourage us to try new things and dream, and travel, and take care of each other.

I don't want my parents' money managing skills. all that dreaming didn't come cheap and they aren't exactly set for life. But one of us will take care of them anyway.

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well, i would like to be more like my DH's parents yes, i know, it's strange to want to be like your in-laws but they seemed like they were great parents...

from what i have seen and the stories i have heard it sounds like they were always encouraging, positive, and affectionate. they are such proud parents and it shows. i hope to be like that with my own children - i felt like those things were lacking when i was growing up. i don't remember any positive reinforcement, i don't remember getting many hugs and kisses all i remember is my mother losing her patience and my parents arguing. i ended up being a very angry kid

i do not want either one of our parents money managing skills either. both of parents didn't do well with their money. luckily i think DH and i are on track. seeing our parents struggle made us extra careful - and sometimes too careful but in the end i know it's for the better.

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What I do want from

Dad:
~my father taught me that there is nothing wrong w/wanting the finer things in life, that its ok to splurge on things.

~He also taught me that you cant EXPECT those things, you must work for them.

~ My father financially is very giving to his family, to some extent I hope to be able to do the same.

~my family suffered a horrible tragedy a few years ago. My father handled it with such grace and strength, I hope that I can some how pass that onto my children.

~receiving an education is never in question, everyone deserves one and it is important to receive that education (if you so chose) away from your family so you can become more independent.

~it is not necessary to handle every confrontation w/up front emotion.


Mom:

I don't have a mother

Message edited 9/2/2010 10:52:34 AM.