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FOr those whose DH had a semen analysis
Were your DH reluctant to do this??
I went to the Dr, had several tests done, now its Dh turn. All he has to do is "go" and submit his sample, and he is dragging his feet. WTH??? 
ed: as if trying to get preggo is all MY problem..........
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FlowerWife
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Re: FOr those whose DH had a semen analysis
my DH was the same way. but when i finally did all the footwork and made the appointment for him, he manned up and did. then he had to do it a second time and he didnt resist. it takes them awhile to accept, mostly out of fear, but eventually they will. you just cant force it too much. (although i found telling him that the doctor said he should do it by x date three-four weeks away def helped seal the deal  )
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AnxiousPants
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Re: FOr those whose DH had a semen analysis
I'm actually lucky, I guess. Hubby & I talked about this the other day -- he said he would go for a SA before sending me for all kinds of invasive testing since I'm pretty sure a regular doc can write a script for it and he needs to go to the doc in the next couple of months anyway.
I guess he figures since I've been peeing on OPKs for the last 10 months and taking my temp nearly every morning all that time to confirm that I do O ... its his turn to check things out on his end.
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| Posted 7/30/10 11:25 PM |
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DaisyGirl
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Re: FOr those whose DH had a semen analysis
DH was reluctant. I think it's hard for some guys. I think it stresses them out. He did it and was so happy when everything came back fine.
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Hofstra26
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Re: FOr those whose DH had a semen analysis
Nope. He had NO problem. He was on board to do whatever we needed to in order to get pregnant including SA and IUI's. I don't get anyone being reluctant. 
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nraboni
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Re: FOr those whose DH had a semen analysis
Posted by Hofstra26
Nope. He had NO problem. He was on board to do whatever we needed to in order to get pregnant including SA and IUI's. I don't get anyone being reluctant.
Mine felt the same way.
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MrsFein09
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Re: FOr those whose DH had a semen analysis
Posted by nraboni
Posted by Hofstra26
Nope. He had NO problem. He was on board to do whatever we needed to in order to get pregnant including SA and IUI's. I don't get anyone being reluctant.
Mine felt the same way.
Same for my DH.
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babydancer10
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Re: FOr those whose DH had a semen analysis
Yea, DH keeps putting it off. "If we don't get PG next month, I will go.We will really try hard this time". (As if we haven't been trying hard for the last 7 months!!!!!!) Then, a BFN comes and we have the same conversation. This month is it for me, though. I have a doc appt. scheduled in a week. If my bloodwork shows no signs of anything, it's his turn...even if I have to drag him kicking and screaming to the doc!
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Re: FOr those whose DH had a semen analysis
DH has put it off for 7 months. We KNOW he has an issue already, yet finds excuses to not go every month. He has said many months in a row that "he knows he has to go and really will" and then doesn't. Gets me so mad since I have gone for bloodwork, an HSG and multiple doctor visits all knowing, all systems were a go for me.
13 months of trying...here we come. Yeah right. 
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ashap215
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Re: FOr those whose DH had a semen analysis
Maybe I'll get flamed for saying this but here goes anyway.
As far as the DH's who have such an issue going maybe it's because they're just not ready to have children. If they were truly ready and cared about your feelings they would be more than willing to go.
My DH had to do his business in a diner bathroom like a creep to get the sample to the lab on time and didn't even complain about it once.
BOTH partied need to be on board for this process to work.
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| Posted 7/31/10 11:16 PM |
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Re: FOr those whose DH had a semen analysis
Posted by ashap215
Maybe I'll get flamed for saying this but here goes anyway.
As far as the DH's who have such an issue going maybe it's because they're just not ready to have children. If they were truly ready and cared about your feelings they would be more than willing to go.
My DH had to do his business in a diner bathroom like a creep to get the sample to the lab on time and didn't even complain about it once.
BOTH partied need to be on board for this process to work.
Not flaming you at all but I don't think that this is the reason many DH's won't go. I think that a lot of them take this process a lot more personally and have trouble admitting that there might be something wrong with them. Unlike most of us ladies, having an issue affects their "manhood."
My DH wants children and is ready for them now. He knows my cycle better than I do, never complains about being too tired to  a week in a row and is just as anxious as I am to find out the results. He's been just as affected as I have by our 2 losses.
And as much as it annoys me that he hasn't gone 1) I have gotten PG twice so I know he has swimmers and 2) he is working and going to school all week until 11:30 at night. How can you get on someone's case when they working their arse off like that?
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FlowerWife
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Re: FOr those whose DH had a semen analysis
Posted by ashap215
Maybe I'll get flamed for saying this but here goes anyway.
As far as the DH's who have such an issue going maybe it's because they're just not ready to have children. If they were truly ready and cared about your feelings they would be more than willing to go.
My DH had to do his business in a diner bathroom like a creep to get the sample to the lab on time and didn't even complain about it once.
BOTH partied need to be on board for this process to work.
fearing finding out that something is wrong with yourself and being "ready" to have kids are two completely different issues. there is nothing wrong with a guy having apprehension about getting an SA. i was apprehensive about giving 31 vials of blood for my thrombophilia and immune testing. i want a baby more than anything and have been trying for over 15 months now. i agree that this may be the case for SOME men, but definitely not all men. i have a friend who had NO issue conceiving her 2 children. i guarantee you that if you asked her DH to go for an SA, he would be incredibly apprehensive. he has 2 children and is a fabulous father, are you saying that he isnt ready for kids because he would be nervous about doing an SA?
my DH put his SA off a bit at first but ultimately did it when he needed to. he didnt complain but i knew he was nervous. it def took some coaxing to get him to finally give the sample. we arent all so lucky that our DH's are jumping at the chance to jack off in a diner bathroom. does that mean my DH wasnt ready for kids until he finally gave the sample? as soon as he gave the sample was he suddenly "ready"? once again its just flat out not that cut and dry.
i have no intention of starting drama, and i do appreciate and am open to your opinion, and even more so i do agree that in many cases you are right. but you could be a little more open minded to the fact that everyone is different and have different reactions and feelings and likes and dislikes. some people need more of a push than others. my DH might be socially awkward while yours might love a crowd. how they react to different situations does not always dictate what they are ready or not ready for.
if there is one thing i have learned from my 15+ month journey its that as human beings we are FAR from cookie cutters. if that was the case my body would work and i would have a kid right now and be thinking about the next one and no one would have to get SAs. but thats not how the world works. we are all different and we all have different feelings so to make a blanket statement that ALL guys with apprehension over an SA arent ready to have a babies is flat out close minded.
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Re: FOr those whose DH had a semen analysis
Posted by ashap215
Maybe I'll get flamed for saying this but here goes anyway.
As far as the DH's who have such an issue going maybe it's because they're just not ready to have children. If they were truly ready and cared about your feelings they would be more than willing to go.
My DH had to do his business in a diner bathroom like a creep to get the sample to the lab on time and didn't even complain about it once.
BOTH partied need to be on board for this process to work.
The only reason my DH went thru with the SA is b/c he DOES want children. Otherwise its been the most stressfull thing in the world for him. The test makes him very anxious and he paces the house for two days waiting for the results - unfortunately for us - his fear of having a problem was true. And not just the fear of having the problem but the fear of having to go thru treatments for the problem. Most men want to beleive they have super sperm and dont want to find out that they are "inadequate" - it is all about the male ego
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