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CloudNine
My Baby Boy is Here!
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Jackie
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How do you Cope?
how do you cope when its month after month of BFN's?
i'm 14dpo and i have been testing since 11dpo. i know im not completely out yet this month but we didnt  on the right schedule so im not getting my hopes up.
it seems like babies and pregnancies are everywhere and its just discouraging.
i know we have all been through this...how do you cope?
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Posted 7/15/10 8:24 AM  |
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LoLaBlue
PARTY OF 5
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Re: How do you Cope?
I am a big believer in positive thinking/positive energy so don't get your hopes up. Everyone is different, some people take 1 try to get peg, some take longer. The 2 WW stinks big time & believe me, I have driven myself crazy every time! I made a promise to myself that this time I am going to try to keep busy & not stress every little "symptom" I feel.
Good Luck   
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| Posted 7/15/10 8:35 AM |
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Hofstra26
Love to Bake!
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Re: How do you Cope?
I am cranky after each BFN and then miserable the day AF arrives but then once she's here, she's here and there is no sense wallowing over it. That cycle is done, I am not pregnant, time to move on. At that point I eagerly look forward to my CD3 RE appt., starting my Clomid, watching my follies grow, and scheduling the next IUI. A new cycle = new hope.
I know it's depressing month after month to not get pregnant but honestly, you have to pick yourself up each month and get back to it. Being sad and wallowing over a failed cycle won't make AF not show. KWIM? Hope that this is your month!! Good luck!!
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| Posted 7/15/10 8:37 AM |
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Exarina
My Two Girls
Member since 12/09 1249 total posts
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Lisa Marie
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Re: How do you Cope?
we are TTC and honestly from the bottom of my heart really really wants children and if it were 5 months ago I'd be crying my eyes out after a BFN...but honestly all of my friends are having children and seeing them totally strapped down and not able to do anything....this summer b/c obviusly they have a child makes me feel like...wow maybe its good that its not happening now- i have so much i want to do ,...so much Im doing....that I would not be able to do right now.....so if i get a BFN I dont sweat it anymore....Im kinda like it will happen-- very weird but its true....and then i am so set on having a summer baby so that we can have birthday in our yard and thats better to conceive in August thru December so that keeps me going lol
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| Posted 7/15/10 8:50 AM |
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Re: How do you Cope?
Posted by Hofstra26
I am cranky after each BFN and then miserable the day AF arrives but then once she's here, she's here and there is no sense wallowing over it. That cycle is done, I am not pregnant, time to move on.
This is me too! If there is one thing I've learned about myself over the past 12 months is that I am resilient. Even after the CP and early MC, I was upset/disappointed for a couple days but then bounce back quickly and get back in the ring right away.
TTC isn't for wimps!  You have to believe that it will happen...maybe not on your terms, but it will. Have faith...that's what gets me through.
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| Posted 7/15/10 11:20 AM |
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BabyFever10
St. Gianna Pray for us
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Re: How do you Cope?
Well said!
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| Posted 7/15/10 11:46 AM |
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Otherme
Square head cutie pants
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Re: How do you Cope?
Posted by Hofstra26
I am cranky after each BFN and then miserable the day AF arrives but then once she's here, she's here and there is no sense wallowing over it. That cycle is done, I am not pregnant, time to move on. At that point I eagerly look forward to my CD3 RE appt., starting my Clomid, watching my follies grow, and scheduling the next IUI. A new cycle = new hope.
I know it's depressing month after month to not get pregnant but honestly, you have to pick yourself up each month and get back to it. Being sad and wallowing over a failed cycle won't make AF not show. KWIM? Hope that this is your month!! Good luck!!
my thoughts exactly.
i allow myself one or two days of feeling down, then pick myself right back up and start the new cycle with a fresh outlook. You have to or you'll go crazy. some months are harder, some are ok.. but in the end we have to just keep going with the conviction that it WILL happen sometime.
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| Posted 7/15/10 12:54 PM |
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