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fathers day and ttc
im not sure if anyone is in the same boat as me...
but as a person ttc for 5 months.. fathers day was really difficult for me..we started ttc in feb..i thought by now i would have gotten a bfp and made dh a future dad to be.
fathers day i found myself super weepy and emotional. uncontrollable at times.
i never thought it would be like this.
i never understood until now.
hugs to all you ladies going through this...its so rough.
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Re: fathers day and ttc
So sorry you're going through this. ttc can be such a rough journey. Please remember to not be so hard on yourself - that you should have "made dh a future dad" by now - ttc is dependent on so many factors and you haven't done anything wrong.
And yes, father's day was a little emotional for us too. I didn't even talk to dh about it, personally. I didn't want to hear if he was disappointed; I was disappointed enough for the both of us.  . But I kept thinking, "by this time next year I'll probably be pg..." Heck, if things start going really well, we might even have a  by then!
Good luck with the rest of your journey, and remember we're here for you.
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ns1011
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Re: fathers day and ttc
Honestly, every holiday or calendar event gets my emotions going. Every month I get myself all amped up for whatever holiday is coming up and how it fits into my TTC plan. Then I calculate my potential due date and daydream about that too. I guess its something you can't really help. I too never thought I would be this far and not preggo or a mommy by now. Its hard but you just have to have faith that WHEN it does happen you will realize that this is how it was meant to be. Hang in there
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FlowerWife
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Re: fathers day and ttc
july will be month 14 of TTC #1. at first i would get sad every time a holiday came around where "i thought i would be pregnant" or at least be announcing my pregnancy. now i am sad because on those same holidays this year - i thought i would have a baby to celebrate with, and here i am, still with no viable pregnancy yet.....
its really hard emotionally. i hope you dont have to go through many more holidays without a BFP
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BabyFever10
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Re: fathers day and ttc
it can be very hard at times - Fathers day was difficult for both DH and I. Someone had wished him a Happy Fathers day - and then later on he told me that really hurt him. Which of course made me sad.
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Re: fathers day and ttc
Father's day was really hard for me. My DH isn't very emotional, so he didn't really talk about it at all. I was in the store buying a card for my dad and kept seeing all of the "father to be" cards and was literally teary eyed in Hallmark (I am a mess, I know). Plus, father's day is a really special, hopefull day in my family because my dad beat brain cancer a few years ago after lying in a coma for nearly 2 weeks, so it is always a big celeration filled with positive energy and I would have like nothing more than to tell him he was going to be a grandpa this time. I am trying to talk myself out of being sad by telling myself that by this time next year, this journey will be over and we will be pg or maybe even have a for Father's day.
Hang in there!!
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NeedtoHide
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Re: fathers day and ttc
thanks so much girls... im sorry to see that you guys are in the same boat as me...
and it keeps getting worse with each passing month.
all that hope and then its gone.
my issue is, i dont know if anything is wrong. my cycles are very regular. my temps are good and get my opks.
i dont know what is going on...
hugs to all of you!! i read all of the posts...and many of you have been trying for so long... :(
i am sending you all the baby dust in the world....
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RGEC47
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Re: fathers day and ttc
DH isn't usually emotional, but this year he was. It has been a long rough journey (2 years this Aug) and he was worried that I would be a mess, like I was for Mother's Day. I think it is a bit easier for DH because he has a daughter but he does still long for more children. I do get upset and beat myself up for not being able to do something that is so natural. DH gets upset with me when I do this, but I think it is natural and we are only human.
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| Posted 6/22/10 10:57 AM |
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Re: fathers day and ttc
Posted by NeedtoHide
thanks so much girls... im sorry to see that you guys are in the same boat as me...
and it keeps getting worse with each passing month.
all that hope and then its gone.
my issue is, i dont know if anything is wrong. my cycles are very regular. my temps are good and get my opks.
i dont know what is going on...
hugs to all of you!! i read all of the posts...and many of you have been trying for so long... :(
i am sending you all the baby dust in the world....
don't give up hope! remember, it can take the 'average' person 6-12 months to get pregnant so don't think that there's anything wrong with you.
I hear you about fathers day.. we had the same issue last year with mothers day and fathers day - we had been ttc'ing for about 5 months at that point as well and while we were disappointed that we weren't pregnant by then, we didn't dwell on it too much. After all, it's really just a day..
However, this year was much harder for both of us since we're now onto a year and a half of ttc'ing.. and still nothing.
But you know what.. it's ok to have a day of being sad, as long as you can turn yourself around and try to stay positive about it for the future
good luck!
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