Spinoff to twins

Just curious

a few of you have said 'we'll take whatever God gives us' in response to the twins question

If you're taking hormones (clomid, Gonal F, Follistim etc) to help with egg production - do you still feel that it's in God's hands?

i'm honestly not trying to offend anyone, i'm just curious how you still think it's in His hands when twins (or more) would be as a result of the drugs.

thanks

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Yes, I still feel that way...

I feel that way because from experience I know, that just because you get pregnant with twins (or more) does not mean you will give birth to twins. Anything can happen, and because of that, I do feel it's G-d's will.

I feel that G-d does not give us more than we can handle.

While it saddens me that I've lost 4 babies. 2 miscarriages, plus the loss of a twin each pregnancy. I did have a VERY hard time adjusting to life with a baby (I'm being honest...this was MY experience), even though the hell we had to go through to have her. Like I said in the other post, I freaked out over being pregnant the 2nd time with twins.

I don't deal with stress very well, and even going through all this IF cr@p, I dealt with PPD after my DD was born, and it terrified me to think I could very well feel that way again especially adjusting to twin newborns AND an 18 month old.

I knew the embryos we put back this time were 100% healthy (we did Microarray testing on the frozen embies). No idea why the 2nd baby didn't develop this time around, I chalk it up to G-d's will. Once the drugs stop, it's in G-d's hands, IMO.

(Sorry so long....)

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Who do you think created these drugs that are available to us? Who created the men and women?


I responded "its in gods hands" and i also am taking drugs, lots of them

Ultimately, I think everything is in God's hands. I can "help" move things along with great doctors (that god created) and medicine (thank God are available to me) but in the end, if its not meant to be, it will not. I am convinced babies are miracles that only something/someone greater than all of us creates. The people, services provided to us to help accelerate the process is also gods will. Of course this is only my humble opinion and im sure i am spinning my religion to help myself lol


P.S. I would never consider myself a religious person, but after this IF struggle, i am fully aware that there is def something much greater than ourselves.

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it's absolutely in His hands. I am pregnant with twins and while i did take the IF drugs and go through IVF, i think He is the reason i am pregnant to begin with, and having twins.

IVF doesn't work all the time and just because they put two embies back doesn't mean both will take. i truly believe God had His hand in my IVF cycle every step of the way.

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I am not religious and I don't believe in "god's hands" or anything like that, but having said that... I got pregnant with twins on my first IVF attempt. We transferred two embryos and both 'stuck.'

Well, 17 weeks later I had a medical complication and ended up losing both. I am sad and devastated and really scared to get pregnant again b/c I can't go through that emotional trauma ever again. I know I did nothing wrong and this couldn't have been prevented... but I do think it happened for a reason. Who knows if it's "God's will" or just my babies telling me they could only be with me for 17 weeks but I do think it happened for a reason.

DH and I are trying to move on and we're already planning on our next IVF cycle. I will be transferring one embryo next time b/c I'm scared of the medical complications that come with them. Not b/c I'm scared of raising them.

Message edited 4/27/2010 12:43:11 PM.

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Posted by Otherme
thank you for sharing
and i'm so sorry for your loss

I too am not religious, but i do feel that things happen for a reason - whether its God, or a medical reason or it just wasn't meant to be for those babies.
Either way, i wish you guys all the best for your next IVF cycle and that things work out for you this time

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yea i feel like if you are meant to have twins you will have them no matter what assistance you are getting...

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Posted by maybemommy10

Who do you think created these drugs that are available to us? Who created the men and women?


I responded "its in gods hands" and i also am taking drugs, lots of them

Ultimately, I think everything is in God's hands. I can "help" move things along with great doctors (that god created) and medicine (thank God are available to me) but in the end, if its not meant to be, it will not. I am convinced babies are miracles that only something/someone greater than all of us creates. The people, services provided to us to help accelerate the process is also gods will. Of course this is only my humble opinion and im sure i am spinning my religion to help myself lol


P.S. I would never consider myself a religious person, but after this IF struggle, i am fully aware that there is def something much greater than ourselves.

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It's absolutely in God's hands!
Science can only take us so far with IVF and IUI. THe rest is whatever is meant to be.
Having gone through one failed IVF cycle, with 14 fertilized embryos and none making it to freezing, I believe in my heart that none of those were meant for me.
I look at things this way: People try naturally for months, sometimes years to have a baby. THey don't give up if it doesnt work the first month. they keep trying. They wouldn't say, "God doesnt want us to have kids:"
It's the same with all of us. We're trying to have children, just in a different way.
If we are able to have twins, then its what God sees as meant to be.

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I don't think it's entirely God's will.

When you take little hatching babies and stick multiple ones inside someones uterus and make them take medications that make their bodies react in a totally different way than they would have: YOU are intervening.

Don't get me wrong: intervention is good... I wouldn't be preggo without intervention.

Twins are one small thing (which happens often enough spontaneously): what about people who have GRAND multiple pregnancies due to IUI or IVF? Our bodies were never meant to do that: we forced them to. What about when the babies don't do well because they are born with medical conditions due to multiple pregnancy? What about people who have to reduce? Are they slaughtering a child that was God's idea? I don't think so.

God is certainly a part of this whole thing... but when we start with substantial medical intervention... the waters get muddy.

All things to discuss with your RE when figuring out #s.