taking a break? - update

Has anyone ever felt like taking a break from all of this for a month or so?

I've just come back from another RE appt. I've had appointments starting last thursday night, then friday morning, then monday, wednesday, today and i have to go in again tomorrow morning and Monday morning for the IUI.

I just feel like if it doesn't happen for us this month, then i'd like to take a break for the next month. The constant dr's appointments have caused me to be late for work 3 times this week, and i'll be in very late again on Monday after the iui.

I feel so guilty about thinking this way, but after 7 months of these RE visits, it's finally starting to take a toll on me. I'm stressed about missing work so much (my boss is understanding thankfully) and getting up so early each morning has made me exhausted this week.

Has anyone else taken a break for a month? We'll obviously keep trying, but on our own and without the constant monitoring.

5/10 update. Well, we had a BFN this month, so we'll definitely be taking a break for at least the next 2 months and then reassess what we want to do once our minds (and my body) are clearer.
Thanks again to everyone for feedback and advice.

Message edited 5/10/2010 11:25:49 AM.

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I'm sorry!



I think sometimes it can be a great idea to take a break. It allows you to re-group and take a month or two just to do somethings for yourself. Rather than just running around all the time for RE appts.....b/c they sure do run you down and stress us out. (especially the early morning appts).

Hopefully you wont need the break and will get YOUR BFP this cycle!!!

I am praying for your BFP this cycle.

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i took a break for two months cause i got a new job. my body also needed a break cause i did a clomid cycle, then an injectable cycle where i hyperstimmed and has OHSS, then 3 weeks of BCP, and then another injectable cycle that ended in a chemical, all back-to-back. i spend the last two months on just metformin and i felt really great.

there is absolutely nothing wrong with needing a break!! TTC with meds severely effects your body and emotional state - everyone needs a break sometimes.

i just started my next injectable cycle and i feel better than i did either of the previous 2 because i took time to recover and let my body do what it wanted to do without forcing meds on it.

dont be hard on yourself - take whatever time you need so that you are physically and mentally ready for baby!!

Message edited 4/23/2010 12:56:30 PM.

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i was "forced" to take a one month break after my ectopic and i thought it would really get to me to NOT be seeing the RE. but it turned out to be just what i needed. i spent the whole month not thinking about dr appointments and what my body was doing. it allowed me to refocus and start up again fresh.

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I think it's definitely a great idea to take a break and give your body some time to relax and get back to its natural cycle for once. You never know, I also hear people get pregnant naturally during the period when they take a break!
Good luck!

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I just posted something similiar. Part of me would LOVE to take a break from it all, i really am exhausted, emotionally and physically. But another part of me looks at it as "wasting" a month. I have to do a certain number of IUI's before getting approved for IVF so i feel if i waste a month it sets me so far back I already have to wait another 4-5 month as it is.
No real advice just lots of HUGS and i totally understand how you feel. Besy of luck to you.

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DH and I aren't even doing the constant monitoring with an RE and I took a month off last month. After 10mo of scheduling BDing and agonizing over the 2ww it was sooooo nice to just enjoy eachother casually, have a glass of wine when the mood struck and not obsess over the calendar. I thought I would feel badly "wasting" the time, but honestly it was wonderful and I feel so rejuvinated in the whole TTC process. Good Luck!! Lots of

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Sometimes we all need a break from it all

I feel so defeated every time I get AF, but then I start thinking that its a new month with a fresh start and I try to hope for the best.

If you feel like you need a month off, totally take it. Its whatever you feel comfortable with. Good luck with everything

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I have considered taking a break. It's a cycle for me.. usually I will start taking meds for stimming and decide at that point that I hate taking meds and if it doesn't work that cycle will take a break... then I enter the 2ww hopeful .. the time passes and I get a BFN and so upset that I'm not pregnant that I go right into another cycle despite any previous feelings about wanting a break.....

Then I start the stim cycle and say yet again, that if it doesn't work, I will take the next cycle off

In any case.. though we haven't taken any time off yet, I can totally understand wanting to!!!!!!!

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I had to take a break due to a conference that would fall on my o-time.

Honestly, it didn't help me... but if it helps you, go for it!

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So have you decided if you want to take a break?

Message edited 4/27/2010 11:18:30 AM.

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Not sure if this is feasible for you right now, but have you considered taking a short vacation, just you and DH. After 3 failed IUIs we went on a vacation and just one week together really helped bring us back together. We need to have FUN and not be consumed with the negativity that IF brings. I understand what you mean by it taking a toll on you and your DH. It really helped us and i hope even if its just a long weekend you guys get a chance to reconnect and refuel. I hope the break is exactly what you need and brings you lots of peace.....Many hugs to you

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I think its a good idea. We took a two month break in between iuis b/c we were just so stressed from it all. It is very stressful physically and emotionally and sometimes a break can rejuvenate you.

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Good luck! I'm sorry that you are going through so much right now. I just want to say that taking a break is so needed in between cycles. I also felt like the drugs, constant monitoring, not able to just BD whenever has taken a toll on DH and I as well. We are taking a break this month and so far, we've been so relaxed and it's so good to feel normal once again! I hope you'll get that relaxed feeling soon!

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thanks everyone for your support.. it really helps to know that other people out there are going through a similar thing, and that we're not horrible for wanting to step back for a month or two and take it easy.

fingers crossed we don't have to.. but if we do, we've come to terms with it.