I need to vent about MIL again....

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Message edited 11/27/2010 9:38:42 PM.

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No advice, just wanted to give you some hugs.

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Quite honestly - I think I would have to have a talk with her. I don't know why they didn't send the gifts to where the shower was and not for nothing - they all knew you knew when the shower was they could have sent the gifts to you.

What she is doing to you is not fair and it is not fair to JT either. Do not let him go get the gifts, have her bring them to you.

I am so sorry you have to go through this - this is such a happy time and this one person should not be bring you down

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Oh Rachel, I'm so sorry. I know this is driving you nuts inside. I'm sure a big part of you wants to tell JT that he can tell his "darling" mother to go scratch!!! I hate that she's being such an attention whore right now, when we all know she's perfectly healthy, and the focus should be on you and the granddaughter you're about to give her. I wish I had some great advice for you, but I really don't. In fact I let my SIL drive me batty just like your MIL does to you. But I do have plenty of hugs for ya!

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Message edited 11/27/2010 9:38:59 PM.

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Rachel- Your MIL is a serious piece of work. I give you credit for even attempting to bite your tongue. I am so sorry that she continues to mkae life difficult for you. After your little one arrives, all your attention will be on her and hopefully it will distract you from the shenanigans that MIL pulls. This should be one of the happiest times of your life don't give her the satisfaction of taking that from you.

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I think you are absolutely right about the gifts...JT calling would drive me insane, but maybe he really has to believe that she is sick? I don't know, I have no idea why people do things like this.

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I think you should and have every right to say something to her.

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What the hell is wrong with this women? You are 9 months pregnant and should not have to worry about any of this.


Do NOT let JT go over there and get the gifts.... I would be furious. She should have made arrangements for them to be brought to your shower.

I think you should confront her before this escalates even more.

i am so sorry you have to go through this.

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Hasn't your MIL is diagnosed with a mental illness? (Or maybe that was someone else's MIL?)

Anyway, I could see why you're upset. Actually if I were a relative, I'd be upset that she didn't give you my present at your shower.

I would let it go. I know it's really hard not to let this get to you but really, you don't need the stress. Have JT pick up the gifts (only because those relatives that sent them to her sent them along with their best wishes for the princess). Open the gifts, sent the thank yous to those relatives.

I think you should treat your MIL as you would anyone else who mistreated you, ie the other friend you mentioned.

My guess is there will only be one little woman that will have JT wrapped around her tiny finger in a few more weeks.

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Message edited 11/27/2010 9:39:24 PM.

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seriously rachel, why do u have to bite your tongue. IMO shes disrespected you and your home more then a few times. I would let her have it! Whats the difference...what is she gonna be mad at you? she already doesnt talk to you so BIG DEAL. shes got some screws loose. AND I'd kill my husband if he picked up those gifts! GOOD LUCK

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Posted by nrthshgrl

Hasn't your MIL is diagnosed with a mental illness? (Or maybe that was someone else's MIL?)

Anyway, I could see why you're upset. Actually if I were a relative, I'd be upset that she didn't give you my present at your shower.

I would let it go. I know it's really hard not to let this get to you but really, you don't need the stress. Have JT pick up the gifts (only because those relatives that sent them to her sent them along with their best wishes for the princess). Open the gifts, sent the thank yous to those relatives.

I think you should treat your MIL as you would anyone else who mistreated you, ie the other friend you mentioned.

My guess is there will only be one little woman that will have JT wrapped around her tiny finger in a few more weeks.

Re: I need to vent about MIL again....

Posted by nrthshgrl

Hasn't your MIL is diagnosed with a mental illness? (Or maybe that was someone else's MIL?)

Anyway, I could see why you're upset. Actually if I were a relative, I'd be upset that she didn't give you my present at your shower.

I would let it go. I know it's really hard not to let this get to you but really, you don't need the stress. Have JT pick up the gifts (only because those relatives that sent them to her sent them along with their best wishes for the princess). Open the gifts, sent the thank yous to those relatives.

I think you should treat your MIL as you would anyone else who mistreated you, ie the other friend you mentioned.

My guess is there will only be one little woman that will have JT wrapped around her tiny finger in a few more weeks.