What would you do in this situation?

A small dilemma..but its making me feel badly :(

I am the Matron of Honor in my best friends wedding. I set up the bach. party for her-limo rental, dinner, then off to manhattan to culture club.

Problem is..i'll be 7 months pregnant. I have such anxiety about being in a club/bar in NYC that night and wondering how i'll get around, have any room, will it be smoky etc....

Would you girls go and **** it up? Or go to everything else you could and let the rest of the bridal party and friends take her out?? I am so torn. She was at my bach party and although she was sick with strep that night she hung in there till almost the end.

I feel like a terrible friend if i cut out of the club aspect-but at the same time, I keep thinking about how i'll feel....keep in mind her shower is that morning which I'm also helping to plan. Long day!!!!

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i would not go.

as a bride i would totally understand your decision. the fact that you organized the whole thing is more than enough! hopefully she'll feel the same way...

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My personal opinion, I wouldn't go, too far from home if you aren't feeling well, alot of smoke I am sure and noise. This is just my opinion though - and if the shower is that day you will be exhausted, I was going to suggest maybe do a dinner locally before the club and participate in that?

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Maybe you could just go to the dinner part if you're feeling up to it? And have DH/someone pick you up afterwards and take you home?

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That is a very long day. I would sit her down and love on her and explain how much you love her, make it heartfelt so she knows you adore her.
Then explain that you are going to go to the shower but not the BP.

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I would go. I'm almost 7 months now and I feel great. I still go out with friends to all the places I went to before I was pregnant. At the very least, you may not feel comfortable in a club but I would do everything else. Smoking shouldn't be a problem since they don't allow that in clubs or bars anymore. Also, a lot of clubs have a lounge area where you can sit and relax.

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Personally I would not go but that is because I have bad back pain w/this pg and could not stand there all night and would be miserable sitting alone off to the sides. I also would not be able to stay up as late as everyone else so would probably end up sleeping in the limo - not ideal at all. You've done a lot in coordinating the whole thing and since it's the day of her shower I would do everything else except the club part. IMO that's just too much - it's a long day. Good luck w/your decision, I'm sure she'll understand if you decide not to go.

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For my SIL's bach party one of her BM's was about 7 mos pregnant and she came to Hogs 'n Heffers with us. I would never have. It was so crowded and obviously she stood the entire time. I think it is a personal decision and she will understand.

For my friend's bach party I plan on going to dinner just not out with them after, maybe you can do that and maybe take her to get a manicure during the day or something else special?

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I would not go. I'm sure your friend will understand.

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I would go out but not to culture club, it's so crowed there, i ccouldn't deal w/ that 7 months pg

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hmmmmmmm it depends on how you are feeling during your pregnancy..i went to my friend's bach party for the weekend at mohegan sun..now that was a little tough that night we went out..but i did last til like 4 am..it takes a toll on you..but if you decide otherwise im sure she will understand..you are carrying a baby!! good luck!!

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I definitely wouldn't go. Besides...if you are feeling lousy that may actually put a damper on the night for her. You are thinking of her in this situation also...not just yourself.

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Based on what you are saying...I would not go. Doesnt really sound like you want to do that part of the bach party. I would do as much as u can. I am also in a wedding party and will be 6 months preggo. I am planning to do the best I can but Hell no to smokey bars!

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I would absolutely not go into a club being 7 months pregnant.

Actually I was 6 months preggo at my sister's wedding in November and for her bachlorette party we went to the spa, dinner and after all the girls went to a club - except me. I didn't want to subject myself to the noise, smoke, crowd etc...and all the girls absolutely understood.

besides I keep thinking - people were going to look at me like I was some kind of freak with a bulging belly - dancing away in a club - but thats just me. I know I wouldn't of enjoyed myself.

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Unless you're going to few clubs/bars in Manhattan that allow smoking, you won't have to deal with it. What you will have to deal with is the crowd, swollen ankles, etc.

I probably would **** it up with the understanding that I can bail out early at any time. Cab it to Penn & grab a trainride home - or get a hotel in the city.

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I would do everything but skip the club. I've been to Culture Club quite a few times in my day and there is no lounge and it does get very crowded (not to mention going to the bathroom or trying to get water will not be easy.)

I had a friend who was only a few months pregnant around the time of by bach. party and she didn't feel comfy going out after dinner - I totally understood. I was happy she spent the day and went to dinner!

Do what feels right for you, I'm sure she'll understand.

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I wouldn't go. If you are good enough friends for her to ask you to be the matron of honor, then she will understand why you can't make it.

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I would probably go to dinner and then call it anight -