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Seconadary infertility... need opinions/help please
My OB told me today that it seems as if i a suffering from secondary infertility, yet he is determined to get to the bottom of it.
Quick background -
Trying for 8 months now after 1st DC, 2 (possibly 3) chemicals within a few months of each other.
I had a full hormonal workup which came out ***mostly*** normal (hard to say with some results because of the chemical) and now I am being told to go for 13 other genetic and other testings. Is that normal? Did anyone else go through this? I am almost praying at this point that they find something wrong so that it can just be treated already. I am almost ready to give up at this point, KWIM?
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lu235
LIF Adolescent
Member since 5/06 749 total posts
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Re: Seconadary infertility... need opinions/help please
I also have secondary infertility. I did the basic tests, DH had an SA, and everything came back normal. I also had 1 chemical pregnancy. My RE recommended IUI's first even though we never came up with a diagnosis because that would have been his treatment for the most common reasons for the secondary infertility. We got pregnant on the second IUI with Clomid and are now 21 weeks along with the pregnancy. Your RE may want you to do further testing because you had more chemical pregnancies, but you've shown that you are able to get pregnant and carry that pregnancy to term (with your first DC). HTH and good luck in your journey.
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Bxgell2
Perfection
Member since 5/05 16438 total posts
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Beth
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Re: Seconadary infertility... need opinions/help please
 I feel for you, I really do - I went through secondary infertility for two years, which was just boggling considering how easily I conceived Alex. With her, I got pregnant first month trying, miscarried and pregnant again a week later! Imagine our suprise when it took over two years and $30k in fertility treatments, and ultimately IVF, to conceive Yael 
Unbeknownst to me at the time, but apparently secondary infertility is VERY common - in fact, more common than primary infertility. My RE explained to me that pregnancy can change your body and hormones, and in addition, as you enter your thirties, to mid-thirties, women's bodies go through a significant hormonal change, which can definitely affect infertility.
My advice to you is not to give up - it's a challenge, but worth it in the end. And as much of a shock it may be after conceiving your first naturally, it just is what it is. Try as hard as you can to just accept it, without taking it personally. I would go with your doctor's recommendations and start the process, if having another baby is a priority for you. And seek out people to talk to - going through secondary infertility can be a very lonely experience. You don't quite fit in with your usual group of friends who are having their second nad third babies easily and don't understand what you are going through, and you don't quite fit in with women going through primary infertility because they often cannot understand the pain and longing that is associated with it, even if you already have a child.
During the process for me, this board helped tremendously, and I also started therapy to deal with my emotions. It was, admittedly, one of the hardest times of my life, but in the end, it brought me even closer to my DH, and in ultimately, brought into the world my little miracle, who is well worth those two years of tears, shots, and blood. 
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