Ok quick question for you newlyweds

I always to this day get these things messed up so i figured i'd ask her for proper etiquette.

So the proper gift for the engagement party is money?

And the bridal shower is off of the registry?

And then of course the wedding?

I have one of my friends engagement parties to go to in 2 weeks and she just asked me to be in the wedding. So i'm trying to remember what exactly i'm supossed to do and give when. I am soo scatterbrained lately.

TIA!!

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My parents insisted I registered for the E-Party and I got a lot of gifts off my registry for it. Actually it was nice because i got some of the more expensive things people wouldn't get at the shower.

I got some gifts for my wedding as well, though I find younger guests tend to give gifts and older guests give money, but I got crystal and Tiffany stuff from some of my parents friends.

When I am in a wedding I usually don't give money as a gift. I want to give them a present that they will look at and remember its from me. For my friend Lisa's wedding I gave her the crystal pitcher she registered for. I know thats something she will have for a long time and this way she will always look at it and say, Michelle gave me that.

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Engagement I think most people give gifts. Some ppl register, and others don't. If they have a registry already, I would pick something off there. If they don't, instead of cash, maybe a gift card so they can buy things they want. I feel like we we were given cash we used it towards bills, and stuff.

Shower- Off the registry.


Wedding- Cash.

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Actually our E-party we received all monetary gifts. Which we appreciated very much. We did not register as we were engaged only 3 months by the time we had our Eparty.

Shower i always purchase off the registry.

Weddings I always give money. Even if im in it. In fact if im in the wedding i tend to give a little more then if i was a regular guest.

HTH!

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Re: Ok quick question for you newlyweds

we didn't have an e-party, and i didn't want to register that early, but DH's family insisted. So we got gifts, money and/or gift cards. I liked any of them, but i think the best is either money or gift cards.

for the shower definitely try to give a gift from the registry. as part of the BP we gave a gift together and i also try to give something else small on my own, something they'll remember was from me!

for the wedding i always give money. i know people always say give more if you are in the wedding party, but hopefully the bride & groom know how much you are spending on their wedding.

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I also didn't register before my e-party (we were only engaged 4 months by then) so we mostly received cash and gift cards (BBB, Macy's, AmEx, etc.) A few people did give us wedding-related gifts, like a scrapbook or photo albums.
I've only been to one e-party other than my own and I gave cash.

I agree with what some of the other ladies said... if the couple is registered already, get something off the registry. If not, then I would give cash or a gift card.

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I did register before my engagement party at my mom's request. We didn't mention the registry in the invites or anything, it was pretty much word of mouth. We got a ton of gifts off our registry, some not from the regestry, and then lots of people gave cash. I guess if I remember correctly it was pretty well mixed.

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I say for the engagement party give whatever you feel more comfortable. Since you are going to be in the wedding you obviously know the couple, or at least one half really well so you could probably get them something useful or something that reflects their persnality even if they didn't register yet. HTH!

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I've either given cash/check or a registry gift for an engagement party...I've really only been to two...

Shower, always registry and wedding, always cash/check

HTH!

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We got a mix of registry and money for e-party (mostly registry), registry for shower, and money for the wedding (including a $100 savings bond from FIL's weird friend - did we make communion?!). I would probably do the same things for others' wedding events.

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I would give a gift from the registery for the E-party IF they are registered. If not I give cash.
Bridal Shower- Registery gift

Wedding - Cash. no matter if I am in the bridal party or not.