Re: Ladies- I could use some support or words of wisdom please

Posted by BaseballWidow

You'll always have a bit of sadness in your heart when you see the baby, in the hospaital or at home, but that love for him will also overwhelm you and hopefully give you a little break from the sadness. Do it on your own time, when you're ready...it will be more meaningful to you both!

Re: Ladies- I could use some support or words of wisdom please

You have to do what is right for you and not worry about what anyone else thinks. You have been through a lot and no one should fault you for dealing with this in your own way.

After my ectopic, I dealt with similar emotions and timing of my best friends' babies. It was extremely difficult. I just kept repeating to myself that other people's success had nothing to do with my failure and that God doesn't give out a finite number of babies a year.

Do what you need to do and take care of yourself. We'll all be here to support you no matter what!

Re: Ladies- I could use some support or words of wisdom please

unfortunately I know exactly how you feel my niece was born 4 days after I deliver my still born (dd) in the same hospital I think i was only able to go and see her b/c i was still numb you have had time to process it now and it is going to be very difficult and there is no shame to not go!!!

Re: Ladies- I could use some support or words of wisdom please

Although I never had a MC (because my body just doesn't want pregnancy), I was aiming for a child at the same time as my SIL (we both knew we were trying together & were so happy we would be home together & have cousins who were the same age). She got pregnant on the second month... I'm still trying....I stopped counting how many months later.

It HURT when her baby was born. What did help was that she KNEW (and is one of the few people who knows in my husband's family).

I went to go visit her in the hospital on the day she delivered (we are very close to them & we are godparents of her 1st child). Holding the little perfect one hurt... but was good at the same time. I don't know how to explain it.

I was very happy that I did go visit... as the little one went through a very big health scare a few days after coming out of the hospital. You never know.

I'm sorry that you have to go through this. It really stinks. Good luck in your decision.