Anyone ever fel like they have...

...very little in common with your single friends/coworkers? I work with a lot of people that are younger and/or unmarried, and I don't have anything to contribute to the hook up and hangover stories that are the staple in our teacher's lounge. After work, I want to go home and make dinner and spend some time with DH - while they're out at a "happy hour" that starts at 3:30 and ends the next morning. This absolutely was part of my life before DH, but I don't miss it. The thought of drinking myself blind and hitting on boys in a bar sounds more exhausting than fun. They call me "the old married lady."

Am I alone here or do other people feel like this?

Message edited 6/16/2009 8:21:58 AM.

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Most of my coworkers are older than me and have families, but I absolutely feel the same way as you! I used to go to happy hour every single Friday at my old job (years ago) and stay there until 1am... I used to love going out dancing w/ my friends... but now? I mean, I'm only 31 but I would MUCH rather stay home and snuggle on the couch w/ DH than go out to a bar! Don't get me wrong... every once in a while I love to get together with my group of friends (who are all married as well!) and have a few drinks and catch up... but I definitely do not miss the partying lifestyle!

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same here, but I do not miss it.... I love spending my time with my dh....

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For me it is kinda opposite I guess. I am the youngest of my co-workers, and several of them are not married. I was never really into the whole happy hour scene. DH & I have been dating since we were 19 so I guess we kinda went through that together. Some of my co-workers do say things like, "I can't believe your married." or "It sounds so weird to hear you say husband." I have also had the older much older support staff say "Your so young to be married."
I feel kinda out of the loop on things. I also kinda feel like I am resented for being married by some. Anyone else get those vibes?

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i get this ALOT!! im only 24 i was married 1 month after turning 23 and now being 8 months prengnat doesnt help the situation.. people look at me with this stupid pitty look like they feel bad for my and how my life is and mke comments like oh your so young to be wishing your life away being married with a baby on the way.. and im more then happy so it makes me angry!! things are going EXACTLY how i wanted! a little crazy and hectic at times but i love my life.. do i wish i had a little more me and DH time. yes of course but i wouldnt give up having this little girl for the world!!

sometimes when i hear my friends talk about going out to the bars for happy hour or just not having half the daily battles that i do i get a little jealous but i really wouldnt trade it.. DH and i have been dating since we were 17 and pretty much grew up together and had our time to party now its our time to be adults!

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honestly i wish i could go out more often with my single friends. I am tired of hanging around the few married friends i do have because all they do is complain and say how horrible married life is. Dh and I roll our eyes but with hectic schedules as of late we can't go out late nights so we are stuck with the old married couples LoL

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I actually have a great time with my single friends. I was never much of huge partier or drinker though. But often I find I'd rather be home with my husband and watching amovie or something simple. But going out is always fun.

Once in awhile I invite my friends over for dinner and wine. It's always fun to talk and laugh and drink wine!! LOL. Life changes yes, but you can change with it. Basically turn lemons into lemonade.

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I think I am in between!
I love to go out with my friends that are 'single' guys and girls alike. I have 2 sets of married friends. 1 set almost NEVER goes out to bars / clubs etc.. The other set, like to go out occassionaly, but have people over a lot.
DH and I go out alone and together at times. We have mostly the same friends. Except for some of the LIW / LIF chicas.

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I just reread my origional post. DH and I go out with our friends, alone and together. We're not hermits or anything. But we're far from the club/hookup/hangover routine, and that's still a huge part of my single friends' lives. I still see them, and we do other things... it's just made the relationship different, I guess.

Message edited 6/18/2009 9:34:44 AM.

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I was JUST having this convo with someone, how I just can't relate to my single, unmarried friends!!

I just can't relate to their stories... lifestyle... it feels like we have been drifting apart. On the flip side, I have been getting A LOT closer with my married or almost married friends!

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