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MrsMaz
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Opinions please. (Regarding M/C)
I just found out that someone I know just had a miscarriage. She is my DH's friend's wife and thus they are obviously mutual friends of ours. I don't know how to give her my sympathies because I'm pretty sure she is in no mood to talk to alot of people right now and I know when I suffer any type of loss and people talk to me I end up crying. So I don't want to make her feel any worse than she already is but I want to let her know that we're thinking of them and we're sorry.
I have thought of sending her a "Thinking of You" bouquet of flowers or maybe a card.
What should I do?
TIA
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Posted 3/15/06 10:21 PM  |
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dawnygirl25
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Re: Opinions please. (Regarding M/C)
I think sending her a bouquet of flowers is a really sweet idea. just enclose a card saying thinking of you during this time...or something like that.
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| Posted 3/15/06 10:43 PM |
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CkGm
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Re: Opinions please. (Regarding M/C)
Having just experienced one, I would have been extremely touched to receive such an offering. Also, I did not mind words of condolences, in fact, I wished I had received more of them. Most people said, don't worry, you will try again.
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| Posted 3/16/06 12:08 AM |
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Diane
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Re: Opinions please. (Regarding M/C)
Posted by dawnygirl25
I think sending her a bouquet of flowers is a really sweet idea. just enclose a card saying thinking of you during this time...or something like that.
This is perfect
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| Posted 3/16/06 7:36 AM |
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2kids2cats
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Re: Opinions please. (Regarding M/C)
That is a perfect idea. My bosses did that for me and its something that eased the pain a bit and I will never forget it.  to your friend.
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| Posted 3/16/06 7:54 AM |
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dandr10199
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Re: Opinions please. (Regarding M/C)
Posted by Diane
Posted by dawnygirl25
I think sending her a bouquet of flowers is a really sweet idea. just enclose a card saying thinking of you during this time...or something like that.
This is perfect
I agree
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| Posted 3/16/06 8:12 AM |
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btrflygrl
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Re: Opinions please. (Regarding M/C)
I'd make her a meal or offer to just spend time with her. In all honesty, when I m/c I had no one around, DH Was as comforting as he could be when he was home and for a few days I was in so much pain, I could hardly get off the couch. then I was in NO mood to cook, clean, etc.
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| Posted 3/16/06 8:16 AM |
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2kids2cats
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Re: Opinions please. (Regarding M/C)
Posted by btrflygrl
I'd make her a meal or offer to just spend time with her. In all honesty, when I m/c I had no one around, DH Was as comforting as he could be when he was home and for a few days I was in so much pain, I could hardly get off the couch. then I was in NO mood to cook, clean, etc.
For me, it was very difficult to cope and during that time I wanted to just be alone with DH or my mom and feel sorry for myself. I guess we all cope differently and I can't imagine being far away from my family at that time.
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| Posted 3/16/06 8:22 AM |
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robcoll1002
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Re: Opinions please. (Regarding M/C)
I would call her to see how she is doing. If she doesn't feel like talking she will let you know. I had three m/c's but most of our friends only know about the last one because I was further along. A friend of mine called me and I can't beleive how much I talked. All the anger, sadness and frustration came pouring out and she just let me talk. So my advice would be if you do call.. LET HER TALK. I found it hard to express my emotions after a couple of days with DH because I was always making sure he was ok. This friend became my outlet, she never said the things you don't want to hear like...When the time is right or Things happen for a reason or You're still young..blah, blah, blah. She just listened. She won't expect you to understand what she is feeling.
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| Posted 3/16/06 9:25 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: Opinions please. (Regarding M/C)
I think the flowers are a wonderful idea. I would follow it up with a phone call saying that you are checking in on her and wanted to see how she was doing. As with any loss, there is no "advice" to give, just listen, and tell her you are there for her.
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| Posted 3/16/06 9:44 AM |
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KangaMom
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Re: Opinions please. (Regarding M/C)
A phone call letting her know how sorry you are and that you are there for her is fine. Or even flowers with a note is fine too.
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| Posted 3/16/06 12:29 PM |
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FeliciaDP
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Re: Opinions please. (Regarding M/C)
Posted by dawnygirl25
I think sending her a bouquet of flowers is a really sweet idea. just enclose a card saying thinking of you during this time...or something like that.
This is a perfect idea. After my M/C last September, quite a few of my wonderful friends did this for me.. sent flowers and cards, and/or were just there to listen (be it online or the phone, etc..) It really helped MORE than you can imagine. Just to know that people thought of me, acknowledged my loss, and recognized I was grieving...well it meant so so much to me
Message edited 3/16/2006 12:39:34 PM.
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| Posted 3/16/06 12:38 PM |
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Re: Opinions please. (Regarding M/C)
I dunno.. my sister had a m/c and she didn't want to talk about it or hear about it from anyone... it really depends on the individual person.
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| Posted 3/16/06 1:04 PM |
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MsG
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Re: Opinions please. (Regarding M/C)
Posted by knotted
I dunno.. my sister had a m/c and she didn't want to talk about it or hear about it from anyone... it really depends on the individual person.
I tend to agree, it really depends on the person. I wanted hugs from people I loved, but that's it. I really don't want to discuss it or be reminded of it. However, I am sure flowers or a card will be appreciated for the thought, just know it might not be what the person needs or wants.
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