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headoverheels
s'il vous plaît
Member since 6/07 42079 total posts
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LB
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dear supervisor,
i am so friggin glad that you got to take a while year off to be with your first child. i am so happy for you that you could afford to not get paid for over 12 months. i am well aware that i will "never get this time back" with my first child. do you think i WANT to come back to work and be away from my baby?
i get paid in one day what it will cost us for an entire week in day care. so no, part time is not an option. and unlike you, who has been married to a CO for over 10 years, my DH and i are still struggling after less than one year of marriage, and we have bills to pay. so paying for health insurance while not collecting a paycheck is not an option for me, sorry.
yeah, i'll "think about it" - i'll think about it every day when i have to leave my baby at home and come into work to deal with the dregs of society. thanks. i'll make sure to "think about it" every single stinkin day.
  
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MsMBV
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Member since 5/05 28602 total posts
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Me
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Re: dear supervisor,
 I feel you. The only reason I got to stay home with DS for as long as I did is because I got laid off when my maternity was over. It was a devastating financial blow. This time I am back to work at 8 weeks. You do what you have to. 
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| Posted 8/21/08 9:35 AM |
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MrsPornStar
Partners in crime
Member since 10/05 14656 total posts
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Mama
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Re: dear supervisor,
So sorry, LB.
People really are idiots. NO ONE has a right to question your decisions. You are doing what is best for you and your family. THE END. You are already a wonderful mother.
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| Posted 8/21/08 10:24 AM |
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Celt
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Member since 4/08 7758 total posts
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colette
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Re: dear supervisor,
OMG how insensitive!
I am so sorry your supervisor is so unrealistic-- i know there are mommies who would rather work than stay home, but I am not one of them. If finances alllowed it I'd be home with  every single day til he started school
The whole setup just makes me want to move to Canada, you know, 1 year PAID maternity leave, STANDARD.
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| Posted 8/21/08 10:25 AM |
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sarahbelle
Little drummer boy
Member since 5/05 2377 total posts
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Sarah
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Re: dear supervisor,
That's terrible. This is one of the things I feel most guilty about also. My mom keeps mentioning how she stayed home with us until we were 10 and 12, but I just don't have that option. We can't afford our home on just one salary.
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| Posted 8/21/08 11:38 AM |
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1stimemom
Love my boys
Member since 2/08 8766 total posts
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Mrs Dee
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Re: dear supervisor,
I know. People in my HR dept are shocked that I am not taking the full 12 weeks FMLA. I cannot go for 6 weeks without getting $$$! Don't you think I would if I could?!?!? People suck. You have to do what is best for your family
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| Posted 8/21/08 11:47 AM |
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MsMBV
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Member since 5/05 28602 total posts
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Me
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Re: dear supervisor,
Posted by sarahbelle
That's terrible. This is one of the things I feel most guilty about also. My mom keeps mentioning how she stayed home with us until we were 10 and 12, but I just don't have that option. We can't afford our home on just one salary.
I kind of had a discussion like that as well. I told he when she finds me a $40K house, a $5K car, and gas for less than a dollar a gallon on LI, then I can stay home.
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| Posted 8/21/08 12:42 PM |
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twinkletoes807
Mommy's Girls! ♥
Member since 11/07 10116 total posts
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Gabi
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Re: dear supervisor,
 People are asssholes!! I'm so pisssed for you right now!!
Message edited 8/21/2008 12:44:58 PM.
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| Posted 8/21/08 12:44 PM |
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junebride06
love my boys!
Member since 2/08 3181 total posts
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Robin
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Re: dear supervisor,
I'm sorry about your boss! It's not easy and some people will never comprehend what you are feeling.
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| Posted 8/21/08 12:47 PM |
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wannabemom
look who's freshly baked!
Member since 12/07 7364 total posts
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Re: dear supervisor,
what an @hole. as if ANY of us would choose to leave our babies
she really has her head up her @ss.
sorry you had to endure that conversation
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| Posted 8/21/08 1:59 PM |
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BlondeMom
LIF Infant
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Re: dear supervisor,
Ummmmm - Did your 'supervisor' ever take an HR course ?? B/c she should NOT be telling you that - 'friendly' or not with her, she's your boss, and that is an inappropriate conversation ..........
Message edited 8/21/2008 2:05:37 PM.
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| Posted 8/21/08 2:01 PM |
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Lizzy
Carson's Mama
Member since 2/08 2430 total posts
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Elisabeth
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Re: dear supervisor,
One of my co-workers told me the same thing. It was like being punched in the stomach.
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| Posted 8/21/08 2:12 PM |
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Ang-Rich
Beyond Compare
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Re: dear supervisor,
Posted by BlondeMom
Ummmmm - Did your 'supervisor' ever take an HR course ?? B/c she should NOT be telling you that - 'friendly' or not with her, she's your boss, and that is an inappropriate conversation ..........
I was thinking the same thing...very inappropriate for her to discuss anything along these lines. 
Message edited 8/21/2008 2:23:53 PM.
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| Posted 8/21/08 2:21 PM |
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headoverheels
s'il vous plaît
Member since 6/07 42079 total posts
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LB
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Re: dear supervisor,
thanks for all the support ladies - i am actually surprised that i didn't burst out crying right there in her office.
we are very friendly, it's just that type of work environment, but she is very opinionated (about everything, but especially parenting) and there's not a whole lot i can do about that.
Posted by BlondeMom
Ummmmm - Did your 'supervisor' ever take an HR course ?? B/c she should NOT be telling you that - 'friendly' or not with her, she's your boss, and that is an inappropriate conversation ..........
i do agree with you, but it's the kind of work environment where i can't really complain about her - there is no such thing as anonymous since she only supervises 4 people.
if it was something more serious, i would talk to HR, believe me... but this was a situation where i know she was just trying to be motherly and helpful and it didn't work out that way.
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| Posted 8/21/08 2:21 PM |
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