Family Stressing Me Out!

As if the IVF process isn't stressful enough, I now have the added pressure of my family. I confided in my parents that DH and I were doing IVF and now they are making me nutts! They call me every day asking how I am doing, when is my pregnancy test, can they tell their friends and other family members, etc. I know they are excited but I am so aggravated. I am also really worried that if it turns out to be a BFN, they are going to be more crushed than DH and I. I explained repeatedly that this is a 50/50 success rate at best. My mom is talking about buying baby clothes and baby showers for crying out loud!!! I just don't need this added pressure right now. I almost wish I had never told them. Sorry for the long vent.

ETA: I think I am going to take my phone off the hook!

Message edited 8/13/2008 12:04:17 PM.

Re: Family Stressing Me Out!

I know how you feel. They really just don't understand. It was a tough decision for us to let our families know what was going on. My IL's were always so good about not asking any questions unless we brought it up. My family on the other hand.... After my step-mother told me I was overreacting about my m/c I told everyone not to ask anymore questions that we would tell them when we had something to tell. They were pretty good for the most part about respecting that.

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r u sure we dont share the same family?!?! what you wrote is what i would of wrote to explain what im going though with my family. we havent even told DH mom and dad cause we cant even handle hearing my side of the family my grandma is the worst!! she is telling me all these wives tails and getting me all scared i have to remember she is older then me and just wants the best but i know whats best for me and DH. im sorry your going through this also im here to talk about it. FM me anytime cause I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL!!!!

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Sorry you have to deal with that but you have to be firm and set guidelines.

After confiding in my family I told them not to ask questions - wait for me to begin topics.

Also my golden rule is "no news is bad news" so my mom knew if she didn't hear from me to leave me alone so I could deal with my bfn or whatever else was bad at that time.

But definitely try to work something out with them, you really don't need the extra stress on top of a cycle

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Sorry about your family, I'm sure you know this, but they are only concerned for you. They just don't realize they are being annoying!!

SInce we have decided to start over, I have only told my BFF, that is all, no family and no one else, less questions, less stress.