Need Help w/hiding in the early stages

Ok, so I'm about 5 weeks preggos (possibly 6). I don't have my first Dr apt until 6/2/08 due to scheduling. We wanted to tell our parents & family members & close friends after we went to the doctor.

This Saturday we are going to a friends BBQ. Well, I used to smoke (recently stopped again once I found out I was preggo) and I would def. partake in some beers if I wasn't preggo. I know 4 of the people there will def. notice. What excuses can I give for not smoking (I can say I quit) AND not drinking? I know they will think we're preggo especially since they know we've been TTCing. I just am so nervous. I'll feel more calm once we see the doctor. Any advice?

Thanks

Message edited 5/23/2008 9:02:34 AM.

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Well I know people who socially smoke and it is usually when they drink. They say if you want to quit smoking then you need to also quit the habits tht go along with it. So I would just say you quit and you don't want to drink because you are gonna want to smoke. Or you can say you are taking meds and can't drink and you quit smoking.

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I used to smoke and for me drinking alcohol or coffee just went with smoking - so i gave up all of them for awhile until I felt comfortable that I could have a beer without wanting a cig.


Tell them you are afraid if you have a beer, you'll give in and have a smoke also.

Message edited 5/23/2008 9:07:02 AM.

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I was in a similar situation. Of course everyone said, she's pregnant because I wasn't drinking (I am but they don't need to know that). My DH said we're trying and she could be BUT we just don't know yet because it's too early and she doesn't want to drink.

So, you could always just say "I could be but I won't know for another couple of weeks"

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Posted by Tina1117

I was in a similar situation. Of course everyone said, she's pregnant because I wasn't drinking (I am but they don't need to know that). My DH said we're trying and she could be BUT we just don't know yet because it's too early and she doesn't want to drink.

So, you could always just say "I could be but I won't know for another couple of weeks"

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Oh and one thing my other friend did is bought a six pack and emptied out all the beer and refilled it with water then put the cap back on (as tight as she could). She just made sure that was her "six pack" and no one touched it.

Very clever but too much work for me.

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I don't know if this would work for you, but I have bad allergies so I recently told everyone that I was on strong antibiotics for an upper respiratory infection & that I couldn't misbehave because of the meds. When they asked how I felt, I said "fine - 100% actually. I've only got 2 days left on the pills, but my doc made me promise that I'd be good until they're gone." That kind of explained why I looked fine...but VERY tired

I was going to try ordering different drinks, etc. but my DH felt that everyone would see right through that. The meds were a more believable story for me Good luck!!

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Okay, tell them that you quit smoking. As for drinking... fake it! Take a bottle of beer and sip from it. When you get a chance, go to the bathroom and pour it out and fill it with water. I went to a wedding early on and didn't fake it and rumor were flying around about me. I told them that I had a urinary tract infection and that I couldn't drink. Didn't work. Good luck.

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Since they know that you are TTC...

Why not just tell them that you decided to quit both to help with TTC. Play it off like this was a new decision to help..and hopefully it works

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Maybe you could say you are on antibiotics so you can't drink

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I found out I was pregnant on superbowl sunday and we were going to a party that day. DH and I brought cans of beer with us to the party and I just held a can of beer open the whole time and pretended like I was taking sips. No one had any clue. It was great.
Good luck!

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quitting smoking for your health

no drinking because of medication

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Posted by Ang-Rich

Since they know that you are TTC...

Why not just tell them that you decided to quit both to help with TTC. Play it off like this was a new decision to help..and hopefully it works

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Hold a beer. Let DH drink it on the DL. A sip here, a sip there or goinside to the bathroom and pour some out so it appears that you are drinking. This is what I did. My SIL is always making pitchers of specialty drinks and it would have been so obvious if I declined. DH had no problem picking up my slack.

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Posted by GraciesMom

Hold a beer. Let DH drink it on the DL. A sip here, a sip there or goinside to the bathroom and pour some out so it appears that you are drinking. This is what I did. My SIL is always making pitchers of specialty drinks and it would have been so obvious if I declined. DH had no problem picking up my slack.

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pretend you are sick. come in looking tired and coughing

also, get a bottle of beer and bring it into the bathroom. dump it down the sink and fill it with water. no one will ever know as long as it's a dark bottle (like bud light)

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hold a drink in your hand and dont drink it, or get one of the big red plasic cups and say you are drinking a beer from a cup today.

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Well saying that you quit smoking shouldn’t really bother people much.

When I was quitting smoking (years ago) I also weaned off drinks because if I had a drink I wanted a cigarette. They went so hand and hand. It’s a honest answer and I think smokers would understand.

Otherwise I usually use
- I’m driving (Cause everyone I know – knows I detest any drinking and driving)
- I’m taking meds (for allergies, getting over a upper respiratory infection, etc) and can’t mix it with the meds – I used this one for SUCH a long time (I didn’t share our secret until after the scary three months were up)
- If you drink mix drinks, get your DH/SO to pour you a cup of sprite and cranberry (bring your own if you have to) it makes a great cover and say you’re in the mood for something sweet. Make sure you KNOW who refills your cup.
- Say that you and your SO/DH went out the night before sort of on the whim and you’re recovering.. and want to stick with water. It’s a great cover for the weariness too and selective eating

Best of Luck