Posted by EckoRed81504 An intervention was needed years ago but everytime we tired nothing worked.
It's real bad. I don't know what to do anymore.
There may not be anything you CAN do... and accepting that doesn't mean that you're giving up. It's very natural to feel like you need to try harder, do something different, say something better to help them, but people with addictions will only change when and if they themselves are ready, despite the best efforts of everyone around them who loves them.
I don't know if you're into support groups, but Al-Anon is full of people who've been there and understand how you feel and where you're coming from.