Any thoughts would be appreciatee.

Not to go into the long sordid story. Here is the problem. My DH's sister hates me, she didnt like his ex either. It got so bad that about 11/2yrs ago, she threatened me (she is a drunk) and I told her that if she didnt back off I would call CPS. Keep in mind this was after walking into his parents house and being screamed at. Anyway, she started text messaging my dh last night starting at 1030pm and ending at 2am. Some of the things she said were that I was lucky she didnt get me fired (I work for the state) and that there are a bunch of complaints against me for threatening children and that she found all this out by calling the state.

I told my dh that I cant have her in my house again (ever). But I told him that I was thinking of getting an order of protection and suing her for slander or defamation of character (the atty fees wouldnt be an issue). He wants me to just ignore her. I am not sure what to do, she is the type that as soon as I have a baby and she finds out from their parents that she would call CPS and start to make my life hell. What would you do? Talking to her is not an option, she is really (not just saying this) not mentally stable and she is a serious alcoholic.

Re: Any thoughts would be appreciatee.

U have alot of your own answers in your posting. She is not mentally stable and is an alcoholic. I would definitely not call CPS, get a lawyer etc... that all escalates problems for you, problems for her, problems for DH and family. Slander and defam. usually does not hold up in court so that would cause problems with a possibility of u not winning. (which would totally not be a positive outcome). What I would do as u said is NEVER have her in my home again. Look at the drama and aggravations its causing u. The problems she has that u state sound like she doesnt need to be with you and DH in the first place. Its his sister and if problems are as severe as they sound in terms of leading to violence...protect yourself....stay away. I work with the mentally ill in counseling situations. U need to give some time and space for both of your sakes. Her problems will not disappear overnite. As much as it hurts u and u feel your hands are tied, there is not much more u can do. she needs to help herself. But dont start deeper problems that u all cant creep out of. Hope some of my advice helps.

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I would just file a police report to at least have all this stuff on file and recorded. God forbid something were to happen, it would be on file and it's proof that you and were having problems. It's a tough situation since it's your DH's sister. Good luck!

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Posted by LadyLainez

I would just file a police report to at least have all this stuff on file and recorded. God forbid something were to happen, it would be on file and it's proof that you and were having problems. It's a tough situation since it's your DH's sister. Good luck!

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I have to agree with the others - file a report now.

CPS takes thier jobs very seriously (with good reason). If you have the documentation that she is harassing you, they will take any report they receive from her with a grain of salt. Such a shame their time is wasted on people like this - they could be doing a lot of good somewhere else.

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I am a little confused. I am not disagreeing with anyone, I just want to know how she is going to make the report. Is this report made based on all kinds of past allegations or does she make this report based on last nites computer conversation. I would think something specific, right now, would have to have happened for her to make a police report. Ive never made one as you can probably tell so I am not sure what a police report would do for her.

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A police report for harassment would bolster her case if in the future the psycho SIL decides to call child protective services when they have children. CPS will still need to investigate, but would recognize that there are other issues involved in making this report.

My aunt & uncle had CPS called when my cousin got in a fight with a girl in HS. The girl called them saying my cousin was being abused. Later on, they filed charges against the girl in HS which helped them later on.

The police report would be based on last night's computer/text messages. Any further crazy interactions should also be documented.

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I agree that even if you don't officially file a police report, you should document anything and everything she does! If you can, maybe consult with a lawyer who can help advise you on how to proceed with the situation, esp since it's a sensitive one involving family.