Re: judgment

I think its really hard to decide this before it ever happens....

The question is if you say that you would not leave your marriage for infidelity, is that an open invitation to cheat? (not that I thnk it is...but some people might take it as that)

Re: judgment

Well....

Heres the thing - just like when people said they only get offended depending on what is said and where its coming from, etc - this applies here as well.

For some people, they will deal with being treated like crap due to infideltiy, and may be trying to keep up their end of the bargain when the other person could obviously give less than a rat's arse. If you constantly see someone in a situation like that, its hard to support it, respect it, or admire it.

But, if you see someone willing to work, and getting the other person on the same page and seeing a productive thing happening, then yes - accidents, mistakes, whatever we want to call them, may happen and be a lesson rather than a complete disaster.

But it is so individual. Judgement nor kudos can not be dispensed like candy. Its case by case, plain and simple.