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Re: spinoff to proposals at weddings

I had a gf at the wedding who was PGH, but i didn't know until after the wedding. She didn't tell me b/c she didn't want to spoil my day. (not that it would spoil it, but I think you know what I mean.)

Depending on who it was, I don't think it would bother me.

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Posted by QuoteTheRaven424

Posted by Bxgell2

I don't know how, when or why, but somehow weddings morphed from a family/village/town celebration, to a day in which all focus should be placed on the bride, and sometimes, the groom. It's warped thinking to me, I mean, really the whole point of a wedding is to get all the family and friends together in one big room and CELEBRATE together as a family, not so that one or two people can have a day where they expect every bit of focus be on them for 6 hours.

I would have been beyond ecstatic if my family or friends announced their engagement or pregnancy at my wedding - all the MORE reason to celebrate and be happy together.

And, seriously, does anyone REALLY believe that someone announcing their pregnancy or engagement is going to "distract" their guests? And even if it does, it's like 10 minutes, at most. Is it THAT big of a deal in the grand scheme of things? There are people on this planet who would KILL to have this as their biggest problem in life.

Wow....

defensive much?

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My cousin's did this at my brother's wedding. It was perfect because all of the family was together. In my opinion, it did not take away from the occasion at all. Let's not forget that the world does not stop when someone gets married. I totally agree with BXgell!!!

Message edited 3/3/2008 3:58:46 PM.

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Posted by Bxgell2

Posted by QuoteTheRaven424

Posted by Bxgell2

I don't know how, when or why, but somehow weddings morphed from a family/village/town celebration, to a day in which all focus should be placed on the bride, and sometimes, the groom. It's warped thinking to me, I mean, really the whole point of a wedding is to get all the family and friends together in one big room and CELEBRATE together as a family, not so that one or two people can have a day where they expect every bit of focus be on them for 6 hours.

I would have been beyond ecstatic if my family or friends announced their engagement or pregnancy at my wedding - all the MORE reason to celebrate and be happy together.

And, seriously, does anyone REALLY believe that someone announcing their pregnancy or engagement is going to "distract" their guests? And even if it does, it's like 10 minutes, at most. Is it THAT big of a deal in the grand scheme of things? There are people on this planet who would KILL to have this as their biggest problem in life.

Wow....

defensive much?

Not defensive at all actually! What would I have to be defensive about? It's just my opinion - these kind of posts truly boggle my mind.

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Posted by JennZ

Yes, yes and yes. Annocements like that should wait until the next day or any other time that it wont take away from

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Posted by QuoteTheRaven424

Posted by Bxgell2

I don't know how, when or why, but somehow weddings morphed from a family/village/town celebration, to a day in which all focus should be placed on the bride, and sometimes, the groom. It's warped thinking to me, I mean, really the whole point of a wedding is to get all the family and friends together in one big room and CELEBRATE together as a family, not so that one or two people can have a day where they expect every bit of focus be on them for 6 hours.

I would have been beyond ecstatic if my family or friends announced their engagement or pregnancy at my wedding - all the MORE reason to celebrate and be happy together.

And, seriously, does anyone REALLY believe that someone announcing their pregnancy or engagement is going to "distract" their guests? And even if it does, it's like 10 minutes, at most. Is it THAT big of a deal in the grand scheme of things? There are people on this planet who would KILL to have this as their biggest problem in life.

Wow....

defensive much?

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And just to add, we might announce our pregnancy to the family the week of my SIL wedding. All of our family would be in town and we will be 13 weeks by then. My SIL does not care.

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Posted by Shelly
My wedding was made up mostly of people I love. If they had good news, I would want to celebrate it on a day that is made for celebrating. I was so happy on my wedding day, hearing good news of someone I love could only make me happier. I didn't even think about how it would detract attention from me.

I'm sorry, I just don't get how people think that another;s happiness, good news or baby "steals the thunder" from the bride.

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I think in certain circumstances (depending on the person, how it is announced, etc.), it can pull attention away from the bride and groom.

I think it's one of those things that you are probably better off announcing another day.

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Posted by rojerono

I would be thrilled for the expectant couple and would probably take the mic from the DJ to announce the pregnancy if the couple would let me!

My wedding was great - I had plenty of spotlight and I wouldn't have minded sharing it at all. It would be great to talk about years down the road. "We found out your mom and dad were pregnant with you on our wedding day!"

ETA: Although I would not mind as a bride - I would never announce any news on someone elses wedding day, engagement party, baby shower, etc... because I am very low key and would prefer to have any kind of news spread out quietly and in a less overt manner. Plus I recognize that a lot of women truly enjoy their moment in the sun and would be upset/offended if their spotlight was moved a bit.

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I was totally going to say I don't think I'd have a big problem with someone announcing their pregnancy at my wedding. I was thinking of how happy I'd be for whoever it was, and how getting married and having a baby are two different things (as opposed to the scenario with someone proposing marriage at my wedding - that, I'd mind), and a pregnancy announcement won't necessarily be competition for the attention paid to the couple getting married.

But then I imagined it was my SIL announcing her pregnancy. And I imagined how MIL would react, and knowing her, she'd make sure that everyone from their side would make a huge deal out of it, and really would stop paying attention to the wedding stuff.

So I changed my mind. I think whether or not I'd be upset entirely depends on the person who's pregnant, how it's handled (if they let me know first, etc.), and things like that. Still not saying I'd definitely be angry, but I see that the potential for the couple getting married to feel slighted is there.

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agreed with the majority that a wedding is a bride and groom's day...

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I had a sort of similar situation when I was starting to announce my pregnancy with DS. I was just 3 months and we let our parents tell their friends. DH and I were going to an engagement party/meet the couple party for friends of ours who had recently gotten engaged. The bride is the daughter of my mom's best friends. I asked my mom to wait to tell her BFF until after the party because I didn't want my pregnancy to be the focus of the party (I knew everyone there). My mom ended up telling her but told her I wasn't "public" yet so not to make a big deal. A few people that found out quietly congratulated me.

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If it were a very close friend or family, I would be ecstatic, and happily have them announce at the Wedding.

If it were someone who knew few people there, who was clearly doing it for attention (maybe someone i 'had to' invite), i would be annoyed.

My SIL battled infertility for years before adopting. I would have given anything for her to be able to announce her pregnancy at my wedding. Sadly, it was not in the cards for her.

ETA- I would not feel comfortable announcing my own pregnancy at a Wedding, but that is mostly because i hate being the center of attention!

Message edited 3/3/2008 6:13:01 PM.

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I think ANY kind of special announcements (engagement, pregnancy, etc..) is taking away from the reason of the celebration in the first place.

Plain rude and inappropriate.

Yes, if you show up 5 months PG and people did not see you in 1 year, it's quite obvious people are going to ask you questions. There is a tactful way to answer to it.

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Totally rude

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I couldn't care less whether or not I was the ABSOLUTE center of attention at my wedding... I'm still the one in the white dress with a glass a Champagne in her hand, who JUST married her best friend.

you could kick puppies in front of me and it wouldn't have deterred me from my happiness.

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I personally would never do something like this at a wedding. While I do not think it will take attention away from the bride and groom, I do think it is rude.

I was engaged at my cousin's wedding and I felt like everyone kept asking me how my planning was going and I kept trying to get the attention off of me. It just felt like it should be her day.

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this happened at a friend of mines wedding and I don't think it took anything away from her wedding. It was a friend of ours/friend in her wedding party. They tried to be secretive but I figured it out

I think if they wouldve went around announcing to everyone and saying it in a certain way it could've taken the spotlight away from her but they were very respectable.

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Posted by JennZ

Yes, yes and yes. Annocements like that should wait until the next day or any other time that it wont take away from