i've never told dh he can't go... and in all the time we've been together, it hasn't come up which i am thankful for. i am obviosuly in the minority but the way i personally feel about them - not a fan, at all. i don't knock strippers for working there, or single guys for going, or even couples if that's your thing... but for a married man to pay money to see some girl shake her whatever in his face, when he can get it for free at home, from the woman he is supposed to be devoted to... the thought just makes me ill. i feel like that is degrading to the sanctity of marriage, in a way. like it takes away what's just supposed to be for one another, somehow. just my opinion - i know not many, if any, will agree with me and that's okay. and as far as lap dances, that's cheating IMO.