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princess99
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WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
My very weird SIL had her baby on
1-4-08. No one in the family knew until last night, ( 1-09-08) when my other SIL called becuase she just found out. MY BIL, DH Brother called us and told us to call him he has been busy, and that is it..... Also, weird SIL had said no one is seeing baby for 3 months.... We are so angry and hurt... DH does not know what do say or do, my other SIL and BIL are annoyed too. I am hurt and annoyed. Any advice???????
PS baby is healthy.
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princess99
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
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rose825
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
does your DH have a relationship with his brother that he could sit him down and ask what is going on.
It does seem strange but they must have some rationale
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| Posted 1/10/08 7:20 AM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
That is strange that they wouldnt call and tell you they had the baby. I wonder if they called her family. As for the 3 months thing, that is also weird to me. I know the dr's want you to be very careful the first 3 months, but to not want anyone to see the baby is odd. I can't imagine she is going to stay in the house all day, every day by herself with the baby for 3 months  she would lose her mind.
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
Okay, I am about to have a baby and i do find this weird and upsetting. NO ONE can see the baby? I would like to limit the visitors to my house because it is flu season, but I would never restrict family from coming over to see the baby! I think that your BIL & SIL are a little crazy! Sorry, I have no advice!
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| Posted 1/10/08 7:22 AM |
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princess99
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
They are crazy and weird. She said in a parenting class she took they told her no one should see the baby for 3 months???!! We were like maybe they meant not to take the baby out to public places for the 3 months. It is like she is making her own rules. Yes- weird.... That poor baby. Meanwhile my DH is very annoyed as well as the rest of us.
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| Posted 1/10/08 7:51 AM |
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LaurenExp
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
Posted by princess99
They are crazy and weird. She said in a parenting class she took they told her no one should see the baby for 3 months???!! We were like maybe they meant not to take the baby out to public places for the 3 months. It is like she is making her own rules. Yes- weird.... That poor baby. Meanwhile my DH is very annoyed as well as the rest of us.
But what about calling? No one can speak about the baby for 3 months, too? You know what, if they want to be paranoid freaks about seeing the baby, whatever. But what would bug me is the not calling!
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
Thats really strange. The birth of a baby is an exciting thing.. not only for the parents, but for the family as well. I cant imagine what rationale they have come up with because if it were a family member of mine, I would be totally insulted. I'm sorry- I have no advice. I just hope they come to their senses & realize that they are denying their family one of the most joyus things in the world. IMO- Its selfish & unimaginable.
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MrsO
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
I would have your dh call his brother and see what is really going on. that seems very strange - it is something exciting you should want to share with your immediate family
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| Posted 1/10/08 8:27 AM |
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
That is the most ridiculous thing i have ever heard.
Some people are real wackadoos.
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| Posted 1/10/08 9:15 AM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
is this the first time that your SIL has been very "weird" with the family? how does the family feel about her? perhaps she is tryign to alienate her husband from the rest of the family....is there some other history there?
overall it just sounds plain odd. but to not call you guys at all....it seems as though she might have a problem with you guys and is trying to stick it to the entire family!
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| Posted 1/10/08 9:19 AM |
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antoinette
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
The only reason that i could see this is that there was something wrong with the baby? And she is trying to find a way to tell the family. Other than that Its very strange.
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| Posted 1/10/08 9:25 AM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
That is strange. When I had DS I had people come visit us, BUT, only a few at a time. I didn't want a house full of company every night.
Even in the hospital, I wanted visitors, but, not until the next night (I had a C section)..the only ones there when DS was born were my parents, brother, sister, and SIL which is who I wanted. My inlaws were on vacation (DS was 2 weeks early) and if they were home, of course I'd want them there too.
As for the 3 month thing. That's just wierd. I agree with the parenting class probably meant public places.
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| Posted 1/10/08 9:32 AM |
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
Posted by antoinette
The only reason that i could see this is that there was something wrong with the baby? And she is trying to find a way to tell the family. Other than that Its very strange.
that's what I was thinking..I hope not.
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Ginger123
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
sounds like you have a very hard core hypochondriac/private person on your hands... plus she just might not like the family
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
Posted by Ginger123
sounds like you have a very hard core hypochondriac/private person on your hands
That's what is sounds like to me. But you have to respect it. Its not what I would do, but people are different.
A lot of new moms are very scared and very paranoid. You wouldn't beleive the things that strangers tell you to scare you.
My best friend since childhood just had a baby 6 weeks ago. Until this week- the baby never went outside. Even for a doctors appointment 2 blocks away (we live in Manhattan) she would have her DH drive her (who parks in the building). I thought it was excessive, but hey- its not my child.
ETA: I wouldn't be hurt because it sounds like she is excluding everyone, even her own side of the family. I think its just paranoia.
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
This sounds like something my sister or SIL would do. My SIL and stepbrother didn't call to tell me they had their DD. I found out 3 days later from my stepmom who thought that my stepbro had called me.
I'd probably call or email them, congratulate them and let them know you're excited to see the baby and if they need any help, yadda, yadda, and leave it at that. She's hormonal, everyone's angry/hurt, I wouldn't further aggravate things by sitting BIL down to talk about it.
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MarisaK
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
Why wouldn't your DH and the rest of his siblings be calling their brother?
Isn't he the baby's father? -
I'd call my own sibling first to congratulate him ask him if he needs any help etc, and then let HIM tell me I couldn't see my neice/nephew for the next 3 months .......
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| Posted 1/10/08 10:35 AM |
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princess99
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
Thank you all for replying. The baby is 100 percent healthy. I think there is something very wrong with my SIL...... her parents are just as strange- I guess the apple does not fall far from the tree....
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Lanabean
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Re: WWYD- DH and rest of the family really ANNOYED And UPSET, REALLY UPSET....
Eh, her baby. Not much you can do but vent about "weird SIL" to your DH...it's odd, but it's her kid, you know. I mean...it's mad odd....but people are strange. If it were MY sister, I would talk to her. But as the SIL...I would shut it.
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