Bridal Shower - Who Pays For It?

Where I come from the person hosting it pays for it. I'm just curious if it works the same here. I planned to pay for it, but another person in the bridal party says we are supposed to split the cost amongst the other girls. I booked it and one of the other BP girls emailed another girl (whom I despise) and told her how much it was, etc. The girl read the email and never replied. So now my sister says it's probably because it's not the BP's responsibility to pay for it and she doesn't want to. I don't care either way, but I'm curious.

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I have heard both ways

I am my sisters Matron of Honor and I plan on paying for it myself

she wants it a house (her FMILs and I am sure she wont let me pay for it all myself)

but my sister is only 24 and her friends are just as young and starting out in there careers - and most don't live in NY- so they will already have an expense - so I want to cover the shower

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theoretically, the person hosting does... but frequently, the whole bridal party and the moms all 'host'.... and one person will buy decorations, a couple others will buy food (usually the moms), others will buy flowers and arrange for any rentals....

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I've seen it both ways. For my bridal shower my mother paid for it, she was the host. I know a lot of my friends who have been in a wedding and had to pay for the shower too.

It's really up to you. If you don't want the girls to pay for it then they don't have to. To be honest, any help with money is good.

The only thing is that IF they do put money in, you should put them on the invitation as hosts too. If that other girl doesn't put money in, I wouldn't put her name on the invitations.


For all of the weddings I've been in, we didn't pay for the place, but paid for the decorations and favors.

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for my shower my Mother and MIL split the cost of the hall, however my mom paid for the cake, the favors, the decorations, the invites... My MOH paid for some little things and the BMS didnt pay for anything, but one was in law school, one was in med school and the other was too young to pay for anything...

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For my sister's shower, the whole bridal party (which consisted of myself, my other 2 sisters and my sister's bf) paid for it. Although I paid for a bunch of stuff myself.

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I have heard both ways too. In my circle of friends, it seems that the mom's pay (and host) and the BP chips in and "co-hosts".

For mine, my mom paid for mine and my sister helped a lot. The rest of my BP was DH's sisters, his older sister had just had a baby, so she wasn't in a place to, and my younger SILs were 11 and 13, and my mom didn't think it was fair to ask my SMIL to chip in, so my mom and sister did it (my sis was my MOH)

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My mother and I are splitting the cost of my sisters next year. I know they did the same for me.