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Bxgell2
Perfection
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Beth
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The chips have fallen
Looks like I no longer have a relationship with either of my brothers, as a result of all the crap that went down with my father, and chewing them out.
The one in VA virtually ignored Alex's birthday, and instead of his usual habit of sending gifts (but never visiting), he didn't send a thing, not even a card, or a call.
The one in Philly just told me he has "other plans" for thanksgiving, even though it's a family tradition for him to come to my house and help me prepare the dinner.
Ohhhhhhhhhh well. So be it. I suppose my life is better without their chaos and selfishness, right?!
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Posted 10/26/07 1:25 PM  |
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CookiePuss
Cake from Outer Space!
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Re: The chips have fallen
I'm so sorry Beth...
On another note, Happy Anniversary!
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| Posted 10/26/07 1:30 PM |
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Merf99
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Re: The chips have fallen
I'm so sorry - and it hurts most when it involves your child right? We're fighting with DH's brother now and our DD's birthday was Monday - not even an email from his brother or his long-time girlfriend.
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| Posted 10/26/07 1:31 PM |
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KGools
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Kim
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Re: The chips have fallen
Posted by Bxgell2
Ohhhhhhhhhh well. So be it. I suppose my life is better without their chaos and selfishness, right?!
Yes! Be happy for the people in your life who DO put forth the effort not because you ask them to but because they WANT to. It's your brothers' loss. I'm sorry that this has happened though
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| Posted 10/26/07 1:32 PM |
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Bxgell2
Perfection
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Beth
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Re: The chips have fallen
Posted by shamrock124
I'm so sorry Beth...
On another note, Happy Anniversary!
Thank you!! 
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| Posted 10/26/07 1:32 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: The chips have fallen
I'm sorry, that sucks. Hopefully they will come to their senses and move past all of this.
Family is so important, if they're too blind to see that now, maybe they will down the road.
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| Posted 10/26/07 1:33 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: The chips have fallen
I'm sorry Beth. I know this must hurt.
But you have to know that you behaved with honor and integrity. You did everything right. You had every right to say what you did to your brothers. They abandoned you to take care of your father, and they were wrong.
Hopefully they will soon grow up and realize everything they did, and what they lost and your relationship will grow again. 
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| Posted 10/26/07 1:34 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: The chips have fallen
Posted by Shelly
I'm sorry Beth. I know this must hurt.
But you have to know that you behaved with honor and integrity. You did everything right. You had every right to say what you did to your brothers. They abandoned you to take care of your father, and they were wrong.
Hopefully they will soon grow up and realize everything they did, and what they lost and your relationship will grow again.
I agree. It's of their own doing and guilt. They can't face the music. They will be the lonely ones.
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| Posted 10/26/07 1:41 PM |
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JP826
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Re: The chips have fallen
Rid yourself of Toxic people- even if that means family, unfortunately.  So sorry.
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| Posted 10/26/07 1:41 PM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: The chips have fallen
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| Posted 10/26/07 1:42 PM |
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Phyl
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Re: The chips have fallen
You rock, they blow!
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| Posted 10/26/07 1:45 PM |
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Tracey
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Re: The chips have fallen
I am sorry - but I have to say that I don't think you were wrong in anything that you did/said to them.
Sometimes the truth is hard to hear for some people, and it makes them react in different ways, such as not wanting to participate in a family tradition.
Time to make new traditions -
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| Posted 10/26/07 1:47 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Beth
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Re: The chips have fallen
Posted by Tracey
Time to make new traditions -
It's SO true.
I just called DH and told him we're having a chanukah party for our closest friends and (remaining) family.
Screw 'em!
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| Posted 10/26/07 1:48 PM |
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angnick
Life is So Wonderful!
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Re: The chips have fallen
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| Posted 10/26/07 1:59 PM |
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Bluepixie
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Re: The chips have fallen
Posted by Shelly
I'm sorry Beth. I know this must hurt.
But you have to know that you behaved with honor and integrity. You did everything right. You had every right to say what you did to your brothers. They abandoned you to take care of your father, and they were wrong.
Hopefully they will soon grow up and realize everything they did, and what they lost and your relationship will grow again.
ITA- you were NEVER wrong with anything that you said to them. Their selfishness and unwilling to bend at all was awful. It put SO much stress on you and your DH- it was definitely unfair.. 
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| Posted 10/26/07 3:26 PM |
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headoverheels
s'il vous plaît
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Re: The chips have fallen
that really stinks. i know how hard it is to lose family. my dad had to write his sister out of his life because of her selfishness and how nasty she could be. sorry that it ended up this way
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| Posted 10/26/07 3:29 PM |
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| Posted 10/26/07 3:29 PM |
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J9-13
We're gonna be big sisters!
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Re: The chips have fallen
Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by Tracey
Time to make new traditions -
It's SO true.
I just called DH and told him we're having a chanukah party for our closest friends and (remaining) family.
Screw 'em!
Awesome! Thats the way to do it!!
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| Posted 10/26/07 3:35 PM |
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Moehick
Ready for the sun!
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Re: The chips have fallen
Toxic people should have no place in your life....maybe someday they will grow up
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| Posted 10/26/07 4:46 PM |
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mikeswife06
Drama Momma
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Re: The chips have fallen
I'm sorry, that really stinks.
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| Posted 10/26/07 5:21 PM |
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JRG71
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Re: The chips have fallen
I'm sorry Beth... It's a shame that it has to involve Alex.
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| Posted 10/26/07 5:33 PM |
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CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(
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Re: The chips have fallen
Just wanted to give you
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| Posted 10/26/07 5:40 PM |
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luvsbob4603
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Re: The chips have fallen
I'm sorry you and your brother's are having a fallout now, hopefully someday they will come around and realize they are wrong and what a 'Great' sister you are. I hope you have a Happy anniversay. You are a goodhearted person!
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| Posted 10/26/07 6:37 PM |
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lvdolphins
My Loves!
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