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eroxgirl
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
No one has ever asked me why I did, but I was very happy to change it.
I think if someone asked me why in a condescending manner I'd probably say something ridiculous like "I like my new initials better." Which I do, but that's besides the point. 
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melbalalala
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
Posted by Blu-ize
why wouldn't you change your name?
that would be my answer...
That should end the line of questioning.
I hyphenated and get this question more than I thought I would.
I always respond "why doesn't my husband change his name to mine?"
I didnt want to give up my maiden name because it's mine and always has been.
But, I totally understand women that want to.. to each their own!
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| Posted 10/4/07 1:25 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
tell her to mind her damn business....people have some nerve 
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| Posted 10/4/07 1:25 PM |
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MegZee
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
id say "i would have changed it to Princess Consuela Banana Hammock" but that was already taken
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| Posted 10/4/07 1:34 PM |
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Kara
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
Posted by Meaghan729
id say "i would have changed it to Princess Consuela Banana Hammock" but that was already taken
For the last time, please stop mocking my married name. 
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| Posted 10/4/07 1:36 PM |
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MegZee
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
Posted by Kara
Posted by Meaghan729
id say "i would have changed it to Princess Consuela Banana Hammock" but that was already taken
For the last time, please stop mocking my married name.
so you're the one who took it!!!!
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| Posted 10/4/07 1:37 PM |
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dandr10199
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
YES. OMG, this annoys me soooo much. I used to work for an Ultra liberal non-profit organization. OF course, I was THE ONLY conservative. Well when all the femanazi's heard that I changed my name and (gasp) took my husband's name, I cannot not begin to tell you what happened...
Questions, emails, snide comments directed at me about how I was putting "the women's movement" back 50 years.
I could not believe I was harassed like that, especially by women who SAY they believe that women can be anything, do anything, etc.
I can be anything as long as it falls within your guidelines  . Those women were THE biggest bunch of hypocrites that I have EVER seen.
Don't even get me started on this topic...
Message edited 10/4/2007 5:24:09 PM.
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| Posted 10/4/07 5:23 PM |
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Whamtastic
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
Posted by glinda-goodwitch
Maybe I want my kids to have the same last name as me.
I didn't change my name and my kids will have my last name. There's no reason you should have to change your name to match your kids. But, that's if you don't want to change your name. I hate when women feel like they HAVE to change their name, but if that's what you wanted to do, good for you - I don't think there's a right or wrong in that debate. But just so you know, us non-changers get the same line of questioning. 
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| Posted 10/4/07 5:26 PM |
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JennZ
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
Yes my maiden name was one of the four seasons, and my married name is a mouthful. I get "What the heck is that" and "eww thats an odd name, why change" Why Not?? Also if I had a dollar for everytime someone asked me to spell it I would be one rich chick.
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| Posted 10/4/07 5:26 PM |
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june262004
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
No.
in all honsetly i would excpect people to question somone who didn't change their name... even though it isn't their business.
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| Posted 10/4/07 5:27 PM |
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mcl916
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
Nope, never been asked. Although it was such an improvement over my last name
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| Posted 10/4/07 5:27 PM |
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photoshopbabe
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
cuz i hate my maiden name.
nuff said
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| Posted 10/4/07 5:28 PM |
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Gertyrae
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
First of all, she's a moron
I don't see any reason not to change your name unless you are an established professional and would like to keep your name for professional reasons -- or -- you are the last in your family line and want to keep the name for sentimental reasons.
A friend of DH's got married and his wife kept her name - she works in retail and her last name is smith...give me a break She says she wanted to maintain her identity...
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| Posted 10/4/07 5:31 PM |
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melbalalala
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
Posted by Gertyrae
First of all, she's a moron
I don't see any reason not to change your name unless you are an established professional and would like to keep your name for professional reasons -- or -- you are the last in your family line and want to keep the name for sentimental reasons.
A friend of DH's got married and his wife kept her name - she works in retail and her last name is smith...give me a break She says she wanted to maintain her identity...
Or you just don't think the tradition is fair....
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| Posted 10/4/07 5:36 PM |
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Gertyrae
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
Posted by melbalalala
Posted by Gertyrae
First of all, she's a moron
I don't see any reason not to change your name unless you are an established professional and would like to keep your name for professional reasons -- or -- you are the last in your family line and want to keep the name for sentimental reasons.
A friend of DH's got married and his wife kept her name - she works in retail and her last name is smith...give me a break She says she wanted to maintain her identity...
Or you just don't think the tradition is fair....
Actually, I shouldn't say there are only a couple reasons...I think if you have a good reason for not changing your name - whatever it may be - that's fine.
I just don't understand people who won't change their name and have no real reason why.
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| Posted 10/4/07 5:39 PM |
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Whamtastic
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
Posted by Gertyrae
A friend of DH's got married and his wife kept her name - she works in retail and her last name is smith...give me a break She says she wanted to maintain her identity...
I don't judge your choices, please don't judge mine. I know you're not talking about me in this example, but I didn't have any "reason" to keep my name, but I didn't have any reason to change it, either. I kept my name because I wanted to. I don't think that deserves eye rolls.
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| Posted 10/4/07 5:41 PM |
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melbalalala
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
Posted by Gertyrae
Posted by melbalalala
Posted by Gertyrae
First of all, she's a moron
I don't see any reason not to change your name unless you are an established professional and would like to keep your name for professional reasons -- or -- you are the last in your family line and want to keep the name for sentimental reasons.
A friend of DH's got married and his wife kept her name - she works in retail and her last name is smith...give me a break She says she wanted to maintain her identity...
Or you just don't think the tradition is fair....
Actually, I shouldn't say there are only a couple reasons...I think if you have a good reason for not changing your name - whatever it may be - that's fine.
I just don't understand people who won't change their name and have no real reason why.
I hyphenated, so it might not qualify for this question..
But I really have no reason why...work wouldnt be a big deal if I had a new last name, not last in my family line...
I decided loonngg ago, when I was a kid that I personally didn't like the "old school" tradition of taking my husband's name, it seemed to me to be something that should be considered more outdated than it is and was a little too traditional for me.
I hyphenated (instead of completely keeping my name) to make it easier when we have kids, make it easier for people to know we're married, etc.
I know this isnt for everyone, and I dont care when people call me Mrs. HisLastName, it's just something that my socially liberal @ss felt was necessary. 
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| Posted 10/4/07 5:44 PM |
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KrisT
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
Posted by Kara
Yes. Over and over and over again.
At least 5 colleagues at work have asked me -- and one told me, "Don't do it!" Um, excuse me, when did this become YOUR business? I have had at least 3 people ARGUE with me about it.
I thought it was just a lawyer thing... Many of these women cannot fathom that, as a practicing lawyer, I would actually change my name. I don't care what THEY do, why do they care what I do?
I tell them it's a personal decision and that there are only 2 opinions that matter, neither of which is theirs.
You are not alone - I am a married lawyer who took my husband's last name too 
It's funny you say that because I heard similar comments and I was very close to keeping my maiden name "professionally" but ultimately decided to change it entirely.
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| Posted 10/4/07 6:10 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
I changed it. I was even questioned by DH's sisters. I had my maiden name a lot longer than most of my married friends did so you'd think I'd have more of an attachment to it - I don't. I am still my father's child regardless of my last name and I am still his legacy.
My married name is mutilated daily. It is a phonetic nightmare for most. Though I personally think that anyone who made it through grammar school in an English speaking country should be able to read it and articulate the word properly. People are lazy and don't take the time to care.
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| Posted 10/4/07 6:43 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
Posted by Gertyrae
A friend of DH's got married and his wife kept her name - she works in retail and her last name is smith...give me a break She says she wanted to maintain her identity...
Why the eye rolls about wanting to maintain your identity? That's a very real concern for some women... I know I took it into account when making my decision.
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| Posted 10/4/07 6:50 PM |
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pharmcat2000
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
Posted by imthecindyofcindyandkevin
"I don't ask you why you DIDN'T change your name, so why are you challenging me on why I DID change mine?!"
There are many reasons why I took Kevin's name:
-I'm very traditional and ever since I was a little girl I knew I'd be taking my husband's name.
-I really feel like we're officially a family now having the same last name, I'm not just closer to him bc of it but his DD as well.
-I want us to all have the same last name when we eventually have a baby.
-My maiden name is often mis-spelled and mis-pronounced, my married name is so much easier!!
I didn't "lose my identity" by taking his name, I'm still the very same person that I was before. Taking his name doesn't erase the accomplishments that I acheived under my maiden name nor does it distance myself from my family. Besides, "What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet."
I agree with all of this. Although, I'm married almost 3 years, and still don't feel like my last name sounds "right" in identifying me, but I know that changing it was the right thing for me.
As for the original poster's rude "friend", I think a better question would be why is she so proud of people thinking she is not married!
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| Posted 10/5/07 5:41 AM |
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beautyq115
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
Why is it any of her damn business?
When I was getting married I got...
1. You are taking your husband;s name right??? I had a very long Polish name..DH has a short Irish name. So that was a crack at my maiden name.
2. OMG you aren't going to hyphenate your name are you?
So what if I was?
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| Posted 10/5/07 5:49 AM |
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LiPo
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
I got more crap for NOT changing my name at work fast enough (I did it this week, married for a year) 
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| Posted 10/5/07 7:28 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Married girls who changed their name
I'll admit that I had a hard time with changing my last name. It was my name for over 30 years & I thought of it as changing my identity too. It was only after I took his name that I realized that I am who I am, no matter my name.
To answer the question, I took my husband's last name because I wanted us all to have the same last name. My friend (attorney) used her maiden name, her husband used his name & her kids had the hypenated last name. It became so annoying for her to deal with it that for school she used Mrs HusbandsLastName, giving her another name to deal with only for schools.
Posted by pharmcat2000
Posted by imthecindyofcindyandkevin
"I don't ask you why you DIDN'T change your name, so why are you challenging me on why I DID change mine?!"
I didn't "lose my identity" by taking his name, I'm still the very same person that I was before. Taking his name doesn't erase the accomplishments that I acheived under my maiden name nor does it distance myself from my family. Besides, "What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet."
etd.
As for the original poster's rude "friend", I think a better question would be why is she so proud of people thinking she is not married!
ITA. Saying you don't act married isn't a compliment in my book.
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