Speaking of MILs

I was just wondering, how is your relationship with your MIL compared to your mother's with her MIL?

In my case, my dad's mom basically treated my mom like crap and it definitely affected my relationship with her. My poor mom had to force a frown at the wake/funeral services. She never shed a tear, but I couldn't blame her.

DH's mom is ok. They are extremely close. Sometimes I feel kind of left out. But she always tell me that the day I married him I became the #1 woman in his life. She doesn't treat me anything like my father's mom treated my mom.

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My mom and my dads mom were VERY CLOSE. Even after my parents divorce my grandmother still refers to my mom as her fav dil.

I know i will never have that. But i have a good relationship with my mil and step-mil

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My relationship is great with my MIL. She's very good. She told me her MIL was an absolute nightmare... her MIL had a rough childhood as her mother (DH's great grandmother) died very young and left 8 kids so it was very rough. She thinks she was manic depressive due to it. Her MIL could be really verbally abusive. She really is great to me and calls me her daughter. She also really appreciates me because DH's first wife caused a lot of trauma/drama in the family and she almost lost her son over it.

My mother left Scotland at age 18 and I think had a good relationship with her MIL. She had to. Like me (my mom died when I was 8) her mother wasn't around (she was in Scotland) and it was too expensive back then to make phone calls. I do remember hearing that my mother had "no idea what to do with me" (I'm sure it was just nerves) when she brought me home from the hospital and completely relied upon her MIL for help.

Message edited 10/14/2005 7:19:04 PM.

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My mom and my dads mom get along, but there is at least an argument a day. Sometimes it gets very bad, where my mom will have to call me and just vent! My mom loves her so much, but, there are times where she says "The Atria" is right around the corner.
My gram lives with my parents (and has since '96) and my dads brother does nothing to help out..he decided to up and leave and move 3,000 miles across the country 20 years ago! Hes just a dork (Yes, Im talking about my godfather)
That puts more pressure on my parents!
My MIL and I get along no matter what! We clicked right away. She really is a great person!

Message edited 10/14/2005 8:13:42 PM.

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My mother never had a MIL....

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when my parents married each other, they had each been previously married and already had a child from the 1st marriage.

My dad is from Ohio, so the best word I could use to describe my grandma's interaction with my mom would be...'uninvolved'.

Sometimes I think my MIL does things INTENTIONALLY to see if I'll "pack up and leave"...