announcing too early???

So my friend told me last week she was 7 weeks preg. However, talking to a mutual friend she has not heard the heartbeat as of yesterday and she is now 8 weeks and she is still telling everyone she is pregnant. Also some level of something should be tripling but she is going up slightly. She tests positive but what could be going on????
I know no heartbeat is not good but when should you start to hear a heatbeat?

When is it safe to tell people too?? After first trimester? After you hear a heartbeat?
DH and I are looking to try activily this summer and wonderingThanks for any help or info, I am worried about my friend.

Message edited 4/21/2007 10:32:57 AM.

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Safe to tell people?? I think each couple has to make that decision for themselves.

From what I know the heartbeat should be heard no later than the end of the 7th week.

Also if the hcg level is NOT doubling every 48-72 hours it sounds like she has an ectopic pregnancy.

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its definately a personal decision for what you do.

We told immediate family once we found out,- however then it spread to certainpeople it wasnt suppose to.... as we were waiting til the heart beat to let more poeple know.
, it got to a week before my 8 week appt to hear the heart beat for the first time, and I lost the baby. it was really difficult for us, and this time around we are going to wait longer before we tell people because we are scarred by it.

the "safest" is suppose to be after the first trimester, but i think we may tell immediate family member only after the heartbeat next time we get preggo.

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I miscarried at around 8-9 weeks. My numbers were still going up, so that is not always indicative of a problem.

You should see a heartbeat by 8 weeks - my sonogram showed that development had stopped earlier - but my numbers were still great (that was THE hardest part to deal with).

ETA: As for announcing, I don't really blame the women who immediately post their BFP's - everyone is excited and it is hard to contain. However, going through what I did, I would definitely wait the next time.

Message edited 4/21/2007 11:35:04 AM.

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I agree that it is a personal decision. If it were me, I would try to hold off as long as I could, especially with telling people I am not close to. The last thing I would want to hear is how sorry people are if God forbid something happened. As much as people are being nice, I am one to not want to deal with people asking how I was doing, provoking me to have to explain something like that. Just me, but everyone is different. I think posting it on here is different because we don't see each other and everyone is so supportive and will not pressure each other if that makes any sense. best of luck to us all, may we all get BFP soon and be in the predicament of when to tell

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My doctor insisted you can't "hear" the heartbeat until at LEAST 10 weeks (she won't try until 12 weeks).

SEEING the heartbeat on a sono is usually around 6-7 weeks.

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Don't worry about your friend, I clearly remember my Dr saying that you usually don't HEAR a heart beat till 10 or more weeks.

As far as when to tell, I believe that the risk for mc goes way down after 12 weeks. I told everyone immediately... I couldn't help my self!!!!!

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When I get prego, I am sure I will tell very few close people, but then I won't tell everyone until after 10-12 weeks. I have a belly already so they won't think anything of it. hahhahahah

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We HEARD the heartbeat at 10 weeks. Even then, it was difficult to find. You should SEE it in week 7.

As for telling people, it's a personal decision. My mother lost a baby early and she always told us kids she hoped we could tell her quickly, so she could begin praying. So, our decision was based on the fact that we wanted people praying immediately. We also figured that if we lost the baby, we didn't want people finding out for the first time when we had bad news. We wanted people to share in the joy, even if it was short lived.

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you can see it by 7-8 weeks, but can't hear it until after 10 from my experience and from what my doctor has told me. I've been pregnant twice. Both times we told family early on. We lost our second child at 10 weeks. It was a difficult pregnancy so it was more comforting to know people knew what we were going through and why. It is apersonal decision. My numbers kept going up after I had a D&C, so it all depends. I'm sure your friend is fine.

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It is a very personal decision as to when you tell people. Some people shout it from the rooftops at the first BFP, and others wait until they hear a heartbeat or even until their 1st trimester is over. Everyone is different.

I personally told my nearest and dearest, and unfortunately miscarried, but I would have told them that too. So why not share the good news as well?

Fortunately I got a BFP rather quickly after and again, told the nearest and dearest.

You can SEE a heartbeat at 7 weeks, and HEAR a heartbeat after 10.

Good luck to your friend.