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Anyone else's DH get ansty about wanting a baby so badly?
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princess99
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Anyone else's DH get ansty about wanting a baby so badly?
Anyone else's DH getting antsy about having a baby? Dh cannot wait for me to get pregnant already, he asked if there was a way to speed up this process.
Seriously he told me he wants this to happen soon, or he will go right to a doctor , ( go right to IVF, etc) he wants it to happen yesterday. I am kind of depressed in a way- I wish it would just happen too. I am starting to feel like a failure as a woman. I feel very down in the dumps about it, maybe becuase AF showed up today.
Am I the only one to feel this way? I am not a doctor person- so I am a bit freaked out about needles, etc. Getting a pap is freaky enough for me- I do not like doctors and have a doctor fear. (Big time white coat syndrome)
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Re: Anyone else's DH get ansty about wanting a baby so badly?
I totally understand where you are coming from. DH actually said that it is probably my bad luck that is stopping us. I know he is just kidding but it cant help but make me feel like a failure.
Hang in there - we will all get pregnant eventually. Sometimes it just takes some longer than others.....
  
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| Posted 4/10/07 9:07 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: Anyone else's DH get ansty about wanting a baby so badly?
DH and I both want it to happen as soon as possible. 9 months of TTC (at 36 years old) and we are on our way to an RE praying that what ever it is that is keeping me from getting pregnant is diagnosed and remedied before considering IVF. It is simply too expensive of a venture to jump into for lack of patience. I am perhaps one of the most impatient people I know. I can understand wanting to bypass the fun part and getting to the science part!
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| Posted 4/10/07 9:44 PM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: Anyone else's DH get ansty about wanting a baby so badly?
Posted by Goldi0218
DH and I both want it to happen as soon as possible. 9 months of TTC (at 36 years old) and we are on our way to an RE praying that what ever it is that is keeping me from getting pregnant is diagnosed and remedied before considering IVF. It is simply too expensive of a venture to jump into for lack of patience. I am perhaps one of the most impatient people I know. I can understand wanting to bypass the fun part and getting to the science part!
I'm in the same boat as Goldi, however as badly as DH wants it, at the same time, he hates that we've become "that couple" Meaning, letting having a baby consume of our lives at the moment.
And lately, I've been putting the blame on myself for us not being able to get pregnant. We know he's okay. And as I look back at how I've taken (or not taken care of myself) in the past. I know there are things I could have done to live a healthier lifestyle and that maybe if I did I wouldn't be in this situation now.
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DancinBarefoot
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Re: Anyone else's DH get ansty about wanting a baby so badly?
Posted by MrsRbk
Posted by Goldi0218
DH and I both want it to happen as soon as possible. 9 months of TTC (at 36 years old) and we are on our way to an RE praying that what ever it is that is keeping me from getting pregnant is diagnosed and remedied before considering IVF. It is simply too expensive of a venture to jump into for lack of patience. I am perhaps one of the most impatient people I know. I can understand wanting to bypass the fun part and getting to the science part!
I'm in the same boat as Goldi, however as badly as DH wants it, at the same time, he hates that we've become "that couple" Meaning, letting having a baby consume of our lives at the moment.
And lately, I've been putting the blame on myself for us not being able to get pregnant. We know he's okay. And as I look back at how I've taken (or not taken care of myself) in the past. I know there are things I could have done to live a healthier lifestyle and that maybe if I did I wouldn't be in this situation now.
Don't blame yourself - that is only counterproductive. I wish I didn't spend my youth smoking a pack a day (and whatever else I may have done as a youthful indiscretion  ). Who knew then smoking affected fertility? If I had known, would I have cared at 20, the way I care at 40? There are so many what ifs we can ask ourselves.
After DH & I went to the RE and educated ourselves I got rid of that "failure as a woman" feeling, and looked at the reality that 1 in 6 couples is infertile. 40% = female issue, 40% = male issue, 10% = both and 10% is unknown (although there are some that say there is no such thing as unknown, it is merely unidentified).
At our age it takes longer to get PG, but the MDs want to see you sooner to rule out any actual physical problems. While research now shows cigarette smoking affects fertility, the MDs can't say for certain that is our problem - it might be age, it might be DH's motility issues (although the MD said even though the test indicates low motility, the sheer volume is so high it compensates for that  ), or it might be an as of yet unidentified issue, and of course, maybe it's nothing and we just haven't given it enough time.
And for the original question - DH has no patience and I'm sure once we get a + test he'll be asking why we have to wait 9 months. 
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| Posted 4/11/07 10:36 AM |
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princess99
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Re: Anyone else's DH get ansty about wanting a baby so badly?
Thanks for the support ladies, I knew I could count on my lifamilies TTC buddies. I know I am not alone in this, it just seems like everyone aorund me is asking where is the baby, or 1 person had the nerve to ask me if we were having a problem. It amazes me the people that try 1x and they are pregnant. Or not try at all and they are. I just got married at 33, and glad I waited till I was emotioinally ready for marriage and a baby, and I am 35, so it is not going to be that easy, these people of course got married in there 20's and got pregnant in there 20's. I am glad I waited for the right man to come along, and I am sure with patience I will get a BFP. baby dust to us all.
PS My best friends 6 1/2 year old asked me if I wanted a baby and I said yes, one day.... she said to me why don't me and my DH just ask G-d for a baby?! I wish it was that easy.... We do not know where she even got this from!
Message edited 4/11/2007 4:34:01 PM.
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