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Arieschick29
aries+cancer= pisces&gemini
Member since 3/06 4268 total posts
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Jen
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how can I help a friend who MC'ed?
My co-worker and good friend just miscarried after 6 weeks.
She is devestated...she keeps saying what did she do wrong
Any ideas on what to say/ how to help her get through this tough time?
Im at a complete loss 
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Posted 12/2/06 10:58 PM  |
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mikeswife06
Drama Momma
Member since 9/06 9947 total posts
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Anne
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Re: how can I help a friend who MC'ed?
There is nothing really anyone can say. Just let her know it is nothing she did, as my friend said to me "You did everything right and then there are drug addicts who have babies, it is NOTHING you did". Other than that just be there to listen, I know that about 2 weeks after my D&C from a missed m/c I was ready to talk and I just wanted someone to listen. Sometimes that is better than offering words that don't really change anything...good luck to you both....
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| Posted 12/3/06 9:08 AM |
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babydreams
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Member since 5/06 1687 total posts
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Me
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Re: how can I help a friend who MC'ed?
One thing I noticed with my experience is that people dont want to ask how you are doing because they are afraid to upset you. However, it upset me more when people just ignored it! So my advice to you is to listen to your friend, ask her how she feels, and let her talk if she wants to.
Sorry for your friend! 
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| Posted 12/3/06 12:25 PM |
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DRMom
Two in Blue
Member since 5/05 20223 total posts
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Melissa
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Re: how can I help a friend who MC'ed?
The biggest thing for me is knowing that someday I will have my baby. At this point I'll take even 1(although we'd like 2) There is so much great medicine out there-almost anyone can have a baby. After 1 miscarriage 99% of women go on to have a normal healthy pregnancy. 1st miscarriages arew almost always attributed to chromosomal disorders. Best wishes to your friend.
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| Posted 12/3/06 1:28 PM |
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Karen
Just chillin'!!
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Karen
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Re: how can I help a friend who MC'ed?
There really are no words you can say other than to offer an ear when she is ready. Everyone handles it in their own way. At some point, she will hopefully reach closure on it and be able to move on. I know for me, I only reached closure once I got the lab reports and knew with 10000% certainty that I did nothing wrong. I wish that for every woman who experiences a m/c, because sometimes I think the guilt can outweigh the grief.
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| Posted 12/3/06 2:36 PM |
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Arieschick29
aries+cancer= pisces&gemini
Member since 3/06 4268 total posts
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Jen
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Re: how can I help a friend who MC'ed?
Thank you all so much!
I really needed some feedback seeing as how i havent experienced this kind of loss.
She was back at work today and sufferening some really bad cramping so I helped her out with copying and giving her breaks from teaching when I could.
I really want to sit down with her and let her talk it out if she needs though.
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| Posted 12/4/06 9:28 PM |
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