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ANR1211
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Thanks for the input- like I said, I'm leaning heavily towards going. Now I have to make sure my other 2 friends are doing the same otherwise I'll know no one there.
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jamnmore
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I don't think it is weird at all for her to not invite your hubby. When I got married I only invited the guest, if you were not married or didn't have an engagement ring you were not invited.
You chose to invite her to your wedding with a +1. She does not have to reciprocate. I have had friends invite me to their wedding without my SO. It just happens.
I think they filled in the number in advance to avoid any confusion about who was invited. Go enjoy the night out with your coworkers. I am one of those rare people who believes that husbands and wives do not need to be invited everywhere together.
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WannaBeAMom11
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No reason for annoyance. Im sure it's a money thing. I would give what I usually give.
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| Posted 3/3/17 4:37 PM |
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You said she is one of your best friends. You go to be there and share in this day with her.
It is rude to say the least to not invite you with your husband but I would still go and make a girls night of it since you will know other people attending.
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Hofstra26
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Re: Super weird- wedding related
I think it's super tacky to NOT invite spouses, sorry but I just do. Formal events, like a wedding, I fully expect to attend with my DH. TBH, I really wouldn't have much of an interest in going to a wedding alone and I'd be put off by this........ Even though I would probably still go for my best friend.
As for the gift, I'd definitely give less as you're not attending as a couple.
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Budjeg11
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Id be annoyed that i wasnt invited with my husband. I get the concept of not inviting a plus one just for the sake of inviting a plus one.. but a husband is not just a plus one IMHO.
Anyway, notwithstanding the annoyance, as long as your husband is ok with it, I would go to share in my friends happinessand enjoy the night out with my friends. I would NOT give as large of a gift though- if i would give appx half of what i would normally give (maybe a bit more)
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Budjeg11
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Id be annoyed that i wasnt invited with my husband. I get the concept of not inviting a plus one just for the sake of inviting a plus one.. but a husband is not just a plus one IMHO.
Anyway, notwithstanding the annoyance, as long as your husband is ok with it, I would go to share in my friends happinessand enjoy the night out with my friends. I would NOT give as large of a gift though- if i would give appx half of what i would normally give (maybe a bit more)
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Mushesgirl
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It's annoying but it's a money thing so i'd go and enjoy. I'd give the amount i'd give for just me.
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PennyCat
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Posted by Hofstra26
I think it's super tacky to NOT invite spouses, sorry but I just do. Formal events, like a wedding, I fully expect to attend with my DH. TBH, I really wouldn't have much of an interest in going to a wedding alone and I'd be put off by this........ Even though I would probably still go for my best friend.
As for the gift, I'd definitely give less as you're not attending as a couple.
I'd feel exactly the same honestly.
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Paramount
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You go. In this circumstance they have very little.
Its not a slight. Its what they can do.
Go to the wedding any enjoy, give the same amount you normally would.
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MsSissy
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Since 3 other friends were invited without their husbands I would go and make it a girls night. It seems your friend wants you all there and she's doing what she can do.
ETS: as for a gift. I wouldn't give what I normally do as a couple. I would give half.
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WonderLady
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I will be brutally honest. Imo it's rude to invite any adult without a plus 1. I think people should either cut their list or cut expenses to accommodate that. I would politely decline and send a small gift.
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JME78
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Posted by WonderLady
I will be brutally honest. Imo it's rude to invite any adult without a plus 1. I think people should either cut their list or cut expenses to accommodate that. I would politely decline and send a small gift.
I agree it is super rude.
I never understood the mentality of - please come celebrate my relationship while I completely ignore yours.
Its not ok to invite people in relationships without their spouses.
I would probably go but I would not be pleased.
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PearlJamChick
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I'd go and give about half of what I'd normally give. This is the kid of one of your best friends and you mentioned a couple of times that money is tight.
If I were in your shoes, I would happily go with my friends that were invited and enjoy being included in their special day.
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Sparrow
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Re: Super weird- wedding related
Posted by Hofstra26
I think it's super tacky to NOT invite spouses, sorry but I just do. Formal events, like a wedding, I fully expect to attend with my DH. TBH, I really wouldn't have much of an interest in going to a wedding alone and I'd be put off by this........ Even though I would probably still go for my best friend.
As for the gift, I'd definitely give less as you're not attending as a couple.
I agree with all of this. I would give half of what I would as a couple.
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LuckyStar
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I'm normally very pro-plus one but it sounds like they truly can't afford to have everyone. Maybe your friend suggested to her daughter that her friends wouldn't mind being each other's dates and leaving the men home?
I'd absolutely go and have a great time with my girlfriends, but I also don't need DH with me to enjoy myself. I think it's ridiculous for a grown woman to refuse to attend an event without her husband, especially something like your best friend's daughter's wedding.
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gina409
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Posted by LuckyStar
I'm normally very pro-plus one but it sounds like they truly can't afford to have everyone. Maybe your friend suggested to her daughter that her friends wouldn't mind being each other's dates and leaving the men home?
I'd absolutely go and have a great time with my girlfriends, but I also don't need DH with me to enjoy myself. I think it's ridiculous for a grown woman to refuse to attend an event without her husband, especially something like your best friend's daughter's wedding.
I'm kinda with this
I think she would if she could.
I would go and have fun
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RainyDay
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She's your best friends daughter so I would def go. You say they have very little so I wouldn't think it to be weird that you were invited by yourself. Go and be supportive.
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LiveItUp
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It might be that they chose a small venue that doesn't accomodate many guests, so they may have to keep the number invited down.
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bunnyluck
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Tacky yes. Would I still go, yes.... I wouldnt give what I normally give though..Half would be appropriate.
All adults were invited to bring a guest to our wedding. It's the right thing to do. When planning our wedding we first and foremost set a guest list. From there, we factored our budget accordingly.
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jlm2008
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IMO, I find it incredibly rude & tacky not to invite someone without their spouse...if you're not married fine, but not inviting both husband & wife is not an option. Personally I don't think I would go. Yes, weddings are expensive, but you cut somewhere else, not your married guests. I would send a gift , less than the amount I would give if I attended, because that is what I do.
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Chai77
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Posted by bunnyluck
Tacky yes. Would I still go, yes.... I wouldnt give what I normally give though..Half would be appropriate.
I agree with this.
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Since you know the reason why, I don't think it's weird. DH and I also like spending with our friends alone sometimes, so going to a wedding alone isn't weird for either of us.
We've both done it a couple of times for various reasons in the past few years. I would just give what I give when I attend a wedding alone.
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