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MarathonKnitter
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another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
i mentioned earlier this summer that i've reconnected with an old friend and she's invited me to her daughter's quinceanera.
i got the invite.
it's a DOUBLE quinceanera. the other girl is my friend's niece, so i know her mom (my friend's older sister).
honestly, i can't afford two large financial gifts.
i'm working really hard to get out of debt and i have another quinceanera just a month after this one... and a wedding and a bridal shower, etc, etc.
how little can i give to each girl without looking like a loser?
i know, i know, give what you can afford... but this is a little more complicated than that... and i'll spare you the details of why appearances matter in this situation.
thanks.
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In that case I might opt to give the girls a gift instead.
An alex and Ani bracelet?
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| Posted 8/12/16 1:43 PM |
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luvbuffet
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Re: another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
How much were you planning to give one girl?
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| Posted 8/12/16 3:16 PM |
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itsagoodlife
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Re: another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
I have NO idea what a "quincinera" is...
But if you do not know the other girl well, I would give her a small gift and the girl you do know well whatever gift you were planning.
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| Posted 8/12/16 3:45 PM |
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Re: another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
Posted by itsagoodlife
I have NO idea what a "quincinera" is...
But if you do not know the other girl well, I would give her a small gift and the girl you do know well whatever gift you were planning.
I agree with this suggestion.
Message edited 8/12/2016 3:56:18 PM.
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
Posted by luvbuffet
How much were you planning to give one girl?
i was ballparking it at $100.
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| Posted 8/12/16 5:44 PM |
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Just because they decided to group the parties together (to save on money?) doesn't mean you should be required to give double gift. Just like the typical its not your fault the bride and groom are paying 350 a plate. Give what you were going to, and if you want to be nice give a 20 dollar token gift to the other girl. But I'd bet the other girl and mother wouldn't even realize if you didn't give anything.
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| Posted 8/12/16 6:09 PM |
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Re: another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
Posted by MarathonKnitter
Posted by luvbuffet
How much were you planning to give one girl?
i was ballparking it at $100.
You were invited for the friends daughter so I would give her the $100 gift and get a token gift for the niece.
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| Posted 8/12/16 6:11 PM |
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Re: another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
Posted by KarenK122
Posted by MarathonKnitter
Posted by luvbuffet
How much were you planning to give one girl?
i was ballparking it at $100.
You were invited for the friends daughter so I would give her the $100 gift and get a token gift for the niece.
I agree with this. You were invited for the daughter not the neice. Give what you were planning for the daughter and give the neice something small.
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| Posted 8/12/16 6:17 PM |
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Re: another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
I do not think you need to give equal gifts in this case. I would think it is like a sweet sixteen and 100 is more than enough for the child you are close to. I would give something in the 50 range as a gift not cash to the other girl.
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| Posted 8/12/16 6:20 PM |
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Re: another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
Posted by LSP2005
I do not think you need to give equal gifts in this case. I would think it is like a sweet sixteen and 100 is more than enough for the child you are close to. I would give something in the 50 range as a gift not cash to the other girl.
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| Posted 8/12/16 7:56 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
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thanks!
this is making me feel better about how i what i was planning to gift.
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| Posted 8/12/16 10:01 PM |
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Re: another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
I like the idea of an alexa and ani bracelet which you can find around 25 for the one girl...
the one you know more go with like 75.
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| Posted 8/12/16 11:49 PM |
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Re: another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
Posted by KarenK122
Posted by MarathonKnitter
Posted by luvbuffet
How much were you planning to give one girl?
i was ballparking it at $100.
You were invited for the friends daughter so I would give her the $100 gift and get a token gift for the niece.
ITA!
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| Posted 8/13/16 12:46 AM |
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kn2011
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Re: another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
I would give what I was planning to my friends child, and a small gift for the other girl.
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| Posted 8/13/16 2:17 PM |
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Re: another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
Posted by kn2011
I would give what I was planning to my friends child, and a small gift for the other girl.
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| Posted 8/13/16 3:02 PM |
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Re: another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
Posted by KarenK122
Posted by MarathonKnitter
Posted by luvbuffet
How much were you planning to give one girl?
i was ballparking it at $100.
You were invited for the friends daughter so I would give her the $100 gift and get a token gift for the niece.
I would not get the other one anything.
You don't know her.
She doesent know you.
You were NOT invited to her party. You were invited to your friends party.
IMHO give your person the gift and the other one nothing. Either that or get an Alex and ani bracelet.
But you don't owe or are obligated to give the second girls anything. You were not invited to her party. And you should not be obligated because the parents wanted to save money.
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| Posted 8/13/16 11:00 PM |
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Re: another "how much to give" question... but slightly different
I don't think you need to give anything to the girl you don't know. She doesn't know you and didn't invite you. I would give $100 to your friend's daughter only.
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